Splitting up where to go from here.

balletshoes

Mojisola wrote: »

I read it that the child he wants to take with him isn't related to his current partner.

It is going to make the break-up worse if the siblings are separated but I couldn't leave my child with an ex-partner who wasn't related to him/her.

yes, I read it that the child the OP wants to take with him is his and his partner's child, the other child who lives with them is his partner's child.

He's 11, I also think the main issue here may be that the siblings won't want to be split up, and I can't imagine any court would enforce separating them.

Wilma33

The child is 11 and they have been together for 10 years. So it seems more likely that the child he wants to take with him is his from a previous relationship.

whitewing

Unless part of the reason they got together was the pregnancy which resulted in the 11 year old (says 10+ years for the relationship).

Time_for_a_life_change

Thankyou for all the replies,
I guess i did not make things very clear.
I would be having our child live with me, i would happily have her other child live with me as well but i don't think that would be happening, he is nearly 16 and in which case is coming close to being an adult.
As was also mention about the 3rd child she is a few years older and has moved out a few years ago.
I understand the people saying about not splitting up children and also a mother keeping the children which i generally agree with in most cases but our separation is mainly due to our different beliefs in how to live and bring up a child.

Mojisola

Time_for_a_life_change wrote: »

I would be having our child live with me

I understand the people saying about not splitting up children and also a mother keeping the children which i generally agree with in most cases but our separation is mainly due to our different beliefs in how to live and bring up a child.

Which of you has had the main care of the child?

Courts still tend to side with the mother when it comes to custody cases.

Treevo

Time_for_a_life_change wrote: »

Thankyou for all the replies,
I guess i did not make things very clear.
I would be having our child live with me, i would happily have her other child live with me as well but i don't think that would be happening, he is nearly 16 and in which case is coming close to being an adult.
As was also mention about the 3rd child she is a few years older and has moved out a few years ago.
I understand the people saying about not splitting up children and also a mother keeping the children which i generally agree with in most cases but our separation is mainly due to our different beliefs in how to live and bring up a child.

Your child is at an age where he has a say about where to live. It's not automatic. What does your child want to do?

Time_for_a_life_change

Thanks again for the replies.
I have been a stay at home parent for a few years, this came around after we had a split up a few years ago over the same problems back then and they have not changed and it is now time for all off us to sort our lives out for the best of everyone.
He was going to stay with me before and there is no change, this was previously agree before although not on an official basis.

Mojisola

Time_for_a_life_change wrote: »

I have been a stay at home parent for a few years, this came around after we had a split up a few years ago over the same problems back then and they have not changed and it is now time for all off us to sort our lives out for the best of everyone.
He was going to stay with me before and there is no change, this was previously agree before although not on an official basis.

As you have been the PWC, you should have a good case for him coming with you but it would be worth getting it formalised. People can say all sorts of thing before the actual breakup and then change their minds - particularly when benefits go to the parent who has care of the child.