Help I cant stop eating.

Person_one

I think you might need to try another meeting. You should leave your WW class feeling inspired and motivated and determined to lose that week. Maybe another leader could be the catalyst to kick start things again?

Maybe even cross over to the dark side and try Slimming World just to have a change, 11 years is a very long time to be counting points!

CustardAndPickles

*Vikki* wrote: »

Yeah bored, happy, sad whenever I eat.

As someone who has an "interesting" relationship with food, you sound a lot like me.
I haven't done WW, but do your meetings ever look at the motivations behind your eating, or is it just counting points? You've reached goal twice, but then put the weight back on, so it suggests that you've not worked out what causes you to eat more than you need.

If you're eating when you're happy, sad, bored, that suggests you've linked emotions and eating.
I'm sad - some food will make it better.
I'm happy - some food will make me even happier!
I'm bored, what can I do - I know, I'll have some food!

If that's you, you need to realise that it's not true. Food won't make the sad go away, it will distract you for a little while but you'll feel worse afterwards, and whatever it was you were sad about will still be there.

Food won't make you any happier, either, try to learn to enjoy being happy without having to "celebrate" it with food.

Making food and eating it does give you something to do with your hands...why not look to take up something else? I have knitted SO much stuff - it's difficult to knit and eat and it means I'm doing something with my hands. I knit pretty simply stuff which means I don't get annoyed when it goes wrong and I can see the knitting grow, so I get a feeling of accomplishment too, which makes me feel good too.

Is your lovely new man able to help you much with this?

kafkathecat

Hi, I used to be hungry all the time, even when full iykwim and thought I had an emotional relationship with food but it turned out that I just needed to cut out carbs. For me it is all about insulin. When I eat carbs I produce too much which makes me crave sugar. Low carb isn't right for everyone but I can honestly say over a year later that it has changed my life. My health has improved and I no longer suffer mood swings caused by my poor sugar metabolism. Losing weight was just an added bonus.

Debrac

Are you doing any form of exercise? For me, that's the key to losing weight. I'm in my mid 40's and find that dieting just isn't enough for me to lose weight now - I have to use a two pronged attack so have invested in an exercise bike which I use for at least an hour every day. I too have been dieting since I was 16 (30 years on and off) :eek: so know how it feels when it's a constant battle.

JoolzS

*Vikki* wrote: »

I have my ww meeting tonight, I always stay. Im 27 and have been going since 16. Got to goal two times before. This time it seems so much harder The amount of money ive paid to ww over the years I darent not add it up I just got on my own scales and looks like ive put on another albs this week. I am now 12 stone 13. I am 5ft 6.

I have no advice about losing weight, but I do think that ww is doing you no favours. My mum has been "on a diet" for over 50 years and her weight fluctuates by about three or four stone. I stopped "dieting" about 20 years ago and my weight only fluctuates by about seven pounds. I'm not thin - I'm 5'2" and weigh between 9 and a half stone and 10 stone on any given day (size 12/14/16 depending on which shop I buy clothes) . I have stayed at this weight because I stopped worrying about being thinner and just ate what I wanted. At one point I did get to 11 stone (due to illness), but I didn't beat myself up over it and the extra stone dropped away without my noticing it. I know I look better when I weigh 9 stone or less, but I also know that every time I've dieted down to that weight in the past I've then regained what I lost, plus another few pounds! I think my body is fairly happy at around a stone or so over "ideal weight".

If you've been in ww for your entire adult life I wonder if you have ever learnt how your own body feels, or how to actually enjoy food. My mum (who has always been on the eternal diet) doesn't understand how I can leave two chips on my plate. I don't quite understand why someone can't - I don't leave the chips because I should - I leave them because I've eaten enough.

For me, dieting means spending an awful lot of time hungry and/or obsessing about the next meal. The last time I regained all the weight I had lost from the previous diet I basically said s*d that and started enjoying food again.

oopsadaisydoddle

I have posted a longer reply in my thread but first of all I would say ditch WW.

I think you are proof that it just doesn't work. Yes, it might short term but think about how many people you actually know that have gone to a diet club and kept the weight off successfully?!! I think they estimate it at a 5% success rate, long term. Don't get me wrong, there are a small minority who it works for but no matter which way you look at any of the 'diets' out there, they're all restrictive in some way.

I would advise with the money you would spend on your next meeting reading, 'escape the diet trap' by Dr John Briffa or 'why we get fat and what we can do about it' by Gary Taubes. These books both advocate low carbing and I appreciate that you may not end up going down this root however they both contain scientific (not too technical though lol) info on why the so called 'healthy things' you eat could be the very things causing your problems. I found a lot of things fell into place after reading them. I no longer beat myself up thinking it's my fault for beig weak and a failure and it is a complete revelation!

Good luck and keep in touch!x

seven-day-weekend

JoolzS wrote: »

I have no advice about losing weight, but I do think that ww is doing you no favours. My mum has been "on a diet" for over 50 years and her weight fluctuates by about three or four stone. I stopped "dieting" about 20 years ago and my weight only fluctuates by about seven pounds. I'm not thin - I'm 5'2" and weigh between 9 and a half stone and 10 stone on any given day (size 12/14/16 depending on which shop I buy clothes) . I have stayed at this weight because I stopped worrying about being thinner and just ate what I wanted. At one point I did get to 11 stone (due to illness), but I didn't beat myself up over it and the extra stone dropped away without my noticing it. I know I look better when I weigh 9 stone or less, but I also know that every time I've dieted down to that weight in the past I've then regained what I lost, plus another few pounds! I think my body is fairly happy at around a stone or so over "ideal weight".

If you've been in ww for your entire adult life I wonder if you have ever learnt how your own body feels, or how to actually enjoy food. My mum (who has always been on the eternal diet) doesn't understand how I can leave two chips on my plate. I don't quite understand why someone can't - I don't leave the chips because I should - I leave them because I've eaten enough.

For me, dieting means spending an awful lot of time hungry and/or obsessing about the next meal. The last time I regained all the weight I had lost from the previous diet I basically said s*d that and started enjoying food again.

If I ate what I wanted I would weigh eighteen stone. This is why the OP is asking for advice - she can't stop eating. Some of us can still eat even when we are full or not hungry. If it was a matter of just stopping eating we would not be overweight now. I could not leave two chips on the plate either. Some of us need the structure and discipline of something like WW, like some alcoholics need the structure and support of AA.

I appreciate that your way works for you but believe me, it would not work for me and I don't think it would work for the OP either.

Jennifer_Jane

My downfall is going to the supermarket, where I will generally find a little sweet something that "shouldn't hurt". Well, it does. I now buy large quantities of milk at a time so that I don't need to go into a supermarket very often.

When I do go into the supermarket, I tell myself that the cheesecake (and I do mean a whole cheesecake, all to myself) is an expensive folly: I tell myself it will taste disappointing, and I'd rather save the money. Think of it from taste (disappointing); finance (MSE); and health (even if my vanity doesn't come into force, if you think of sugar as a poison destroying health and teeth, that may help).

I have an exceptionally thin sister. Her tip is not to bring anything bad for her into the house (so that's milk, but I love milky coffee etc; butter, bread and so on) unless she's got guests. But I've seen her wolfing down cheesecake and having seconds of everything when she goes out! It also staggered me that when she's in a supermarket she does "window shop" the cheesecakes (yes, I'm obsessed!), but manages to walk away - that is when you need a very strong talk with yourself.

Currently trying to lose weight before a holiday next week. I weigh daily, and the small pack of chocolate drops bought in Aldi yesterday has made me put on .2 kg. I'm very unhappy that I bought them now.

ca55ie

Reading these posts is like reading about my relationship with food. I was brought up in an environment where food was used as a replacement to emotion eg fall over - have a sweet to make it better, been good - have a sweet to acknowledge it, upset - have a biscuit to take your mind off it....

Consequently my relationship with healthy eating is always sabotaged when I get upset etc Even in my 50's my reaction to emotion is my best friend chocolate and yes it (or rather the effects of it on my brain) are addictive.:(
Anyhow, trying once again(since Monday) to control the habit. I spent a couple of hours yesterday prowling round the house and garage trying to remember if I had a hidden stash of goodies anywhere.
Answer was no - so thats 2 days and no sweeties!!:T

Looking at all the posts on this forum I suspect there is no magic formula. I guess the answer is willpower and whether its diet clubs, cold turkey, exercise ..... that help you bolster your willpower you have to use what works for you.

Best wishes and good luck to everyone here

heartbreak_star

Jennifer_Jane wrote: »

Currently trying to lose weight before a holiday next week. I weigh daily, and the small pack of chocolate drops bought in Aldi yesterday has made me put on .2 kg. I'm very unhappy that I bought them now.

...really? Weighing daily is something you should never do. How do you know it's the chocolate? It could be anything. 0.2kg? That's less than half a pound. Our bodies can fluctuate in weight by up to 2.2lbs daily. All you're doing is depressing yourself.

I found I lost weight and feel fuller by cutting out bread and pasta and switching to brown rice. I still eat potatoes but nowhere near so often, and make myself vegetable soups (sometimes with a bit of meat in).

HBS x