How Would You Feel Revisiting The Past?

Funky_Bold_Ribena

I'm totally with you on that - I drove down the road of the first house I bought, where my ex decided to batter me, and nearly threw up. I couldn't date someone living in the same area let along the same road.

Memory is amazing, isn't it? It's how we learn. So you would have to unlearn an awful lot to be able to continue this. It is possible, and would probably be the best thing all round - so you might have to go see someone to work through the remaining issues.

duchy

The house is just that - a house-an object, a "thing".

You can choose to view it as a symbol of your past relationship and your unhappy memories OR you can take the view that it is just bricks and what counts is the people who live there (now).

It's not a home -it's a house -BIG difference.

Toto

Do you think that the feelings you are having are more to do with the potential of getting into a new relationship? Sometimes we find something to worry about which masks the real issue, it's easier to focus on a house than it is to deal with the abuse issues. I would get counselling before you try to think of a new relationship.

I hope it all works out for you and you can move on x

[Deleted User]

Hi, I have moved on and have had boyfriends since. Its not about not being able to moving on, its above having moved on and then out of the blue a million to one thing happens like this. Im feeling a lot more positive about it now. Yes it is only a house, bricks and mortar but that doesn't change what happened. This guy does live near the house, he rents one two doors away and lives just around the corner. I think it was probably the shock of speaking to him when he said where he lived. Had the area bought happier memories it wouldn't have worried me. But I went through a lot at that time. Im thinking of taking a drive up there myself. I think ile end this thread now as I know what I should do.