teenage son no longer wants to come away with me

thegirlintheattic

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At that sort of age a family holiday with younger siblings and grandparents would not be high on a boy's list of things to do in the Summer holidays.

Some teenagers should be grateful for what they are given.

needaholiday

Took my son to Portugal when he was fourteen and he was very bored. Forced him come to Ibiza the following year (Puerto San Miguel) and he had a ball and has come every year since (except last year as it clashed with his lads holiday to Magaluf). He is nagging to come with us again this year and he is now 20!

poet123

For two weeks, at this stage, if he was mine he would have to grin and bear it.

zaksmum

poet123 wrote: »

For two weeks, at this stage, if he was mine he would have to grin and bear it.

Then he'd be a pain in the butt the whole time and spoil the holiday for everyone else.

Bob_the_Saver

zaksmum wrote: »

Then he'd be a pain in the butt the whole time and spoil the holiday for everyone else.

Only if you undid the chains

Dunroamin

How old is he?

poet123

zaksmum wrote: »

Then he'd be a pain in the butt the whole time and spoil the holiday for everyone else.

Mine wouldn't have behaved that way in front of their grandparent who had been good enough to pay for a family holiday.

peachyprice

Mine are 18 and have been on every family holiday with us. Not once have we had bored stroppy teenagers, they wouldn't dream of spoiling a family holiday, although we always make sure we go somewhere that appeals to all. Last year it was me, my mum, my 18yo boys and my 10yo daughter, they had a great time and wouldn't have even considered not coming.

I guess they're grateful for good family holidays. We don't spend as much time together throughout the year as we all lead busy lives, it's a good time to spend relaxing quality time together.

If teenagers are throwing strops because they're bored spending time with family the ungrateful sods don't deserve to go in the first place.

elisebutt65

I've stopped taking my eldest DS (18 now) as he slept through Barcelona & Rhodes. I just left him to it and we just enjoyed ourselves without him. He's old enough & working now so he can take himself away if he wants.

Ds2 keeps nagging for a break, but I'm still on chemo so he'll have to wait until October. He's going to his dads when I go to Greece with my oh in August as I need a break from illness, work & childcare.

zaksmum

poet123 wrote: »

Mine wouldn't have behaved that way in front of their grandparent who had been good enough to pay for a family holiday.

It's not about openly bad behaviour with teens who just don't want to be there with you. It's just looking miserable as sin, shrugging when asked if they're ok, exuding boredom...that sort of thing.

Where my own kids were concerned, I was quite relieved when the time came that they didn't want to be with us any more on holiday.

We could just do what WE wanted for the first time in our married life instead of trying to motivate bored kids who refuse point blank to even LOOK as if they might be enjoying themselves:)