Every Little Inspirational Thought Evokes (Savings)

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Chimerical wrote: »

silvercar - Because he shouldn't have to "appease those that objected". This is squills hour of need and the thread should have supported him in the manner he uses to deal with the issues he faces. Whereas it seems that he can only have support if he asks for sympathy in the way that others have done.


This is squills time, anyone further away from squills' MIL than squills has to allow squills to express his worry/ frustration/ anxiety in the way that he chooses. Only those nearer to the centre eg Squills' DW can object to what squills is saying.

fairclaire - I applaud you silvercar and totally agree with you. Although it may be unpopular. I have explained to a close friend tonight why I was upset at Squillion's treatment. My child is a mini squillion. Sees death, illness etc in a very rational way. You are born, you live, you might get Ill, you die. He is completely unable to associate emotions to those things......I very much suspect squillion has this exact problem, for the very same reasons my son does. And in total fairness to squills, he has admitted that he might be on the autistic spectrum somewhere. Very sad



I am was so heartened to read these - I hope that Squills does get to see that there is support here

Morning. I was to about to say that my post (i.e. the one you're currently now reading) - now the ending of this one - was only the second post this morning to relate to purchases from shops and money-saving. Seems nearly everyone else is just having pointless social conversation (small laugh, not a roll-around).

Chimerical, your post above is the exception and it raises very important points.

It ends "Very sad".

Not necessarily very sad, as autism includes a wide range of disabilities and different degrees of them - clearly at one end, there are those that don't/can't speak at all, have severe learning disability and suffer excruciating sensory over-perceptions and seizures and/or stimming. And that they have those problems is, indeed, very sad. Nonetheless, the spectrum also includes those, like me, who have just enough a bit of autism to have an ability to do things thoroughly and properly, to achieve a high level of concentrated effort and excellent memory skills (albeit sometimes related to a specific topic - but topics which can change from time to time depending on what interests). At the same time as having not enough autism to have learning disabilities, although having some spoken communication difficulties, inability to detect body language and lack of intuition in many areas of social living/survival skills.

I have had to learn them, just the same way as reading an academic book (I don't much go for fiction, unless the scenario happens to coincide with one of my 'specialist interests' of the moment) and don't always retain the information in those areas very well. In addition, I did go through a long period of very unsettling uncertainty about ten to five years ago, a lot of water is now under the bridge, but it has certainly not made me immune to being affected by it, and on top of that I also lost my mother to a terminal illness.

Although having read your post, it sort of adds more to my (up to now less strong) thought that perhaps I'd coped better with that due to some part of me taking up the rational approach - although it certainly did - and to some extent occasionally still does - affect me in ways where emotion does take over and it can't be stopped by anything else.

I did have a 'rational look' present in the background during my bereavement though and, thinking about it now (rationally once again), I now believe it also helped me to support others of my family at the time. As regards seeing death and illness in a rational way, ability to do that is one thing. It's all well and good having that ability, but you need to have that at the same time as being able to recognise the effect of what you are saying on other people's feelings.

[[[Fortunately for me I was all too aware of that - although bizarrely it partly arose from an obsessional special interest at the time about how people were so much failing to appreciate my feelings so often - and me being 'rule-bound' - how so often the people setting the rules in that area fail to comply with them themselves - and, not only that, I originally wrote "fail grossly to comply..." - itself showing how much it was obsessing me to the point of me being deeply annoyed, and emotionally affected as a result, by it. It was actually quite unacceptable behaviour by others, I felt.

Now, I feel they probably more so weren't aware of how things were affecting me or that I might having that because of some sensory perception difficulty - or over-stimulation therefrom - associated with my Asperger syndrome. It's not helped by the fact it's difficult for me to speak up when things are affecting me, that they can't subconciously get any body language signals from me to tell them - and that I can't see their body language and, more so from the lack of subconcious signals, they inadvertently ignore me. I am also not helped because I am unable to detect the right moment to interrupt (inevitably a small-talk social conversation between everyone else) as the communication (that they are (apparently!) making) of social cues does not reach me and I have to wait for everyone to stop, as I don't get any non-verbal signals.

If I do speak during their talking, they react in a very annoyed way, as I have just interrupted at the wrong moment, when in fact I didn't intend to interrupt in a rude way at all but simply do not receive any cue information - what am I to do - wait for many minutes for everyone to stop talking completely and then say something (well past the moment) or try to get a word in edgeways but be left waiting, instead, in stressed annoyance at being unable to do so and them all ignoring me or my attempt to tell them what's bothered me.

Now I know what the problem is, I feel quite happy to have autism - to have just the 'right' amount of autism that gives me improved skills compared to most people whilst not having too much autism to give me learning disabilities, inability to speak and physical symptoms. Indeed, my problem is sometimes I speak too much!! But I digress... The 'problem' (referred to at the start of this paragraph, if it may be a "problem") is Asperger's, however I have problems from that (described above, e.g. the interruption problem to tell others you are, for example, upset - and the reasons why I think it happens) but then again everyone has their own problems from time to time whether they have Asperger's or autism or not.

I couldn't imagine what it would be like to not know the things I do, e.g. my specialist knowledge, and to have all sorts of indirect (or maybe direct?) perception of everyone else's body language around me, all simultaneously and subconciously, bombarding me and my sensory system (or rather the sensory system of someone I would be if I didn't have the widespread differences in my brain to many other people). I didn't realise just how different my brain is, until I starting reading more and more about it recently. I thought I was 'just like everyone else' but just didn't socialise too well.]]]

Back to the point about seeing death etc. rationally but whether or not recognising the effect on others of what you're saying.

Squills, if there is any way I can say something to help, please do let me know - as I'd be only too happy to discuss, perhaps in PMs??

Thanks. (And don't read this next bit if it may upset. Of course I have absolutely no clue what this all relates to but have just seen Chimerical's post. There's obviously a lot more to it than I understand - but please don't take this as me not being interested as I am more too willing to go and read the earlier parts of the thread and find out, to 'brush myself up' on the issue/s, almost in an academic research collection way, and to write to you about them - Squills please don't take it that I'm not interested in what's happened/not happened to you.) And others too, don't think I'm ignoring you and your concerns! (Quit now, I think, while I've explained..)

Lots of hugs everyone (albeit from the piece of wood that is me:rotfl::(:rotfl::rotfl::D).

Ok, to shopping topics.

:rotfl::rotfl:Lol - it seems I managed to pick two wombles that gave the best amounts yesterday (only about £3 and £2 respectively though) and they were from two different people whose shops were consecutive to each other on the same till! Thinking about the chances of me getting both of those, and for them both to be the worthwhile wombles, and probably picking them up from different areas on the car park!:D

zippydooda

frequent wrote: »

Sent four, 6 weeks ago.

Still waiting.

Thanks for trying out the coke last night.

looks like they take longer to be processed than to be used then:rotfl:

HopePray

fairclaire wrote: »

Good morning:)

not exactly sunny here but it is dry which is good. Housework done, uniforms ironed......I had completely missed the fact that it's half term next week :eek:

Off on the test fishing/shopping trip soon. The kids have happily agreed to come along, after I mentioned the M word.......McDonalds:D:rotfl::rotfl:

Have a good day all

And you, do you get to keep any fish you catch?
I love a Maccky Ds......................about once a year:rotfl:

frequent

zippydooda wrote: »

looks like they take longer to be processed than to be used then:rotfl:

Indeed :rotfl:

That viking offer was perfect.

3 ink

500 paper

Box of chocs

£25 worth of necci points ( aka free Cuban 7 year old rum )

scottishshortie

HopePray wrote: »

What area are you in Scottishshortie?
Aberdeenshire was terrible last night, stotting rain on the way there, pea souper on the way back. And away to do it all again today :cool:

I'm in Angus so not as far north as you still dull here but at least fog has lifted now

TrulyMadly

elsie1969 wrote: »

Morning folks.....

Don't think i'll have a chance to catch up the last 60 pages that i've missed since friday evening, but on a quick checkback I spotted this quote from TM ref my sainsbobs shop.

ASDA Strong & Absorbent Extra Long Kitchen Towels - 100 Sheets per Roll (2)
Yes, these are a great buy against sains just now, I usually buy them in my weekly A's shop anyway against S or T comparing about the £1.50-£1.60 mark usually, but to compare against £1 making them 90p just now is well worth stocking up.

Also, can someone help with this please? I have just looked at the lucoz carab/trop on msm. Says OOS for me at T''s for today, does this mean it won't compare? Anyone know the latest news on this as I was after some more so was going to pick some up today. On friday I looked but the shelf was empty..... and it wasn't caused by me as I only have 2 packs
Thanks in advance.

Elsie I would love to help but just don't know. Perhaps someone will post a shop soon:)

What time will the first shop be posted please?

TrulyMadly

Savvy, thank you for your post. It is very insightful and let's me glimpse into your world a little:) (please note the smiley body language:))

You sound a lot more comfortable " in your skin" than maybe previously and I am so pleased about that

Take care:)

Sarahdol75

Queenriderbrekke wrote: »

My daughter has just gone to run in the Race For Life, wish her luck!

Good luck to your daughter, such a fab day and for a fab cause, I am doing it also on the 29 June.

Thrifty_Sister

HopePray wrote: »

Do you have the WEQ4U app on your phone, it lets you call these pesky 08 numbers for free. I have saved a small fortune the past couple of months, ok ok £24, but thats a lot if added to your phone bill.:)

Thanks for this HnP - will check it out. Calmed down a bit now after almost 3 hours stuck trying to get problem sorted with blasted Sky.

Time for a coffee before some retail therapy.:)

David.

TrulyMadly wrote: »

David,
What clothes would our Dexter be wearing:)

A straight-jacket yet again he went missing in the woods :eek: