1 wk or 1 month notice to our lodger?

butler_helen

phill99 wrote: »

I had a lodger once that really p***ed me off. I gave her notice, threw her out and put all of her possessions in the front garden all on the same day. Was I bothered that she was homeless? Not in the slightest.

I would feel so guilty doing this, he's ok in every other way except he is making me afraid of using my own home incase it's gets dirty and annoys him.

However, this is very tempting!

Tenyearstogo

I thin you have more problems with your partner than the lodger.

Why isn't he helping you with the chores? What does your lodgers contract say about vacuuming the stairs or washing the bath mat?

When the lodger complains about the dust, why not say that you're pregnant and finding these things difficult?

katejo

I would always give a month unless it were exceptional to give the lodger time to find somewhere to live. Has your lodger ever helped with cleaning ? I had a previous lodger who wanted me to employ a cleaner! She only stayed 2 months

butler_helen

Tenyearstogo wrote: »

I thin you have more problems with your partner than the lodger.

Why isn't he helping you with the chores? What does your lodgers contract say about vacuuming the stairs or washing the bath mat?

When the lodger complains about the dust, why not say that you're pregnant and finding these things difficult?

Alas I do. He knows I'm finding it hard - they both do. It's a whole other thread trying to get them to clean!

There's nothing in his contract. Just that he pays rent each month on the 1st and deposit is £350. It was agreed when he moved in that we all shared the cleaning.

We shall work it out... Believe me I'm missed already... After all only I know where the toilet roll is

butler_helen

katejo wrote: »

I would always give a month unless it were exceptional to give the lodger time to find somewhere to live. Has your lodger ever helped with cleaning ? I had a previous lodger who wanted me to employ a cleaner! She only stayed 2 months

Nope... He has done the bathroom once. I have directly asked and he doesn't do anything. To be fair nor does my partner but he doesn't moan! I do things in my own time... If you want more... Do it yourself.

Such is the benefit of a lodger - we can make him move out! Yipee

ValHaller

butler_helen wrote: »

.... So I decided I would leave (literally upped and left), with a note to say I will return once the lodger has gone. My partner seems to really want him to stay... But then he isn't the cleaning/washing fairy so he doesn't see the problem in the lodgers constant digs at the house. E.g "there's no bathmat"... I removed it because knowone but me was washing it! "The stairs are dusty"... Well we all use them so hoover? I do it bi-weekly... He does it never.

The bathmat thing is a response on your part which I would class as 'passive-aggressive'. You are communicating with your partner and your lodger in a way which is bound to be misunderstood and almost certain to produce bad outcomes.

Similarly, you have a problem with your lodger, you consult here, you write a letter and you then consult your partner. Who then puts a stop to kicking out the lodger, And you clear off out of it.

You should be starting by consulting with your partner, Probably starting by deciding whether you need a lodger. And if you do, then deciding whether this lodger is the right one. The message to your partner has to be, OK, we need a lodger, but I am not happy with this one.

As for the lodger cleaning, well forget that idea, lodgers do not clean anything communal. They just clean up after their own cooking activities.

braun_2

Tell him you are not his mother, if he wants something cleaning he will have to do it himself.

Have you thought about raising his rent and hiring a cleaner to come around for an hour twice a week?

I certainly would not give him only a weeks notice (unless he was aggressive or offensive etc.) If someone gave me a weeks notice It would be incredibly difficult to find another place. It could take a few days just to find a room, get in contact with a LL and view it.

purt

ValHaller wrote: »

As for the lodger cleaning, well forget that idea, lodgers do not clean anything communal. They just clean up after their own cooking activities.

Hmm... I lodged with a family for a while and I chipped in on the cleaning duties, even though we had a cleaner and I wasn't expected to. It's common courtesy - you're a guest in someone's house and should behave as such. Not go around making prissy demands, or treating the house as though it's your own. It isn't. You merely pay for the privilege of living there.

butler_helen

ValHaller wrote: »

The bathmat thing is a response on your part which I would class as 'passive-aggressive'. You are communicating with your partner and your lodger in a way which is bound to be misunderstood and almost certain to produce bad outcomes.

Similarly, you have a problem with your lodger, you consult here, you write a letter and you then consult your partner. Who then puts a stop to kicking out the lodger, And you clear off out of it.

You should be starting by consulting with your partner, Probably starting by deciding whether you need a lodger. And if you do, then deciding whether this lodger is the right one. The message to your partner has to be, OK, we need a lodger, but I am not happy with this one.

As for the lodger cleaning, well forget that idea, lodgers do not clean anything communal. They just clean up after their own cooking activities.

All fair points

As I'm expecting too much (cleaning wise) he has to go, a lodger clearly isn't for me/us. He pays below market rent so I expect he will need to get some cash together, therefore anything less than 4wks notice doesn't seem fair... As much as I'd like to!