Children that are allowed to eat/graze constantly?

onlyroz

notanewuser wrote: »

Or what....?

If a child specifically asks for something, or is offered something which they then accept, then I think an appropriate sanction should be imposed if the child doesn't make a decent effort at eating it.

notanewuser

onlyroz wrote: »

If a child specifically asks for something, or is offered something which they then accept, then I think an appropriate sanction should be imposed if the child doesn't make a decent effort at eating it.

Such as?

Who said she didn't eat any of it? What constitutes a "decent effort"?

mumps

adouglasmhor wrote: »

Yet she says she wants something then doesn’t want it after all, resulting in waste and her being the controlling one in the relationship. I look forward to hearing how this works out for you both in the future.

Well I can fastforward for you and notanewuser. Mine were brought up the same as her little girl. Three are graduates, one has post grad qualification and one studying post grad now, youngest doing a degree now. Three firsts, hope the youngest does as well. The three who are working are all doing well, the youngest worked hard in his gap year and works in holidays now. No debt and money in the bank so he is doing OK. None of them have been in trouble with the Police, ever been on benefits or messed about with drugs. We are a close family, the two youngest argue about who is going to look after me when I am old, the older two don't accept that I will ever need looking after. None of them have any issues with food, good appetites and healthy diets. Hope that helps.

adouglasmhor

4 kids through further education and no debts? How does that happen?

mumps

adouglasmhor wrote: »

4 kids through further education and no debts? How does that happen?

Two eldest went before tuition fees, worked all through uni and small amount of help from us. Youngest at uni now, on NHS bursary and NHS also pay his fees, works in holidays and has savings from gap year. The third we paid fees to make equal with the other three and she worked all through uni and employers are paying for her masters. The eldest also did post grad paid by employers.

None of them were eligible for grants. Third one lived mostly on earnings and borrowed fees and part of maintenance loan but the money we saved covered the maintenance and most of the fees. So I suppose you can say technically out of the four one of them does owe a couple of grand for fees but she has already saved that from first year's income so could pay it off now. In all for the four of them we have probably contributed about £12k most of that to child number 3.

Our income only just over level for grant, well it was when child 3 went, if our income had been a couple of grand less she would have got some grant and a uni bursary so we would have been better off if I had reduced my hours at work but that wasn't really possible.

mummyroysof3

I think under 5s and overs should be treated differently in regards to meals and snacks. Smaller tummies can hold less and need little and often but when they bigger they are more able to eat 3 bigger meals and possibly 1 fruit portion or snack I between.

adouglasmhor

mumps wrote: »

Two eldest went before tuition fees, worked all through uni and small amount of help from us. Youngest at uni now, on NHS bursary and NHS also pay his fees, works in holidays and has savings from gap year. The third we paid fees to make equal with the other three and she worked all through uni and employers are paying for her masters. The eldest also did post grad paid by employers.

None of them were eligible for grants. Third one lived mostly on earnings and borrowed fees and part of maintenance loan but the money we saved covered the maintenance and most of the fees. So I suppose you can say technically out of the four one of them does owe a couple of grand for fees but she has already saved that from first year's income so could pay it off now. In all for the four of them we have probably contributed about £12k most of that to child number 3.

Our income only just over level for grant, well it was when child 3 went, if our income had been a couple of grand less she would have got some grant and a uni bursary so we would have been better off if I had reduced my hours at work but that wasn't really possible.

Congratulations, you are justified in your pride in them. Lovely to hear of a family where they all worked for and got success.

sharnad

notanewuser wrote: »

I couldn't disagree with that practice more.

its the worst thing you can do. Can totally turn you off food as well as make you dislike the person who is doing it to you

adouglasmhor

notanewuser wrote: »

I couldn't disagree with that practice more.

That's why I didn't do that to my own kids, I reasoned with them and it worked.

MarilynMonroe_2

notanewuser wrote: »

I'm 35.

You're telling me that as a 20 month old toddler (as pigpen has) you were regimented to 3 meals a day and nothing else?

Of course! It would be unheard of to do otherwise.
But if I wanted something inbetween it would have been an apple or orange, no grapes or packets of kiddy aimed crisps or biscuits or anything like now.
eta: my mam used to have each meal planned in advance stuck on the wall each week, when i was a baby mine was what everyone else had but mashed up/puried, no blw back then! Food wasnt as plentiful or affordeable as it is now so its how ordinary people did things.... but things changed alot when my brother and sister left home and my dad would go to sea and it was just me and my mam and then i got fat lol.