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fluffnutter

OK. I've found the other thread, which links to another thread. Basically the OP's son's front tooth snapped off during an incident in PE. They were originally told that the treatment wasn't available on the NHS but with the help of some MSE responses (original thread from 2008) NHS treatment was found. It was likely that further treatment may be necessary at a cost when the OP's son was 20/21, i.e. no longer a child. One assumes that the work is mainly cosmetic for the NHS to have initially refused treatment, although this is my speculation.

OP is chasing some sort of settlement to pay for these further costs although it's not clear what these will be because child has not reached 20/21 yet.

OP's son has clearly completely forgotten what happened 5 years ago, hence the need to 'revisit' this. Tooth probably looks absolutely fine but OP is hanging on for a bit of cash.

Nothing to see here folks. Just another money-grabbing parent trying to make a bit of wedge out of a normal childhood mishap. The tooth wasn't even knocked out, !!!!!!.

fluffnutter

mrcow wrote: »

From the OPs other thread, they said that the claim was about £20k, so I would think surely it's more than simply a broken tooth? Don't be quick to judge.

That's how it was described by the OP. Claims are often grossly inflated so that every tom, !!!!!! and harry can get their slice of the pie too. That's how the insurance industry works after all...

Upsidedown_Bear

cheepskate wrote: »

OP...I would be careful of what you wish for.

your child has recovered greatly by the sounds of it, but to get more money( I assume) You want to bring up all the momories that he probably has worked hard to put behind him.

Agree with this especially as he suffered post traumatic stress and had a long course of CBT.

xxdeebeexx wrote: »

Thank you!

orthodontic treatment is starting on Monday and will cost a total of £2,500 ....
intermediate dental treatment will start in 9 -12 months time and will cost £1,750

Some money has already been 'released' so that we can get started

The dentist that will be doing the intermediate treatment is also working out the costs for future treatment and including inflation.

She mentioned Special damages ????
Global figure ??
and other words

She said that we will have to go to court (I think it's because DS1 is a child)

There is also the matter that DS1 was diagnosed with post traumatic stress and under went a long course of CBT

I haven't got a clear picture yet of what will happen or what I should be claiming for.

Thanks for the help

dx

pigpen

mrcow wrote: »

From the OPs other thread, they said that the claim was about £20k, so I would think surely it's more than simply a broken tooth? Don't be quick to judge.

That is all the OP said it was.. 3 of my siblings have broken front teeth too... 2 on steps and one kissing the footpath when he fell off his bike.. it is called real life.. stuff happens, you deal with it and if the OP needs to assist her son 'get his story straight before tomorrow it can't be that traumatising. I have stuff in my past which is traumatising and I remember it like it was yesterday no reminders necessary!

fluffnutter

Upsidedown_Bear wrote: »

Agree with this especially as he suffered post traumatic stress and had a long course of CBT.

CBT for a cracked front tooth?? God help him when his first girlfriend dumps him. He's going to be in bits

Molly41

Anything traumatic to the person can trigger anxiety. Anxiety gathers momentum and becomes an insidious and evil bedfellow.

My youngest son is currently unable to leave the house due to anxiety issues that developed when he hurt his hip 4 years ago in a biking accident. His CBT therapist stated that she wished she had seen him much earlier as once it has taken a hold it is difficult to break down - especially in youngsters.

So hold fire on the criticisms of CBT Fluff nutter as I wish I had been more aware earlier and my 16 year old son would now be able to leave the the security of his home and not wish his life away. I can quite understand how CBT and counselling might have been called for.

pigpen

Molly41 wrote: »

Anything traumatic to the person can trigger anxiety. Anxiety gathers momentum and becomes an insidious and evil bedfellow.

My youngest son is currently unable to leave the house due to anxiety issues that developed when he hurt his hip 4 years ago in a biking accident. His CBT therapist stated that she wished she had seen him much earlier as once it has taken a hold it is difficult to break down - especially in youngsters.

So hold fire on the criticisms of CBT Fluffy as I wish I had been more aware earlier and my 16 year old son would now be able to leave the the security of his home and not wish his life away. I can quite understand how CBT and counselling might have been called for.

But does he remember the incident which has had such a massive impact on his life?

Molly41

Yes he does but it is not the cause of his anxiety today but a catalyst.

He initially became anxious because of the pain and did not want kids jostling him. That then became more generalised and now he is just frightened of going out - full stop. If we had tackled the anxiety at the beginning it could have been a different story.

fluffnutter

Molly41 wrote: »

Anything traumatic to the person can trigger anxiety. Anxiety gathers momentum and becomes an insidious and evil bedfellow.

My youngest son is currently unable to leave the house due to anxiety issues that developed when he hurt his hip 4 years ago in a biking accident. His CBT therapist stated that she wished she had seen him much earlier as once it has taken a hold it is difficult to break down - especially in youngsters.

So hold fire on the criticisms of CBT Fluff nutter as I wish I had been more aware earlier and my 16 year old son would now be able to leave the the security of his home and not wish his life away. I can quite understand how CBT and counselling might have been called for.

I've had CBT myself so I'm the last person to criticise it. It's a life saver frankly. My comments aren't about the efficacy of CBT as a treatment, rather they're about whether it should have been needed in the first place.

What concerns me in this situation is mum's desire to make some money out of the situation. Accidents are a fact of life for children, and he won't be the first, nor the last, to lose a tooth. Instead of indulging his sensitivities I think it would have been more helpful to encourage him to put the event into some sort of perspective, something that I'm speculating didn't happen here. Indeed, it would have been far more useful for mum to 'big up the trauma' because that way they might get more money...

I might be being overly cynical but nothing in the three threads about this makes me think otherwise.

Rest assured, my comments are unique to this situation and not about CBT, or indeed anxiety, per se.

claire16c

My friend lost half her front tooth falling on slide steps when we were about 8 & had a ton of rework. She remembers it like it was yesterday. Same with anyone you talk to who had an accident like that.

If the bit was so traumatised how can he not remember anything? Plus even if he wasn't that upset by it how can he not remember something that only happened 5 years ago? Maybe the time would be better spent looking at his memory.