Finding my deceased brothers daughter

Flugelhorn

agree that getting the marriage cert from the GRO is the best bet - they are annual now I think (as someone else said) and are reasonably up to date compared with ancestry etc. from that you will have the new surname - doubt if they will have changed the first names of the child at that stage - very confusing for the kid. Think you will have to keep the money in trust and try searching for the kid later? (also can the money be kept a bit longer than 18?? eg 23 or 25? - just thinking of discovering that you have access to an inheritance at 18 + all the anxst with mother who never let you know + possible distress over not seeing the father's family - might mean the money is unwisely frittered away)

prem0132

Hi

Due to all your kind support and encouragement I spent today searching the Internet. I found her previous address listing on 192.com which listed her family members at the same address. I then slowly searched every person in the UK on Facebook with each name, then individually searched their friends hoping to find other family members matching the names and a possible match on the mums first name living in the right area.

Bingo it worked, I have just confirmed it with my brother photographs he left. Best of all her cover picture is of her children, it was like seeing my brother staring back at me.

I'm so happy I have her new name and know roughly where she is.
Best of all she looks happy and well cared for.

I'm going to bed happy in the knowledge I can hope fully occasionally check her mums Facebook page to see if she's ok and I now have her new name to trace her in the future. I will still email the medical info to her mum. But a huge weight has been lifted.

Thank you all so much, your responses may seem like a quick email/comment to you but this has eased a huge burden and helped me ease the pain for my family. :A xxxxx

gizmo111

Ms_Chocaholic wrote: »

Children's Social Care would not undertake a step parent adoption of a child who was not aware of her birth family. They couldn't do it "hush hush" without at least speaking to the child about her birth father.

The child was only a year old when he died.

I would contact social services in the area she lived at the time of adoption. They can keep the items on file for her and as she gets older if appropriate use the letter box system of passing things on.

Amanda65

How sad that you have lost your brother and your niece but how lovely that you are carrying out his wishes and hopefully one day she will know that her biological father cared.

whitewing

That's great that you've seen a recent photo. I wouldn't mention about facebook to the mum though, it may spook her.

grey_lady

Someone else already mentioned the salvation army - they are very good at tracing relatives but also at making the initial contact in a sensitive way - its worth bearing in mind.

gizmo111

grey_lady wrote: »

Someone else already mentioned the salvation army - they are very good at tracing relatives but also at making the initial contact in a sensitive way - its worth bearing in mind.

The child isonly 4 - they wont look just yet.