Depression II

westclok

Hey everyone,

bit scarred about posting this but i will give it a try...

Im 23 and have been suffering from depression/anxiety for most of my life. At the moment im taking paroxetine... i cant really tell if its working or not, been on it for about a month or so now.

Im probs at the lowest/anxious point in my life. My gf of 6 and a half years broke up with me a couple of days ago and since then ive been a mess. Ive been looking for work and was offered a job the day before she broke up with me but I have turned it down because I just dont feel like i could do the job properly.

I just feel alone and scared and I dont know what to do next in my life.

I had counciling when i was younger and i didnt respond very well to it. Because of this my doctor suggested i stick with the medicine. He suggested this before the break up and now i think it might help just giving me the opportunity to talk to someone. He said the last time that there is a 4 week waiting list which makes me feel scared of the fact i will have to deal with this alone.

Part of me thinks i should take the job to help get my mind off things but working also scares the hell out of me. In previous jobs when ive felt down I often sat at my desk making myself worse because the job was too demanding. Which makes me think it is unfare to take this job knowing that this could happen and letting down the people at my work.

Im going to see the doctor this afternoon but im not too sure what he is gonna say.

Karrie

Welcome Westclok

This is a great thread and you will get lots of advise.

Keep your chin up

geminilady

andipandi wrote: »

what is the nitty gritty in life?

Hi andi,not sure if this is a question or not anyway nitty gritty means getting down to the basics.

happysinglemum

Hi all,

I've been suffering from depression on and off for 5 years, since my marriage broke up. I've been on and off anti-depressants several times. The last time I had them prescribed was Nov last year, but I only took 3, as I was also drinking heavily at the time, and didn't want to put my health at risk (I have an 8 year old son). In the past 6 months, I've managed to cut back on drinking, and as of yesterday, I've started taking my tablets again. So... today is my first day of not drinking at all.

I'm finding the prospect daunting to say the least, as I've drunk alcohol pretty much every night (to a greater or lesser extent) for the past 4 years. Nobody else (my parents & counsellor included) sees my drinking as a problem. But it's always made me feel a failure that I couldn't give it up. So, I'm giving it up now.

Trouble is, I don't know what I'll do with myself, or how I'll cope with dealing with day to day stuff without the prospect of 'chilling out' after ds is in bed with a drink & a ciggie.

Sorry to ramble on, just feeling in a bit of a muddle today.

xx

dmg24

Hi everyone,

Having a horrid day, just found out I am going to fail my uni course because they won't let me complete the work from home (agoraphobia has kicked in big time), why won't people just meet me halfway sometimes?

Hope everyone is having a good day, sending lots of love x

happysinglemum

:beer:

dmg24 wrote: »

Hi everyone,

Having a horrid day, just found out I am going to fail my uni course because they won't let me complete the work from home (agoraphobia has kicked in big time), why won't people just meet me halfway sometimes?

Hope everyone is having a good day, sending lots of love x

Have you spoken to Student Support at uni - most (if not all) have a counselling service. They can actually help to fight your corner for you if you feel unable. I had a lot of help from a counsellor at uni, and was allowed extensions on essays, etc.

Also, a note from your GP, or anyone else (do you see a counsellor?), could strengthen your case.

HTH

xx

Edit: I know it's a bit late for extensions now, but 'Mitigating Circumstances' might still be an option.

ilovegreatdanes

hi all,
thank you so much for your welcome.it cheered me up today when i read all your posts.
have been clinically depressed for around 5 years ,give or take.strange thing, i always feel like its so hard to decipher if its the depression coming on bad again or just a really bad day.once you get it, it nevers seems to leave, it just seems to let up for a while.
was really vile yesday and could feel it getting worse and i seem to be fueling it with my bad mood.i do try to stay positive cos i think positive thinking helps me.feel abit surreal sometimes like im mrs sunshine or the grim reapers mother and theres no inbetween.
re the dmp,cant do the iva cos i own half the house and have a DS, so they would be after half the equity.you have to have at least £200ish to throw at the debts each month and i aint got nowhere near that!!!!all the creditors have to agree and the iva lasts 5 years and if you miss a single payment they can make you go bankrupt, then they go after your share of the eequity in year 4 to put towards the debt.so all the tv ads saying how easy it is are a bag of cr*p!!!
am taking prozac and just asked doc to increase the dose to 2x20mg daily and refer me to a cpn again, so wil let you know how it goes.
hope everyone is having as good a day as they can and will catch up ron.
regards, xx

dmg24

happysinglemum wrote: »

:beer:

Have you spoken to Student Support at uni - most (if not all) have a counselling service. They can actually help to fight your corner for you if you feel unable. I had a lot of help from a counsellor at uni, and was allowed extensions on essays, etc.

Also, a note from your GP, or anyone else (do you see a counsellor?), could strengthen your case.

HTH

xx

Edit: I know it's a bit late for extensions now, but 'Mitigating Circumstances' might still be an option.

Thanks for your message HSM,

Whilst I was actively attending, I was getting support from the Disability Support Officer, but now he is just not interested. He seems to think that because one tutor sent me some work (one week from the whole term!), that they are supporting me.

My GP is great, but he doesn't even know that I am ill at the moment. I have made appointments but always end up cancelling them, going to the docs means I have to see people!

I've just run out of fight at the moment, have gone into hibernation phase. If only someone would pay my bills in the meantime! x

I've tried the not drinking thing like you are, and it really is a tough one. Could you find things to distract you? I've just taken delivery of a load of books from the library, they keep me entertained when I would otherwise drink or take a sleeping tablet. I also find cross stitch a great distraction, you don't have time to do anything else with your hands.

I don't think you are a failure for drinking, you still manage to bring up your son, who I have no doubt thinks you are fantastic. I don't have children, but I look after my friend's children a lot, and I find time with them so rewarding. Their love is so uncomplicated, why can't it always be that way?! x

queensway_boy

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