Depression II

Tiff_2

Hi daisy!:hello:
Sorry I didn't get back to you yesterday hun but I had a few things to deal with - no excuse I know.;)
Firstly angel, I've been looking into the Tiff files and here are some links to websites that you may find helpful - but you may want to check out first before letting DD see them.;)
I say this because some of them can be quite graphic. I'm no professional hun and I can't vouch for these particular sites. If no luck with these, 'google' away with ''self harm in young people/ forums'' and see what you find daisy.;)

http://www.selfharm.org.uk/default.aspa

http://www.nch.org.uk/information/index.php?i=136

http://www.youngminds.org.uk/selfharm/

http://www.nshn.co.uk/resources.html

http://www.selfharm.org/
and also
http://www.selfharm.org/board/index.html
There's even help on a couple of boards for people who care for people who sh.

quote=daisy doughnut 2;
well im off shortley can not convince DD to come with me so im not going to push her any moreshe has gone off with my sis for tea out somewhere nice
I'm glad DD got a break from it all, daisy. She doesn't need this situation to be on her mind all day, every day. It's important for her to be able to still feel like a child bless her. What she needs now is to for her to feel that everything is as close to normal as possible. I don't mean handle her with kid gloves but just enough so that she can be distracted from it.

i never thought about getting her to write how she was feeling down thats a really good idea thanks hun
an its me that is on the seroxat not her
You're most welcome angel.;)
Yes, I knew you were on it but you said you hoped that DD didn't end up on it hun. I'm sure that children are not supposed to take it. But if it came to that point, I'd ask your dr for an alternative imho.
Of course they may not suggest any ads but as you probably know hun, there are so many to try as well as things like CBT.

i think she was really bemused at why i was at school but i had heard things over the course of the morning that made me very un nearve they were concerning the bullies i just didnt want her to feel scared in school on top of all the other emotions she cant understand she knows i see or rather saw a psycologist because of my shaky things as she has allways called them an we had a good chat about what exactly there job is an im sure she feels ok with the possibility of seeing one
See - I knew you were a survivor hun!;) You've handled it all well. As I said, the shock of it all was bound to have some effect on you daisy.

anotherthing i was wandering about is she uses the net alot an i know i have found good online support groups is there one for children where she can see she aint alone and she isnt going mad???DD x/quote
There are so many young people in this position angel. She's not going mad - Tiff says so!;) As I said I hope the above links may be of some help once you've checked them for yourself. Take care hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

quote=EthelBloggs;Thanks all of you :grouphug:
I do feel a bit better today, in my head anyway.. I think the body is too decrepit to care, lol. Last night was awful, cos I could feel the protein leaking into my joints and it was nasty :vomit: Most of the time I feel as tho I;m trying to walk over rocks, all bumpy and uneven and trying to make me trip up, if that makes sense? It sort of looks like that too, so sometimes it's hard to see where I'm going and work out where to put my feet :eek: Worst part of it is that I'm so used to walking everywhere, fekk knows what I'll do now, I can't afford cabs all the time but I can't walk far either :eek:
It takes me half an hour to get down the stairs to the kitchen to get a cuppa or anything and then I can't bloody carry it cos I'm too wobbly. When my son and b/f are home they're great, fetching and carrying for me and helping me with cooking and stuff but I feel like I'm taking advantage somehow
And it IS ugly, the swelling gets so bad that my fingerprints sort of disappear and I can't bend my joints cos the skin is stretched too tight. It all turns blue and purple too which is really attractive
There's no medication that can help.. apparently surgery is an option but it's not guaranteed to be successful and it's very invasive so I think I'll give that a miss. The bandage thingy isn't ready yet, the clinic called me up on monday to let me know that it will probably be next week sometime and that they are going to ask for the district nurse to visit me regularly too, not too sure what that's about soo.. we'll see
I've applied for DLA for myself.. gawd doesn't seem that long ago I applied for my daughter
Oh well.. keep plodding on I guess.. thanks again you all [/quote]


Hi ethel!:hello:
How are you doing today hun?
I'm sorry you're in so much pain angel.:o Are they referring you to the pain clinic or some stronger pain killers? Your gp can refer you there at your local hospital.
Imho hun, you are so entitled to DLA. Your mobility and care is severely affected from what you say.
If they turn you down (they are so funny about how people word their applications), please visit CAB and appeal angel. Don't worry - if you win an appeal it is ackdated usually to when you first applied.;)
Hun, it's no consolation I know, but when I said you're not looking ugly it was because me and everyone else on here knows how lovely you are where it counts - you've got a kind spirit hun and whatever support you need, we're all here for you I'm sure.:T :A
I hope that this illness becomes more bearable for you hun. It's amazing what we can adapt to - that's not belittling what you're going through sweetheart, but meant to give you some kind of comfort or hope. I hope it all slows down soon hun and levels out for you. Just want to know that I'm thinking of you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

rose07

Hi everyone hope your all ok

Just stopping by, been into the nearest village today. went to the bank. did the shopping, but forgot to get my meds :rolleyes: :eek: ,

Oh I also have a interview tomorrow for a job :eek: , dont think ive had an interview for ages, dunno what to do what to wear etc...I have been on the phone and Writing applications all week, I have another interview on tuesday :eek: , god knows what will happen lol. So any good luck vibes much appreciated , i dont know if now is the right time for me to work, but i need to keep busy and need to be around people, before i got too confined to home, so time for a challenge

Tonight im splitting up with my bf , not a decision that i took easily but we dont have that spark, and he dont treat me quite right. He is a lovely guy, we just not compatible. And its not fair on him to just stay with him for the sake of being with him and having someone there, thats just stringen him along and thats not fair on him either. I think we will still stay friends if he wants. Tho tbh i got no idea what to say, how to be or what to do tonight. Ah well im sure it will be ok.

I made my parents dinner last night, seemed to go well which was good, I made a lovely creamy bacon pasta, absolutely gorgeous lol.

Ok better go get ready for tonight :eek:

Take care everyone

xxx

EthelBloggs

Tiff wrote: »

quote=EthelBloggs;Thanks all of you :grouphug:
I do feel a bit better today, in my head anyway.. I think the body is too decrepit to care, lol. Last night was awful, cos I could feel the protein leaking into my joints and it was nasty :vomit: Most of the time I feel as tho I;m trying to walk over rocks, all bumpy and uneven and trying to make me trip up, if that makes sense? It sort of looks like that too, so sometimes it's hard to see where I'm going and work out where to put my feet :eek: Worst part of it is that I'm so used to walking everywhere, fekk knows what I'll do now, I can't afford cabs all the time but I can't walk far either :eek:
It takes me half an hour to get down the stairs to the kitchen to get a cuppa or anything and then I can't bloody carry it cos I'm too wobbly. When my son and b/f are home they're great, fetching and carrying for me and helping me with cooking and stuff but I feel like I'm taking advantage somehow
And it IS ugly, the swelling gets so bad that my fingerprints sort of disappear and I can't bend my joints cos the skin is stretched too tight. It all turns blue and purple too which is really attractive
There's no medication that can help.. apparently surgery is an option but it's not guaranteed to be successful and it's very invasive so I think I'll give that a miss. The bandage thingy isn't ready yet, the clinic called me up on monday to let me know that it will probably be next week sometime and that they are going to ask for the district nurse to visit me regularly too, not too sure what that's about soo.. we'll see
I've applied for DLA for myself.. gawd doesn't seem that long ago I applied for my daughter
Oh well.. keep plodding on I guess.. thanks again you all

Hi ethel!:hello:
How are you doing today hun?
I'm sorry you're in so much pain angel.:o Are they referring you to the pain clinic or some stronger pain killers? Your gp can refer you there at your local hospital.
Imho hun, you are so entitled to DLA. Your mobility and care is severely affected from what you say.
If they turn you down (they are so funny about how people word their applications), please visit CAB and appeal angel. Don't worry - if you win an appeal it is ackdated usually to when you first applied.;)
Hun, it's no consolation I know, but when I said you're not looking ugly it was because me and everyone else on here knows how lovely you are where it counts - you've got a kind spirit hun and whatever support you need, we're all here for you I'm sure.:T :A
I hope that this illness becomes more bearable for you hun. It's amazing what we can adapt to - that's not belittling what you're going through sweetheart, but meant to give you some kind of comfort or hope. I hope it all slows down soon hun and levels out for you. Just want to know that I'm thinking of you hun.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx[/QUOTE]

Thanks Tiffy.. I don't have any painkillers Normally I'm not in too much pain, just unsteady and slow, I think it's cos that conference was a lot harder going than I expected and I overdid things a bit, so it took a few days to recover.

Hmmm.. Our borough CAB closed down in March.. I only know because I was trying to contact the lady who had helped me fill the forms in for my daughter to let her know the outcome and couldn't get thru, so I checked online and found they've closed down. With my form, I could remember how she did it and copied her method.. hopefully it'll be ok *crosses everything* I think I should hear in August or so.

Daughter has been discharged from hospital.. we got no warning at all, she turned up on my mum's doorstep yesterday with all her luggage and a taxi, this is after me saying at the CPA meeting last week that things need to go slowly and not be rushed, for all of us to adjust to one another again. I'm bloody furious! Anyway, her consultant came down today to see us and agreed that she should remain as a patient and have extended home leave visits at first, i.e. long weekends gradually building up.

We;ve also got drama on the Resident's Association. Our maintenance worker and admin worker dont get on very well.. our admin worker is on leave this week and threatening to go sick cos she doesn't want to work with him anymore. Maintenance man is threatening to walk out if we go and do an inventory of the equipment and tools in his lock-up, which he should have done as it's in his contract :rolleyes: Cue many phone calls to ACAS to try and sort it all out, plus letters reminding them of their contractual obligations etc etc etc.. it's horrible cos we're a small co-op and bad feeling has an effect on everyone. I'v also got to find time to write a report about the conference to present to the residents at our next GM. !!!!!! why do I involve myself in this stuff?

Anyway, enuff about me, how's our tiffy? All set for your trip? xxxxx

Tulip

Sazbo wrote: »

Morning Tiffy :wave: Morning my lovlies! Early Sazzy!

Where's me blue smarties gone.........? :think: :think:

Much love,
Sazzarooooo xxx

Hey Sazzy,


I whisper into your ear so that Tiff cant hear,I have found the blue smarties stash,she didnt hide them hard enough did she I hand over the Blue smarties stash to Sazzy.

Hope everyone else is ok,I went to my daycentre today and opposite there is a recording studio and I saw a Black Thunder one of the Gemini FM's cars I got out my mobile phone and took a snap of it

my friends then came out and saw it as well then I went and had a coffee with friends at Asda then I did my food shop and got dad a present for Fathers day

tonight I am going to watch Britains Got Talent


Have a lovely evening everyone,

love and light,

Katie xxx

Sugar_Coated_Owl

Daisy Doughnut 2, Your daughter might find RecoverYourLife a great source of support. It's an online support community for people who self harm. You may want to have a look at it first though.

Ethel, I cannot believe that they just sent your daughter home in a taxi on her own without informing you first of all. That is terrible! :mad:

Tulip, :hello: how are you hun? It sounds like you've had a good day. I'm was watching Britain's got talent but just turned it over to watch Big Brother.

EthelBloggs

razorbladekisses wrote: »

Daisy Doughnut 2, Your daughter might find RecoverYourLife a great source of support. It's an online support community for people who self harm. You may want to have a look at it first though.

Ethel, I cannot believe that they just sent your daughter home in a taxi on her own without informing you first of all. That is terrible! :mad:

Tulip, :hello: how are you hun? It sounds like you've had a good day. I'm was watching Britain's got talent but just turned it over to watch Big Brother.

Hiya RBK... shocking innit? especially after she tried to burn the unit down the night before :eek: I donno !!!!!! they're thinking.
I've been watching big bro too... how gorgeous looking is that Billi? hehe I've got a thing for dark guys with light eyes (b/f is like that, he looks like a cross between Enrique wotsit and Colin Farrell.. flippin lovely ) Not sure bout his personality tho.. he seemed a bit vain but maybe that was just his blurb bravado, lol

How you been girlie? Seems ages since we had a yak

Let_Robinson_Sing

has CCStar been around recently, as i've not seen her for so long i just hope everything is ok

EthelBloggs

hiya LRS.. no, she flounced out ages ago because of a different thread :eek:

Sugar_Coated_Owl

OMG that really is awful. I hope you've had a word with them about it.

I missed the new people going into the house. I'm gonna have to check online to catch up

I am OK. How are you hun?