Ex partner child access court case

Troutwrestler

DUTR wrote: »

You never answered the simple question though, if the access is available , then on what basis is there a court case etc ongoing? No need to get on the defensive, from what you have typed in the original post it does seem to me that both parents need to grow up, I'm not taking a side or attacking you, not sure why so many of you cannot see that? Oh it's always the bloke's fault and Mum knows best

He stayed away for 4 months, too busy drinking and partying, then instead of simply contacting me to see his daughter, he goes to court with a sob story of being denied access. It wasn't. There has been no order made and indeed the sheriff sided with myself in that I have been more than reasonable.
I don't need to grow up. And yes in this case I am right. I look after my child and care about her best interests. As I said your opinion is of no importance to me, so please feel free not to comment again, seeing as your adding nothing constructive.

DUTR

Troutwrestler wrote: »

He stayed away for 4 months, too busy drinking and partying, then instead of simply contacting me to see his daughter, he goes to court with a sob story of being denied access. It wasn't. There has been no order made and indeed the sheriff sided with myself in that I have been more than reasonable.
I don't need to grow up. And yes in this case I am right. I look after my child and care about her best interests. As I said your opinion is of no importance to me, so please feel free not to comment again, seeing as your adding nothing constructive.

I will comment as it's a public forum, I just asked the question, thanks for being mature enough to reply, have a wonderful day and good luck with the 'fight' xx

clearingout

Sky_ wrote: »

I wonder if the 'lack of access' is because he wants Troutwrestler to transport their daughter to and from him all the time?

I also can't see why he would go for court for access if he isn't being denied access, so there may be more to it.

as someone who was dragged through court unnecessarily for access to children my ex had 3 nights a week, I can assure you that it happens. It's about control (or was in my ex's case) and showing you who's boss and that he/she can intervene in your life in such a way that means you're accountable not only to your children but the legal system as well. I suspect my ex thought that I would just 'fold' and hand over the children to him because I couldn't afford to pay for legal advice and he could (and I didn't get legal aid) but let's just say I showed him! Hhe ended up with less access (every other weekend and one night in the week) than he had had previously....so he flounced off and the children didn't see him for 15 months. When he flounced back, without a word of explanation, I didn't stand in the way of his relationship with his children. When you assume that every PWC who is taken to court is a 'contact blocker' you ignore the fact that the system colludes with the systematic abuse of people who are potentially vulnerable and in a difficult place.

Sky_

Troutwrestler wrote: »

There really is no need for that rude response!!
He was "allowed" to see his daughter whenever he didn't want to go to the pub. Or spend time playing computer games.
I suggested every second weekend and one night during the week. He turned down the during the week visit, as it meant he had to get up early to take her to school. He then failed to see her for 4 months, and took me to court as I was stopping him? No I'm just not chasing him or transporting her to and from his house, I don't drive he does.
He thought and still does that by continually trying to take me to court he will be able to force me to get 3 buses to his house instead of having to drive which he as been told, he has to do. It's his job to pick her up and drop her off. My disibility makes public transport very difficult. He only lives 6 miles away, but there are no direct buses, so it would take me 3 buses to get to him.He also seems desperate for a piece of paper to tell him when he can see his daughter.
He has since we agreed on every second weekend changed his mind 8 times in 9 months, having his daughter affects his social life.

So,perhaps some of you should think before you post and paint me as something I'm not.


I should add, before I'm accused of being some sort of bunny boiling manipulative ex. I suggested he see his daughter at Xmas and on her birthday, it's only right after all. He turned down those offers, as he was busy. I'm more than reasonable.
I was simply asking how long the tax payer are going to continue to fund his little game. I wasn't asking for accusations .

That sounds awful for you and your daughter.

I'm no legal expert, but I wonder if it's worth keeping a list of planned contact and what actually happened on each date, and taking this to court. For example 'on xyz dates, dad collected dd and contact went ahead as planned; on x dates we travelled there by 3 buses and he was not there, cancelled, etc', and so on. You'd then have a fair and objective way of explaining how difficult the situation is for you and DD.

Good luck, he sounds like a piece of work!