Ex partner child access court case

Troutwrestler

My ex partner started a court case against me for access to our daughter ( he was never denied..just wanted me to do all the legwork!..but that's another story)...the case was sisted as sherrif felt ex partner should continue with the access he already had. We are in scotland if that makes a difference.
He has since messed me around no end..but keeps threatening me with court action...action which I have to pay a solicitor for. He receives legal aid.
Anyway, long story short. I believe a legal aid award lasts for a year before you have to reapply. Has legal aid cases in scotland been affected by the cuts? I ave a feeling if he had to pay or his frivolous out cases he would make more effort and see our daughter.

Any advice appreciated

DUTR

If he was never denied, then why the court cases?
Between the two 'parents' bickering, there is a child probably being affected in a negative way, both of you grow up and get things stable quickly.

emsywoo123

DUTR wrote: »

If he was never denied, then why the court cases?
Between the two 'parents' bickering, there is a child probably being affected in a negative way, both of you grow up and get things stable quickly.

Harsh! What has the OP done wrongly?!

delain

DUTR wrote: »

If he was never denied, then why the court cases?
Between the two 'parents' bickering, there is a child probably being affected in a negative way, both of you grow up and get things stable quickly.

Some people just aren't stable (my ex included) who actually never listens to anyone or anything. They just see you being reasonable as a) you being a doormat so they try to walk on you or just accuse you of lying!

kevin137

Can i ask a question, how much access did you "allow" him before the court case...?

I am not having a go, it's just that you have to remember on splitting, most children stay with there mothers, and while the mother is normally the primary carer, the father would normally see his child for more than 2, 3, 4 or even 6 hours a week...!

So ask yourself, before you answer, did you give a reasonable amount of access or do you now think he is being unreasonable because you are the one dictating how much time he gets to spend with a child he used to spend more hours with...

And on that basis, who is "dictating"... Just a thought...

Sky_

Troutwrestler wrote: »

My ex partner started a court case against me for access to our daughter ( he was never denied..just wanted me to do all the legwork!..but that's another story)...the case was sisted as sherrif felt ex partner should continue with the access he already had. We are in scotland if that makes a difference.
He has since messed me around no end..but keeps threatening me with court action...action which I have to pay a solicitor for. He receives legal aid.
Anyway, long story short. I believe a legal aid award lasts for a year before you have to reapply. Has legal aid cases in scotland been affected by the cuts? I ave a feeling if he had to pay or his frivolous out cases he would make more effort and see our daughter.

Any advice appreciated

I wonder if the 'lack of access' is because he wants Troutwrestler to transport their daughter to and from him all the time?

I also can't see why he would go for court for access if he isn't being denied access, so there may be more to it.

Troutwrestler

There really is no need for that rude response!!
He was "allowed" to see his daughter whenever he didn't want to go to the pub. Or spend time playing computer games.
I suggested every second weekend and one night during the week. He turned down the during the week visit, as it meant he had to get up early to take her to school. He then failed to see her for 4 months, and took me to court as I was stopping him? No I'm just not chasing him or transporting her to and from his house, I don't drive he does.
He thought and still does that by continually trying to take me to court he will be able to force me to get 3 buses to his house instead of having to drive which he as been told, he has to do. It's his job to pick her up and drop her off. My disibility makes public transport very difficult. He only lives 6 miles away, but there are no direct buses, so it would take me 3 buses to get to him.He also seems desperate for a piece of paper to tell him when he can see his daughter.
He has since we agreed on every second weekend changed his mind 8 times in 9 months, having his daughter affects his social life.

So,perhaps some of you should think before you post and paint me as something I'm not.


I should add, before I'm accused of being some sort of bunny boiling manipulative ex. I suggested he see his daughter at Xmas and on her birthday, it's only right after all. He turned down those offers, as he was busy. I'm more than reasonable.
I was simply asking how long the tax payer are going to continue to fund his little game. I wasn't asking for accusations .

Troutwrestler

DUTR wrote: »

If he was never denied, then why the court cases?
Between the two 'parents' bickering, there is a child probably being affected in a negative way, both of you grow up and get things stable quickly.

Grow up? As in look after my child day in day out. Support her emotionally and financially like I'm supposed to.
Or play games with the legal system, pay nothing for my child and continually let her down all whilst playing the victim.

I know who I think needs to grow up and it's not me.

Thank you so much however for your words of advice. But I suggest you stick them somewhere unpleasant

POPPYOSCAR

It is not really clear on what basis he is taking the access to court.

Is he telling the court that he expects you to take your child to him?

Troutwrestler

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

It is not really clear on what basis he is taking the access to court.

Is he telling the court that he expects you to take your child to him?

Yes, also that he wants every second weekend. Which he was getting. Hence why the case has been paused. He was told he picks her up and sees her on his weekends. He doesn't do this then tries to go back to court, my solicitor fails to see why he is doing this but he is. And it's costly and stressful for me. And in no way benefits my child.

Blackpool_Saver

Sounds like he is doing it to make you pay money out, kind of a passive aggressive thing, usually the wanting parent picks up and the parent the child goes home to picks up at the end of visitation, has this never happened in your case?