What do you love about your OH list.........

suburbanwifey

I've been married 26 years now and we spent the first 3 years fighting but we got through it. We've had our ups and downs over the years but the things I love about him are a great list and probably why I am still with him 26 years later.

• He never lies to me (he wouldn't dare! he did once and seriously regretted it) and admits to me when he has lied to someone else. I am his 100% confident.
• He has loved me unconditionally for 26 years, since the first time we met.
• He's exceptionally hard working and has always, since day one brought home every penny to me to look after to the best of my ability.
• At aged 50 he still looks only 40 and still has the body of the fit guy I met 26 years ago.
• He is my best friend and would do anything for me.
• He worked extra shifts (3 years after we married) for 1 year to send me off to America to live my dream in Cal for a month doing everything I ever dreamed of, with more spending money than I could even spend :A
• He did the same again when I wanted to tour the East coast of USA - sent me to USA to have fun for a month
• He worked his butt off to buy me my dream home - a cottage in the country in Scotland. I always wanted to live in Scotland and he promised he would make it happen one day. He did.
• He doesn't drink and gave up drinking to marry me
• He has never gambled
• He treats our 3 cats like royalty like I do.
• He ate a burnt Shepherds Pie I made as a young wife who couldn't cook at the time and said it was delicious, when it was vile.
• He has never failed to buy me a birthday gift, anniversary gift, mothers day gift, valentines day gift etc.
• He has hand made me celebrations cards (birthday etc) for 26 years now. It started off because we couldn't afford to buy cards back then, since the skint years its because to him and me they mean more as effort has gone into making them, anyone can buy a card etc.
• Even when I've been a b!tch he still loved me.
• If we could only ever afford what I wanted, he chose for me to have rather than himself.
• He's childish at times like I am
• He's devoted to his family
• He would walk over broken glass for me if he had to.
• He has forgiven me when I have behaved badly.
• At his work last week they did a sweepstakes on the Grand National - his ticket (horse) won 2nd and he spent the winnings on me. Came home and said log onto John Greed, we are buying you another charm for your Pandora. Only gambling he ever does (at my instigation!) and he's won twice and both times bought me a Pandora charm.
• He would give up his food to feed me and the cats
• He is the best provider a girl could ever want.
• He's loving
• He compliments me every day, sometimes several times
• He phones me from work on his break every day! and has done for 26 years.
• He thinks I am the best woman in the world, the most beautiful, the best cook and best mum to our cats, even when I am not

The night before we married he said to me, don't marry me if its not forever, to me marriage is and I will always do my best by you.


He has, he did and he continues to.


There are more things, I didn't realise how many things I love about my OH until I answered this question. I need to give him a big hug when he gets home!

I almost forgot !! He makes me tea and toast whenever I ask him. I love tea and toast.

pigpen

I find it a bit bizarre that someone says their relationship is over then wants to know what is good about everyone elses...

If you want to separate from him do it, don't examine everyone elses positives as failings in your own relationship to use them as reasons you should want to split. Other peoples relationships have no part in yours. A split should be for your own reasons not because he doesn't provide or do all the things that make others happy with their OH's.

Mine cleans up all the cat poo.. right now with the pile we just found under the old bath that is more than enough!

heartbreak_star

Awww suburbanwifey that's so lovely, and I aww'ed at the "give him a big hug when he comes in". By the tone of your post you can easily tell you would do all those things for him too, and that's exactly what a marriage should be like.

Your post made me smile!

HBS x

Funky_Bold_Ribena

I can't see who other people going on about how loved up they are is going to help you.

Concentrate on your own situation - rather than use this as a diversionary tactic to not address it.

BeckyC2be

Aww pigpen, I truly love my OH and he is amazing but he will not ever not once pick the cat poo up! you are one lucky lady!

Nan63

I made my husband a scrapbook detailing the things I love about him for his birthday, it includes:

The way he dances like a girl when bees/wasps are 'after him'
The way his tongue sticks out when he's doing DIY
The way he always makes my friends feel welcome
The way he plays with children
The way he doesn't mock me when I just don't 'get it'!
The way he holds my hand when we fall asleep
The way he winks at me across a crowded room
The way he always seems to know when I need a hot bath and chilled glass of wine!

And so many other reasons

Any

When going gets tough he always stands by me... (but argues his side at home all the time:-))
He makes me feel beautiful... (but then sometimes says "what are you wearing!")
He helps when asked... (would be even better if it was without asking!)
He makes me feel clever...
He takes my storms with icy coolness and waits for me to get over it..
He is very cuddly and takes and gives a lot of attention..
He can get on with almost anyone...

SailorSam

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

I can't see who other people going on about how loved up they are is going to help you.

Concentrate on your own situation - rather than use this as a diversionary tactic to not address it.

That sounds a bit harsh on the Op.
Don't you think that sometimes when you're feeling a bit down and that the whole world is against you, you start to wonder .....'Is it just me' ?
And you just want to ask what's going on in other peoples lives.

suburbanwifey

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Awww suburbanwifey that's so lovely, and I aww'ed at the "give him a big hug when he comes in". By the tone of your post you can easily tell you would do all those things for him too, and that's exactly what a marriage should be like.

Your post made me smile!

HBS x

You're so right and thank you for reading and thanking, its nice to know I made you smile. I think the biggest thing I ever enjoy in this life is when I make someone smile, that is really so precious. You made me smile too with your kindness and sweet words.

xx

suburbanwifey

SailorSam wrote: »

That sounds a bit harsh on the Op.
Don't you think that sometimes when you're feeling a bit down and that the whole world is against you, you start to wonder .....'Is it just me' ?
And you just want to ask what's going on in other peoples lives.

I agree with you and the point you made about asking what is going on in other people's lives, I think that does us all good sometimes. I think we are all naturally curious about how other people live, interact with each other and how their marriages/relationships work.I'm terribly nosy like that and often read MSE for those very reasons. I've taken a lot of advice from these forums, not having posted about an issue but having read how someone else has dealt with it etc. Without these forms of interaction and having a little peek at other people's lives I think we all become too insular and our problems can sometimes get out of control. I think looking at others lives can give us all perspective at times, when we need it.
You made a good point and I winced when I read that post you refer to.