Investigation?

patman99

Maybe BB's Boss will be interested in investigating BB based on your complaints.
I hope you have archived all the emails your BB has sent as these could be useful as things progress.

starlight123456

patman99 wrote: »

Maybe BB's Boss will be interested in investigating BB based on your complaints.
I hope you have archived all the emails your BB has sent as these could be useful as things progress.

Maybe, maybe not.

I have copies of everything, in a safe place (not at work).

Funky_Bold_Ribena

'Tis so hard to advise when we have no idea what you have been accused of doing or any of the circumstances as there is no way of assisting you.

ILW

Don't think the police will be that interested in you not getting on with your boss.
I would be looking for another job.

paulineb_2

Have you got harassment and bullying policies. Have you raised a grievance? Theres no easy way to raise a grievance, but once you do this over the top behaviour might cease, you can put a letter to HR stating that you are going into formal grievance, list all the points where you feel you are being harassed.

Get support from a union or from citizens advice, its really hard to deal with stuff like this alone.

You need to be pointing out where you feel that your bosses arent following procedure, never go in a meeting without a witness and personally what you have described sounds so awful that I dont think you have anything to lose by raising a formal grievance for the way you are being currently treated and yes, get job hunting but sometimes that is much easier said that done.

zzzLazyDaisy

Are you in the union?

If so, you should be asking for the Regional Officer to be involved as a local shop steward who is also an employee is unlikely to be the best person to deal with this sort of problem.

The union should advise you about lodging a grievance and should represent you through the process.

The police will almost certainly not want to know.

Keep careful copies of all e-mails (print them off) and a detailed diary note of any telephone conversations. Unfortunately, once the relationship breaks down to this degree, it is usually only a matter of time before you lose your job, so start collecting evidence for an unfair dismissal case now. I also suggest that you start looking for another job.

ILW

Is this public sector?

starlight123456

I do not want to go into too much detail for obvious reasons but yes public sector.

A union RO is supposed to be managing my case but is not pro active, I am planning to contact them again tomorrow.

I raised a formal complaint as above and need to get back to hr tomorrow with questions I want answered and if this is a grievance or I want to follow dignity at work policy.

Does anyone have some ideas about questions I should be asking?

Have said willing to consider further mediation, but is it too serious for that and is it my decision? Have been told it is?

paulineb_2

Do you feel you have grounds for a grievance. If so you arent going to be going into any meeting asking questions, for goodness sake dont leave yourself vulnerable to anything else they can hold against you.

When I raised a grievance against my boss last year I didnt need advice on what to write (and theres nothing wrong with asking for some), I basically wrote a detailed list of every incident that had happened between my boss and I, either via email, in person, by text and emailed that document to her line manager

And then its up to your company to arrange a date for a grievance hearing at which, if you have any sense, you will go in with a union rep, or someone from citizens advice.

Read ACAS guides to grievance and disciplinary as I suggested earlier, they are a great help.

You dont need to enter into discussion about what your grievances are, you just need to write them down, hand them to HR and let them get on with the job that they are qualified to do

And Ive been in horrible workplace situations more than once and its stressful and going into grievance isnt easy but you get to the stage where you think, can things be any worse?

starlight123456

paulineb wrote: »

Do you feel you have grounds for a grievance. If so you arent going to be going into any meeting asking questions, for goodness sake dont leave yourself vulnerable to anything else they can hold against you.

When I raised a grievance against my boss last year I didnt need advice on what to write (and theres nothing wrong with asking for some), I basically wrote a detailed list of every incident that had happened between my boss and I, either via email, in person, by text and emailed that document to her line manager

And then its up to your company to arrange a date for a grievance hearing at which, if you have any sense, you will go in with a union rep, or someone from citizens advice.

Read ACAS guides to grievance and disciplinary as I suggested earlier, they are a great help.

You dont need to enter into discussion about what your grievances are, you just need to write them down, hand them to HR and let them get on with the job that they are qualified to do

And Ive been in horrible workplace situations more than once and its stressful and going into grievance isnt easy but you get to the stage where you think, can things be any worse?

Thank you Pauline, yes I have put written complaint in but now they want questions so they can arrange meeting or investigate?

I do not understand why they need questions and don't just get on with it, seems like a stalling tactic to me.