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Advice separation from the man that does no wrong
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Start by hitting him with the CSA and refuse to agree the overnight visits at the moment.
Your problem is that without a residency award, he can just take them and refuse to return them.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
It is on the CSA calculator!!!
It asks how many nights they stay and if it is 52-100 it isreduced and 100 nights or more it says nothing is payable.19lottie82 wrote: »Not true.
As long as the OP is the resident parent, maintenance amounts are reduced by 1/7 for every night per week the kids spend with her ex.
That isn't what my calculation says.. I am supposed to get £9 a week for 6 children!!!! and he has 3 of them 2 nights a fortnight and earns over £2000 a monthLB moment 10/06 Debt Free date 6/6/14Hope to be debt free until the day I dieMortgage-free Wannabee (05/08/30)6/6/14 £72,454.65 (5.65% int.)08/12/2023 £33602.00 (4.81% int.)0 -
It is on the CSA calculator!!!
It asks how many nights they stay and if it is 52-100 it isreduced and 100 nights or more it says nothing is payable.
Erm, no it isn't?
I put in that if a NRP earns £350 a week and has his 2 kids 3 nights a week (156 a year) then he will have to pay £40 a week.
http://www.csacalculator.dsdni.gov.uk/calc.asp0 -
That isn't what my calculation says.. I am supposed to get £9 a week for 6 children!!!! and he has 3 of them 2 nights a fortnight and earns over £2000 a month
Child Maintenance Calculator
You told us:
Number of children maintenance will be paid for: 3 or more
Number of other children living in the non-resident parent's household: 0
Number of nights, on average, the non-resident parent has the child(ren): 104 to 155
The non-resident parent's net weekly income: £ 500
The weekly amount of maintenance to be paid is approximately: £ 890 -
Well you come tell them because when I appealed they knocked a further £2 off!
That must be a different one.. the one I looked at (ages ago) was less tan 52 nights 52-100 nights and 100+LB moment 10/06 Debt Free date 6/6/14Hope to be debt free until the day I dieMortgage-free Wannabee (05/08/30)6/6/14 £72,454.65 (5.65% int.)08/12/2023 £33602.00 (4.81% int.)0 -
pigpen, go over to the child support sub-forum, have a chat and ask for a re-assessment.If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0
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my problem now being he has finally got a place and wants kids to stay 3 nights a week, which is fine, but he thinks he will not have to pay any maintenance.. Is this correct? he wont be paying for anything other than their dinner at his. he doesnt take part currently in any school meetings, dentist appts etc cause his work comes first....
many thanks
If maintenance were being paid for the children via the csa, then their dad would pay a reduced amount if he had them for 3 nights a week. However he would not be completely exempt from paying maintenance.
You could check on the csa calculator and find out how much you should be recieving in maintenance. I think it is very sad when one parent does not see the bigger picture and want to contribute a fair amount to raise their children. Even sadder when they put work ahead of important elements of their childrens lives. Many employers are reasonably flexible and will allow for parents to be there for their children.
I suggest taking legal advice with regards to sorting out splitting your joint assets. Especially as you are currently paying the mortgage by yourself. I dont know how that may effect the split but if I were in your shoes I would want things to be done fairly.The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.0 -
Start by hitting him with the CSA and refuse to agree the overnight visits at the moment.
If they have been staying overnight 3 times a week then this might be a bit hard and upsetting for them, to now not be allowed to sleep at his?Forty and fabulous, well that's what my cards say....0 -
I implore you, if your only reason for refusing overnight contact is to keep up your maintenance payment, then please reconsider.
A children's right to a relationship with a parent is priceless IMO.0 -
It is on the CSA calculator!!!
It asks how many nights they stay and if it is 52-100 it isreduced and 100 nights or more it says nothing is payable.
That isn't what my calculation says.. I am supposed to get £9 a week for 6 children!!!! and he has 3 of them 2 nights a fortnight and earns over £2000 a month
Are you sure these figures dont refer to percentages?Be Alert..........Britain needs lerts.0
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