Don't waste money on a wedding ring

aarchk

archie_comps wrote: »

I agree that a ring can get in the way of certain trades, but a necklace or similar could also make a nice alternative. My H2B is planning on wearing his wedding ring on a chain :-)

Be warned! OH did wear his on a chain but after a year it wore the chain out and he nearly lost the ring when the chain broke so now he doesn't bother. I can't wear a necklace due to my job.

FBaby

A quick question for those in the know! Do you have to have matching rings? My mum has offered for me to have my great-aunt wedding ring. It is stunning, platinum with diamonds all around it (she married in a lot of money). It is very small just like my fingers and I would be the only one able to wear it. It would go perfectly with my beautiful engagement ring which is platinum too. It's a lovely gesture, but...

- my man wouldn't wear I platinum ring only gold (I don't blame him)
- our rings wouldn't be matching
- the wedding ring might overtake the attention of the engagement ring. He spent a lot of time, attention and money on it and I don't want this to be the case.

I have spoken to him, he has agreed that it was beautiful and said that it was up to me to decide. I'm not sure (and am not normally indecisive!). What would you do?

Tiglath

We had matching rings made, but I don't wear mine or my engagement ring as I don't like the feel of jewellery on my hands (in fact I don't really like jewellery fullstop). DH wears his, but I keep mine in a jewellery box instead.

74jax

FBaby wrote: »

- my man wouldn't wear I platinum ring only gold (I don't blame him)
- our rings wouldn't be matching
- the wedding ring might overtake the attention of the engagement ring. He spent a lot of time, attention and money on it and I don't want this to be the case. What would you do?

I don't understand your question if they have to match? Why would thay have too? I've not heard this before ever, maybe your vicar would help or registrar but I can't see how you wouldn't be married because your rings don't match...

If your engagement ring is your main item of jewellary, I personally wouldn't wear anything that would stop that. Maybe wear it on your other hand?

sk00bie1

FBaby wrote: »

A quick question for those in the know! Do you have to have matching rings? My mum has offered for me to have my great-aunt wedding ring. It is stunning, platinum with diamonds all around it (she married in a lot of money). It is very small just like my fingers and I would be the only one able to wear it. It would go perfectly with my beautiful engagement ring which is platinum too. It's a lovely gesture, but...

- my man wouldn't wear I platinum ring only gold (I don't blame him)
- our rings wouldn't be matching
- the wedding ring might overtake the attention of the engagement ring. He spent a lot of time, attention and money on it and I don't want this to be the case.

I have spoken to him, he has agreed that it was beautiful and said that it was up to me to decide. I'm not sure (and am not normally indecisive!). What would you do?

We're not having matching rings, mine is white gold and diamonds, OHs is tungsten carbide and was very MSE, only £15 or so from eBay

I'm not going to be wearing my wedding and engagement rings together. My engagement ring is yellow gold and its shaped so it would have been very hard to get something to fit with it. I'm probably going to wear it on my right hand. It's also too big at the moment, I've been wearing it on my middle finger so that's another option although I don't think I'll want to have the white and yellow gold together :rotfl:

So no, I don't think your rings have to match. If your wedding and engagement rings fit together I would probably wear them together though.

spacey2012

The historical significance was that the Gold band would traditionally be the cost of a simple funeral, thus it provided a token bond that each would care for each even in death by providing a ring of enough wealth to do the right thing should things take a wrong turn.

p00hsticks

74jax wrote: »

They'll be me too. I'd never considered it strange not to have one. But I'm now trying to think of other people I know but its not something I notice.

Out of interest, can I ask whether you had a church or civil cermony, and what happened at the point where they would normally have all the 'with this ring....' stuff ? I'd also prefer not to have one ...

yorkshirebride2013

FBaby wrote: »

A quick question for those in the know! Do you have to have matching rings? My mum has offered for me to have my great-aunt wedding ring. It is stunning, platinum with diamonds all around it (she married in a lot of money). It is very small just like my fingers and I would be the only one able to wear it. It would go perfectly with my beautiful engagement ring which is platinum too. It's a lovely gesture, but...

- my man wouldn't wear I platinum ring only gold (I don't blame him)
- our rings wouldn't be matching
- the wedding ring might overtake the attention of the engagement ring. He spent a lot of time, attention and money on it and I don't want this to be the case.

I have spoken to him, he has agreed that it was beautiful and said that it was up to me to decide. I'm not sure (and am not normally indecisive!). What would you do?

You don't "have" to have matching wedding rings - you don't "have" to do anything, you don't even have to have rings! There always seems to be people saying "oh, you have to do this / wear that" etc when it comes to weddings - my view is that the wedding is about the couple so they should do what they want to do.

So if you want matching ones then fine, if you don't then you definitely don't have to. The important thing is that you are both happy with your rings - but you need to decide how it looks with your engagement ring if you are going to wear them together. I will be wearing mine together and I didn't want anything to take away from my beautiful engagement ring so I understand what you are getting at!

catmonkey85

p00hsticks wrote: »

Out of interest, can I ask whether you had a church or civil cermony, and what happened at the point where they would normally have all the 'with this ring....' stuff ? I'd also prefer not to have one ...

When we got the details for our civil ceremony, you could choose what the Registrar said - which vows we'd repeat, what marriage means etc (there were a few options to choose from with varying levels of sap). There was also a section on giving a token of love - so you could say if both parties were having rings, or if there was something different (like a bracelet as above poster's mum got). I guess if you didn't have anything then they would just leave it out and shorten the ceremony by about 3 minutes!

I don't know what it would be like in a church. HTH

FBaby

Thank you very much for all your comments. What can I say, I am 42, but marriage has always been one of those things that others do, never been interested in weddings, so now that it is my turn, I am finding that I know very little about the tradition. I've only been to two weddings in my adult life and one was a Jewish ceremony! It doesn't help I am not from the UK originally. So it's good to know that there is little tradition attached to wedding rings and anything goes!