Sole Earner

AndyJc_3

Hi all, I am living in a household with my Partner and have some questions in relation to Tax & Benefits.

Over the past few years i have been the only earner in the household. My Partner has not been in work and has been unable to hold down a job due to suffering with Migraines. She is on medication full time to keep them under control but at least once a month she is laid up for 4-5 days.

It is almost impossible for her to work full time because when the migraine comes she has no chance of getting through a probation period. And in the temp market they drop her as soon as she is sick. Her CV is just a string of short term work and long patches of unemployment which is an instant put off for employers.

From what i can gather she is not eligible for any benefits. Whenever she tries to get any support the first thing asked is: who is in your household and how much do they earn? As soon as she provides the answer she is cast off.


I earn Good Money and am in the higher tax bracket. But this year due to a miscalculation in my tax code i am liable for a 7000 tax bill which is demanded by HMRC.

In summary; over the past six years i have been supporting my partner in every way. I pay for everything. I pay her prescriptions right through to her mobile phone bill.

Let’s get one thing clear here; I do not oppose to paying this from a moral perspective but what i cannot understand is why i am expected to from a government/HMRC point of view.

Can I claw any of this expense back? If she can’t get benefit, can I not get some kind of reimbursement?

sammyjammy

No you are expected to support her, you are a couple.

Why have you created a poll about NEETS?

Mojisola

AndyJc wrote: »

From what i can gather she is not eligible for any benefits. Whenever she tries to get any support the first thing asked is: who is in your household and how much do they earn? As soon as she provides the answer she is cast off.

What benefits is she trying to claim? DLA is for care and mobility needs - it's not affected by how much money is coming in to the house. DLA is about to be replaced by PIP in April.

Get some advice to see whether her needs are bad enough to make a claim worthwhile.

AndyJc_3

sammyjammy wrote: »

No you are expected to support her, you are a couple.

Why have you created a poll about NEETS?

Please explain the word "Expected" in your statement? what does this mean. My partner is a Neet. The poll relates to this.

evenasus

AndyJc wrote: »

In summary; over the past six years i have been supporting my partner in every way. I pay for everything. I pay her prescriptions right through to her mobile phone bill.

I didn't work for 16 years while bringing up my two sons.
My husband paid for everything, as was normally accepted then. (60's)
He certainly didn't have a highly paid job back then.

If we'd asked for government help - people would have laughed.

Caz3121

AndyJc wrote: »

My partner is a Neet. The poll relates to this.

NEETs tends to be used for 16-18 year olds...so would normally be supported by a parent

Nada666

I am not sure but I suspect the term 'partner' may be a big clue.

AndyJc wrote: »

Let’s get one thing clear here; I do not oppose to paying this....

To help confused readers I ran this through Google Translate and back again and received these alternatives:

"One of my best friends is..."

"I'm not ... but..."

Mojisola

AndyJc wrote: »

Please explain the word "Expected" in your statement? what does this mean.

Couples are expected by the government to support each other financially.

If she wasn't in a relationship, she would be able to claim as a single person.

AndyJc_3

Yes, a "married" couple bringing up two children. I was in exactly the same position and in some ways i still am. i also have two children. and i still pay the mortgage on the family home that i don't live in anymore. Now i support my family and my partner. Based on the comments thus far i should just kick her out and think about Number 1?

The thing is i am not like that and i will support the people i love always but i thought there maybe be some kind of assistance from a personal tax perspective? this is the point of my query.

Mojisola

AndyJc wrote: »

Yes, a "married" couple bringing up two children. I was in exactly the same position and in some ways i still am. i also have two children. and i still pay the mortgage on the family home that i don't live in anymore. Now i support my family and my partner. Based on the comments thus far i should just kick her out and think about Number 1?

The thing is i am not like that and i will support the people i love always but i thought there maybe be some kind of assistance from a personal tax perspective? this is the point of my query.

No, there isn't.

skintandscared_2

I wish there was some form of tax break, but no there isn't. My OH hasn't worked for 5 months and isn't entitled to anything due to my wage. I pay for everything, and it's often a struggle, but that's just how it is unfortunately.