To Complain or Not to?

suki1001

My dd came home from school last week and was very upset. She had been having a music lesson and was sent in a small group to a rehearsal room, when she went back into the room, someone told her a girl had rifled through her bag, taken out a pencil case and started using it.

I was annoyed. But I'm not sure if it's because I'm not used to how daft children can be because in an adult environment that would be bang out of order, or whether in a school that would be completely unacceptable, the same as in an office. The reason my dd was shocked is because she would never do that and rifle through someone's personal property. There wasn't anything valuable, just schoolwork and pens etc, so that's not what concerns me, it just seems like a huge lack of respect. Everyone was expected to leave their bags in the classroom who'd gone, so she couldn't take it with her.

Is this complete lack of disrespect - or just kids messing around? I just don't know whether it's something they'd dismiss.

I cna email the teacher (not to make a huge fuss btw), but I feel a bit silly if I'm just seen as going OTT? I'm just surprised someone would do that.

It didn't help that day that she'd gone into the lesson and had to sit next to a boy who had asked her out and when she said yes - he told her he was joking in front of his mates. We've sorted this out and she's fine about that.

This one I don't know - anyone any ideas of where they draw the line in schools.

Ladyhawk

I would have been horrified if my mother had caused a fuss about something like that. Save the complaining for something serious.

nearlyrich

My DD when she was in year 7 had her bag rifled and her gel pens stolen she was heartbroken because she trusted her school friends and one of them stole from her..

I would mention it to the school so the teacher can at least have a chat with the class so the children who think it's OK to take stuff that doesn't belong to them get the message that it actually isn't..

**professor~yaffle**

couldn't she have just told the teacher someone had been going through her bag while she was out of the room?

suki1001

Ladyhawk wrote: »

I would have been horrified if my mother had caused a fuss about something like that. Save the complaining for something serious.

But would you have been mortified if it happened to you, because my dd was. Perhaps complaining was too strong a word - more mentioning it. I don't mean going in all guns blazing sort of thing.

suki1001

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

couldn't she have just told the teacher someone had been going through her bag while she was out of the room?

Well, that is a possibility, but she didn't, finds the teacher scary.

meritaten

your DD was upset - so a quick email to the teacher explaining the situation wouldn't go amiss. btw - if the kids are not allowed to take their belongings with them on going to another classroom - the school automatically make themselves responsible for the bag. if she had had cash in her pencil case (dinner money or bus fare) then it would become a serious matter if it went missing. Its my opinion that the school should have put the bag in a locked cupboard while your DD was absent.

Amanda65

How old is your DD?

suki1001

meritaten wrote: »

your DD was upset - so a quick email to the teacher explaining the situation wouldn't go amiss. btw - if the kids are not allowed to take their belongings with them on going to another classroom - the school automatically make themselves responsible for the bag. if she had had cash in her pencil case (dinner money or bus fare) then it would become a serious matter if it went missing. Its my opinion that the school should have put the bag in a locked cupboard while your DD was absent.

I guess a quick, nicely worded email wouldn't do any harm. Fortunately they have a cashless catering system, so rarely has any cash on her and only a small amount if it's for something else and she have a phone, it was more the invasion of privacy.

I missed the word doesn't - she doesn't carry a phone!

suki1001

Amanda65 wrote: »

How old is your DD?

11, 12 next week, so year 7.

Carl31

One of lifes lessons im afraid. There are people out there with no respect, your daughter may have lost a pen, but has learnt a quick and cheap lesson

Used to happen a lot at school. My dad gave me a really expensive pierre cardin pen set, some scabby kid then borrowed it, but decided he was going to keep it. I learnt to be a bit careful after that