noisy neigbours

bodmil

So it's 4.30am and I'm wide awake as my neighbours are having a bit of a party next door. No particularly loud music and hollering and cheering they've just been standing outside for the past 5 hours talking at full volume. I live in a terraced row of flats where the flats next door are effectively one house full of bedsits with shared showers etc. That's where the noise comes from, my bedroom window (single paned as the building is listed) overlooks the shared gardens where they're all stood. This particular bunch are quite often noisy, just talking very loudly, for example a chap who likes to pace the garden at 6am shouting down the phone.

I realise I probably sound a bit over the top if they're just talking but it's so loud!!! I don't understand why they can't talk a bit hushed given the time of day or shared environment? Unfortunately my bf is horribly ill tonight so I don't want to make a scene otherwise I think my action of choice would be to pop my head over the garden wall and ask them to keep it down a bit, perhaps they don't realise that their simple conversations can be heard everywhere. Is that the right way to handle it? Am I being totally intolerant? It's my first time living in flats really so I'm not really au fait with how far courtesy for other people's space goes. I've certainly had 1 or 2 parties since I moved in but they were noisy for a couple of hours before going out so noises off by 11pm. Do I need to chill out given that it's a weekend? I've got a heaps busy day tomorrow and have my own night out planned with friends elsewhere and now I'm going to be zonked out by 9pm at this rate!

flashnazia

bodmil wrote: »

So it's 4.30am and I'm wide awake as my neighbours are having a bit of a party next door. No particularly loud music and hollering and cheering they've just been standing outside for the past 5 hours talking at full volume. I live in a terraced row of flats where the flats next door are effectively one house full of bedsits with shared showers etc. That's where the noise comes from, my bedroom window (single paned as the building is listed) overlooks the shared gardens where they're all stood. This particular bunch are quite often noisy, just talking very loudly, for example a chap who likes to pace the garden at 6am shouting down the phone.

I realise I probably sound a bit over the top if they're just talking but it's so loud!!! I don't understand why they can't talk a bit hushed given the time of day or shared environment? Unfortunately my bf is horribly ill tonight so I don't want to make a scene otherwise I think my action of choice would be to pop my head over the garden wall and ask them to keep it down a bit, perhaps they don't realise that their simple conversations can be heard everywhere. Is that the right way to handle it? Am I being totally intolerant? It's my first time living in flats really so I'm not really au fait with how far courtesy for other people's space goes. I've certainly had 1 or 2 parties since I moved in but they were noisy for a couple of hours before going out so noises off by 11pm. Do I need to chill out given that it's a weekend? I've got a heaps busy day tomorrow and have my own night out planned with friends elsewhere and now I'm going to be zonked out by 9pm at this rate!

The important thing is not to get angry - very hard I know - as this will ruin any attempts at communication. When you are calm and collected go and let them know the you can hear them and hence couldn't sleep.

sweetsheep84

Hi OP. If you dont want any confrontation or this continues to happen, perhaps you could find out their landlord/agency and give them a quick ring. Also keep a log of the times/events happening and how it makes you feel.

When I had a neighbour like this, I kept a log of everything and that really showed his agency what he is like and he eventually got evicted.

74jax

bodmil wrote: »

I realise I probably sound a bit over the top if they're just talking but it's so loud!!! I don't understand why they can't talk a bit hushed given the time of day or shared environment?

I reckon they've maybe had a drink or two and that's why they're talking loudly. If they normally talk at a reasonable level, I think it's purely alcohol.

My OH says I get louder and louder as the wine disappears.....

bodmil

74jax possibly but it's quite a regular occurrence at all times of day, often one chap on his own or just two standing outside. I'm used to them waking me up early with their scenic phone calls but this was the first time it carried on til 6am eventually.
The front door of the house has no door bell or flat numbers, it seems to just be registered as one house so it's hard to figure out how to talk to anyone there. It's as if is have to catch them in the act to speak to them. I know it's a private landlord and most of the tenants appear to be foreign students, so perhaps will all change in a few months. They certainly don't care for their home with rubbish outside and the garden is a tip. It's tricky trying not to come off as being stuck up and intolerant at this point!

balletshoes

just stick with the topic of the noise travelling when your neighbours are outside, or their guests are outside, talking. My next door neighbours occasionally have house parties which go on until around 6am, but they're great neighbours and I don't see the need to fall out with them about it, as its not all the time. So if it has been a bit noisy then the next morning or whenever I see them in passing, I just mention the noise outside their house (ie my bedroom window) til early in the morning. No need to be angry about it with them - I have earplugs specifically for the occasion .

I've also noticed that if the night is still, ie no wind etc, voices seem to carry a lot more, and I can hear voices in my neighbours gardens more.

My DD is nearly a teenager, so in a few years it will be her turn for the noisy parties (her and her friends can make more noise at a sleepover than my neighbours house parties do!).

Ivrytwr3

So you are in a flat ABOVE them?

Bucket of water?

Counting_Pennies_2

Are you renting? Can you ask your Landlord to get involved.

If you are renting it might be time to look elsewhere!

teaandcakeordeath

I live in a development that has about 100 flats. We have a lease agreement that tells us to respect the site quiet times between 11pm to 7am. Obviously there are occasions when people who don't usually make noise have parties and you just ignore it as it's a one off and whack your earplugs in.

If your neighbours are continually disturbing you then personally I would go and stick my head over their garden wall and ask them politely to keep it down as you can hear them in your bedroom. I've done this a couple of times and on the whole people just don't realise how noisy they're being and are more than happy to accommodate your requests for a bit of peace and quiet! If they get funny with you then call your council's environmental health/ anti-social behaviour team and they can record noise levels and get the landlord involved. (I've done this once or twice when the idiots were beyond reason and they were very helpful).

mrcow

Wait until they all go to bed and then start hoovering loudly at 9am for 90 minutes.

Then go outside and mow the lawn.

Put the washing machine on.

And then put an aerobics dvd on loudly and start dancing.


Petty perhaps. But so satisfying.

sweetsheep84

mrcow wrote: »

Wait until they all go to bed and then start hoovering loudly at 9am for 90 minutes.

Then go outside and mow the lawn.

Put the washing machine on.

And then put an aerobics dvd on loudly and start dancing.


Petty perhaps. But so satisfying.

Oh I sure did that. He used to stay up, TV on loud, drag furnitures around, have visitors including kids running around till 5 AM. My solution? A quick hoover at 8 AM, play my music after that or whenever I fancy (no later than 10pm). That felt good lol.