Nut query

mutley74

MKwife wrote: »

At the end of the day he is your son and if you do not want him eating nuts your mum should respect your decision. She has had her way of bringing up her children and you have your way now.

If this was my mum, I would just take her aside and ask her to please respect my decision.

Could you not get him tested? They can do a patch type test on skin to test allergys?

I have tried telling my mum- but to take my mum aside and tell her is like provoking the devil. She would just see that i am dictating his life and her's too and she would just love to use it as an excuse for an argument.

he had a blood allergy test years ago - nothing conclusive was revealed. Seems like its worth getting a patch test, can one get these done via a GP referral?
thanks

MKwife

My friend did through her GP - she had severe excema on her hands only and she went to her GP. (This was a few years ago though)...

Maybe ask on health forum see if anyone there has had personal experience with patch tests?

RadoJo

I agree with those who have suggested skin patch testing - this should confirm what (if anything) your son is allergic to and then at least you will know whether you need to worry.

However, the matter of your mother is another thing entirely - my father is the same, and (as he and my Mum split when I was teeny) he insisted on 'self-testing' me for allergies as well as 'Building up my immune system' by exposing me to ill people - he thought this would help my bad asthma, all it did was land me in hospital.

I cannot stress enough that if you think he has an allergy DO NOT test the theory yourself. I was only mildly allergic to several different types of nuts until I was 18 and had a reaction which resulted in hospitalisation, adrenaline and the prescription of an epi-pen. So even in a case where there might not have been severe reaction before, it can happen and you wouldn't want to be responsible for it! A patch test is a MUCH better, safer and more accurate way of working out any allergies, and the doctor will be able to acdvise you of a suitable course of action.

I'm afraid there may be no cure for your mother's interfering - at 26 my father still tries to sneak me nuts, despite a letter from my allergy doctor stating that this is extremely dangerous and could kill me. For some reason he is convinced that having a mild allergy himself qualifies him to toy with my health, and this is why I cannot eat at his house. Hopefully, once you have a confirmation either way from a doctor, she will have to take this a little more seriously! Good luck and hugs to your son - I had really bad eczema as a child and I know how difficult it can be to control the scratching!