Ex-Father in law passed away

belfastgirl23

I agree, if you want to send your sympathies to the family, a card is a nice way to do it. I'd also say something about a memory of the person who passed, something nice he did for you or a funny event that captures him as a person. Just as a more personal touch.

joeblack066

I went to my ex father in laws funeral. My ex DH and his brothers all had ex wives and new wives there. I gathered up the ex wives and said "Come on Girls, we'll form the ex wives' club at the back!". It took any awkwardness away, and my ex DH family were very appreciative that it had meant enough to us to all go. Send the card, with those lovely words.

danielley

Thank you all so much for your advice.

I have sent a card, with a very similar message to that advised by Weston Dave. I have sent it to My ex-Mother in Law, not directly to my ex-husband as I do not know his address.

I think this is the right thing to do and I truly hope it is received warmly and does not cause any additional upset for them.

I would only attend the funeral if I was asked to, but there is very little chance of that happening (we have no children etc)

Panda78

You did the right thing. I tend to mull things over a lot, but i like to remind myself that you should never regret being nice.

marisco_2

danielley wrote: »

I am not sure what to do. As I say, things ended badly and although I want to pay my respects, I do not want to upset anyone by them receiving my card.

Any advice would be appreciated.

I dont think you would upset anyone by sending a card of condolence and acknowledging their loss. It shows respect and thought.

Hezzawithkids

danielley wrote: »

Thank you all so much for your advice.

I have sent a card, with a very similar message to that advised by Weston Dave. I have sent it to My ex-Mother in Law, not directly to my ex-husband as I do not know his address.

I think this is the right thing to do and I truly hope it is received warmly and does not cause any additional upset for them.

I would only attend the funeral if I was asked to, but there is very little chance of that happening (we have no children etc)

You have paid your respects to someone who meant a lot to you, well done, I'm sure your ex-MIL will take some comfort from that