ex wife/name use

castle96

Ex and I divorced years ago. She remarried 6 years ago. (Can I get hold of a copy of the marriage cert ?). Bugs me that she is known/still uses my surname. Recently saw a charity donation,,using a credit card, again with my name. She may have had this card for more than 6 year and not notified them of any name change (Legal ?). Could (Legal ?) she apply ofr a new card using a previous married name ?

mysk_girl

She can use whatever name she likes. My Mum is still Ms XX, she's been divorced for 20 years, and there is another Mrs XX...

Torry_Quine

She is perfectly entitled to continue using her married name from when you were married. There is no law which means on divorce you can't use your married name anymore or when you remarry.

Blackpool_Saver

often it is to have the same name as the children

aliasojo

castle96 wrote: »

Ex and I divorced years ago. She remarried 6 years ago. (Can I get hold of a copy of the marriage cert ?). Bugs me that she is known/still uses my surname. Recently saw a charity donation,,using a credit card, again with my name. She may have had this card for more than 6 year and not notified them of any name change (Legal ?). Could (Legal ?) she apply ofr a new card using a previous married name ?

It's not your name, it's her name. Marriage gave her the legal right to be known by that name for as long as she chooses.

You sound exactly like my ex husband as he had the same complaint. I stuck with my married name as it was a) easier b)it was the same as the kids and c) there was no reason for me to change it.

Apart from him moaning about it but that was just tough...as it is for you I'm afraid.

Why is this even concerning you now? If you divorced years ago it shouldn't matter to you what she does.

deedee71

I'm wondering why this is posted in Deaths, Funerals & Probate?

Personally, I'm still known as Mrs D, as previous posters have said, to be the same as my children. I won't revert to my maiden name until they are adults - I might even get married and change to Mrs ? lol. My ex is now living with someone and I'm not sure how I'd feel about there being another Mrs D.

If the OP's ex is now remarried and they don't have kids, it is a bit weird.

peachyprice

It's not your name, it's her name and she's perfectly entitled to use it (legally) for as long as she wants, regardless of who she is married to.

I don't know what you expect to achieve by obtaining a copy of her marriage certificate?

Ruby_woo

Firstly, why do YOU want a copy of HER marriage certificate? What would you do with it?

Secondly, she can continue to use HER name for as long as SHE wishes to do so. I still use MY name from my first marriage even though I'm remarried as I want to have the same name as my child nothing to do with me still wanting to be with my ex husband.

Lastly, you are obviously her ex for a reason and if you have always been so het up about things being yours, I.e. your name then I'm not surprised she moved on! You need to too.

Ruby_woo

And I also wonder why you have posted this question in this part of MSE? Rather strange.

kingfisherblue

Like others who have posted, I continue to be known by my married name. My ex has since remarried, so there is another woman with the same name as me.

For me, it is because we had three children together, and I want my children to have the same name as me. My ex would never agree to the children changing their name to my maiden name, so instead I still use my married name.

It is also a hassle changing everything with your name on....

castle96

Wow, what vitreol (mostly from women I assume ?)

"Lastly, you are obviously her ex for a reason and if you have always been so het up about things being yours, I.e. your name then I'm not surprised she moved on! You need to too."

The story/reasons are not known to you madam.

"Firstly, why do YOU want a copy of HER marriage certificate? What would you do with it?" All paperwork is useful...

She has remarried. She has had further children using new husband's name. My children were all 21 + when she remarried

As far as I (anyone?) am concerned, her 'right' to use my name ceased on remarriage - perfectly reasonable. She probably does not use his name,, to disguise probable 'dodgy dealings'. Anyway, if it's legal, that's it.. Thank you