Need some help regarding situation with Ex BF

fluffnutter

Legally, he'll never be able to prove that this money wasn't a gift so if you're prepared to brazen it out, nothing will come of his court threats.

Morally, things are a little more complicated. Strictly speaking you owe him £250. However, he's indicated to you that he's written off this amount so why worry about it? But he's now changed his mind.

How are your finances? If you can afford to, pay him back. That way he has no hold over you and you'll forever know that you did the decent thing, despite his earlier assurances that it didn't matter. Then you can truly move on. Life's too short to be worrying what judges make of your relationships and exes should fade into the past without the worry of one biting your financial arse for years to come.

fluffnutter

Treevo wrote: »

Her part paying the loan back would be more than enough proof.

No, it wouldn't. Some of it could have been a gift, some a loan.

gotnodosh

Thanks guys.

I have emails from him where he states that he has written the money off. This is even after I finished with him. I can see he is hurt and this seems to be his way to get back at me.

I will start putting £10 into his bank account a month and see what he does. If he takes me to court then the court can see that I am trying to repay.

And yes, I am glad to be done with him, he has shown his true colours now.

eskimo26

gotnodosh wrote: »

Thanks guys.

I have emails from him where he states that he has written the money off. This is even after I finished with him. I can see he is hurt and this seems to be his way to get back at me.

I will start putting £10 into his bank account a month and see what he does. If he takes me to court then the court can see that I am trying to repay.

And yes, I am glad to be done with him, he has shown his true colours now.

??? If you start paying the money back he can use it as proof that you accept the loan is outstanding can't he? You have e-mails of him writing off the loan so cut contact. Don't see why you would pander to this kind of bitterness.

ValHaller

eskimo26 wrote: »

??? If you start paying the money back he can use it as proof that you accept the loan is outstanding can't he? You have e-mails of him writing off the loan so cut contact. Don't see why you would pander to this kind of bitterness.

Week in week out we see people on these forums who have split from partners and been lumbered with debts. And we are all enraged.

OP has decided to pay back the last £250 at £10/week which is what she can afford. All credit to her and don't knock it.