Drifting apart from my friends....

chrisv24

People do drift apart, so you aren't the only one feeling like this. I wouldn't say drop your friends or anything like that but maybe you should try and expand your social circle.

Im having a similar issue with my mates. We are in our early 20's and they still like going on holidays to places like malia, but me and one other guy in our group think we have grown out of such places (not to mention we know some 17 year olds going). So me and him decided not to got this year and the rest of the group are pretty angry to say the least.

People just grow up and mature at different times. It's a part of life

suki1001

chrisv24 wrote: »

Im having a similar issue with my mates. We are in our early 20's and they still like going on holidays to places like malia, but me and one other guy in our group think we have grown out of such places (not to mention we know some 17 year olds going). So me and him decided not to got this year and the rest of the group are pretty angry to say the least.

Makes you wonder how long they'd expect you to continue! This annoys me because I can't think why they'd want you to go when you don't want to. I think sometimes people get a shock when they're routine is shaken, but a friendship shouldn't be a routine, unless that's what all parties are happy with.

chrisv24

suki1001 wrote: »

Makes you wonder how long they'd expect you to continue! This annoys me because I can't think why they'd want you to go when you don't want to. I think sometimes people get a shock when they're routine is shaken, but a friendship shouldn't be a routine, unless that's what all parties are happy with.

Yea thats exactly what I think. Over the past few years I have been first in line for party holidays but I have done uni now and feel like I got all that out of my system. Some of them never went so haven't really had that sort of experience.

suki1001

chrisv24 wrote: »

Yea thats exactly what I think. Over the past few years I have been first in line for party holidays but I have done uni now and feel like I got all that out of my system. Some of them never went so haven't really had that sort of experience.

I do think somewhere between early mid-twenties (possibly later) there can be a big shift in your priorities, your social life and because we all do it at different stages, I think this must be a time when people change the group of friends they hang out with. I guess people who aren't ready for others to move on must feel a bit put out - one of those things you learn with age I think. Everyone remembers the time when Thursday through to Sunday was a night out. I'm 37 now, I'm lucky if I manage one night in a month, I couldn't think of anything worse now - but at the time it was my world.

pollypenny

I understand fully, OP.

When we lived on a new housing estate as young parents, we supported each other and had some very good times.

However, one guy ran a business which grew and exceptionally well, meaning that family were better off than most. There was never any boasting, they were lovely. However, there was a great deal of trying to keep up with them , more from the men.

We moved to another town. I only keep in touch with one friend from those days.

VestanPance

I must still be on my first phase of friends. The majority of my closest friendships all stem back from Primary School. In contrast in the last ten years I can count the number of friends I've made on one hand, rather than just acquaintances.

I think I've become far less social and open as I've gotten older.

That said there are certainly folk I was once close with that I no longer keep in contact with. People do change as they age, be that yourself or your friends. Some folk you'll stay great friends with as you age, others will drift from your life for many reasons.