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What a day!

Hi All,
Sorry to bore you all, but what a day it's been. Decided to come clean to OH this morning, needless to say he was very angry and walked out. First of all although upset I felt relieved but this soon wore off when he was gone all day and wasn't answering his mobile. He eventually came back this evening but was very cool. The turning point came when he said, and must add he has got a good sense of humour, was that we could hang a red light in the window but doubted we would get many takers! Hopefully the worst is over relationship wise, still have to deal with the debts. Have shared a bottle of wine tonight, I know, that has to stop, but we didn't actually buy it was in the fridge. I'm not making light of a serious situation and will both probably be as miserable as sin tomorrow but hope this might give someone else in this situation a bit of hope.
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  • hypno06
    hypno06 Posts: 32,296 Forumite
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    You've done the hard bit, so now you can concentrate on getting these debts down.

    Well done for doing this today, and I hope you sleep well tonight having got it out in the open x
    Successful women can still have their feet on the ground. They just wear better shoes. (Maud Van de Venne)
    Life begins at the end of your comfort zone (Neale Donald Walsch)
  • immoral_angeluk
    immoral_angeluk Posts: 24,506 Forumite
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    Glad that he's coming round. Enjoy your wine. Just remember to take it one step at a time and work as a team :)
    Total 'Failed Business' Debt £29,043
    Que sera, sera. <3
  • RugbyLisa
    RugbyLisa Posts: 35 Forumite
    Well done for opening up - you need to now pull together to get through this.
  • moonlightpjs
    moonlightpjs Posts: 1,583 Forumite
    Well done you for telling him :j , thats a hard step to take but it seems hes over the shock now and you can both begin to sort everything out. Keep posting and enjoy the wine xx
  • LookingAhead
    LookingAhead Posts: 4,633 Forumite
    Aww well done for coming clean.

    And sometimes humour is the best way to get through a situation...it's helped me out many a time!

    Good luck - you can do this! :)
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  • moonlightpjs
    moonlightpjs Posts: 1,583 Forumite
    Must admit though - have thought of the red light myself :rotfl: Hiring hubby out though not me :eek:
  • okra
    okra Posts: 117 Forumite
    weller711 wrote: »
    Must admit though - have thought of the red light myself :rotfl: Hiring hubby out though not me :eek:

    Well, every penny helps, right? :rotfl: :cool:

    Rosie, I think you deserved the wine tonight :beer:
  • joeblack066
    joeblack066 Posts: 1,757 Forumite
    Well done, you will get through this!
  • Penny2myName
    Penny2myName Posts: 1,605 Forumite
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    Its good to see after his break away, you DH has come back accepting the situration and being willing to support you, sometimes I wish i had someone to share a bottle of wine with, after an emotional draining experience. To me that speaks volumes.
    19th March 2007 LBM£5,969.63 1st January 2018 £5960.18, 1st January 2019 £11,032.0018th August 2023 £12,435.00, Student Loan £22244.00 From 2009-12Challenges: To learn to stop spending..
  • rosiedee
    rosiedee Posts: 269 Forumite
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    Thanks for all the words of support and encouragement, it really does make a big difference.
    OH had to go out early this morning and as I suspected had slightly regressed a bit, a bit cool, but then again he isn't a 'morning person', did get a hug albeit a bit reluctant before he left. Neither of us slept very well last night, I still break out in a cold sweat thinking about it all, but then again that could be my age! It's all still a bit daunting but hopefully when I can get an SOA together and start to see the overall debt going down things will get better. My biggest concern at the moment is the £12000 on my MBNA card which reverts to 19.99% this month. They have reducded the interest rate from 24.99% as a loyalty thing, does anyone think it would be worth pursuing it any further and if so how? Although we will be stretched that's the one that could push us over the top.
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