Can a man and woman just be friends?

yvonne13_2

I went to the shop around lunch time yesterday and a man stopped me and even though I recognised his face I couldn't remember where I knew him from.

Long story short he asked me if I would like to meet up as friend's as we hadn't seen each other for over 7 years and it would be nice to catch up, I said yes exchanged numbers ect ect.

Today he sends me a text saying " I have always liked you, I can't wait to see you to prove I've changed" ect ect, the thing is I'm not interested in him in that way (I remember him running from one woman to the next breaking hearts along the way)....How can I get him to understand it's friends only take it or leave it? And is it possible that he has changed his ways?

scooby088

Yes they can be friends as long as attraction doesn't get in the way, but your situation I would say best to leave it well alone.

Person_one

Of course men and women can be friends.

In this situation though, it seems unlikely as he's already pretty much declared that's not what he's after!

DUTR

If you become aquaintances then you may initially give the wrong impression. You know he maybe a heartbreaker, so what is the point of meeting up with him, if deep down you know he is not for you?

GlynD

He won't until you tell him and even then he'll still try.

VestanPance

They can, but often men will befriend women hoping for something more.

Tropez

Yes, they can. I have quite a few female friends.

However, in the case you describe, no, I don't think so. He's already texting you with his intentions.

marisco_2

yvonne13 wrote: »

I went to the shop around lunch time yesterday and a man stopped me and even though I recognised his face I couldn't remember where I knew him from.

This says it all really. Either he was so awful that you have spent years blocking him from your memory. Or he just did nothing for you to the point that he was easily forgettable.

This is meant in no way as offensive to you but he has clearly run out of shag buddies and is on the look out for a new one. Leopards never change their spots. He will be just as you recall him being. Dont touch him with a bargepole, he sounds like trouble.

In answer to your original question, yes I think men and women can just be friends. I have a number of male friends and we get on brilliantly. I wouldn't choose to get involved with any of them though.

yvonne13_2

marisco wrote: »

This says it all really. Either he was so awful that you have spent years blocking him from your memory. Or he just did nothing for you to the point that he was easily forgettable.

This is meant in no way as offensive to you but he has clearly run out of shag buddies and is on the look out for a new one. Leopards never change their spots. He will be just as you recall him being. Dont touch him with a bargepole, he sounds like trouble.

In answer to your original question, yes I think men and women can just be friends. I have a number of male friends and we get on brilliantly. I wouldn't choose to get involved with any of them though.

I started thinking the same when I got the text.

I didn't remember him at first because he wasn't the type of person I took seriously and whenever he tried to talk to me I used to blank him.

Ladyhawk

Definitely... but not if any attraction on either side.

olias

He wants your body.........;)

Olias