I've messed up and I don't know what to do

Faith177

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

I'm interested in how you thought calling people stupid was an improvement?

You mentioned spending too long on the phone, inappropriate language and making derogatory comments.

What sort of inappropriate language are you talking about here?

The action plans I improved on were for something else sorry should have said that.

For example someone asked me how I was getting on with my MIL I said oh great she's doing my f'ing head in.

Faith177

cockaleekee wrote: »

It was an investigatory meeting, I'm not sure what you think it might mean?

What sort of personal questions were you asked?

But I wasn't told it was it that should I have been.

They ask me if I was in a relationship with one of the married underwriters in another office

cockaleekee

Faith177 wrote: »

But I wasn't told it was it that should I have been.

They ask me if I was in a relationship with one of the married underwriters in another office

There are few formalities about an investigatory meeting.

I would ask yourself why they would ask a question like that - perhaps your unsuitable behaviour indicated that you are?

AllSpent

Sounds like you had a preliminary hearing of some sort, and you gave been given 'advice & guidance' at some stage. Without knowing the full facts, obviously, I doubt this in itself would lead to dismissal; perceived as a gross misconduct. You should always have a witness when having such meetings, whether that be a Union rep, an independent person, friend, or just someone you can rely on. Also, consider if there are any mitigating circumstances you can think of that have contributed to this; they may well be relevant. Above all else: behave!!

Faith177

AllSpent wrote: »

Sounds like you had a preliminary hearing of some sort, and you gave been given 'advice & guidance' at some stage. Without knowing the full facts, obviously, I doubt this in itself would lead to dismissal; perceived as a gross misconduct. You should always have a witness when having such meetings, whether that be a Union rep, an independent person, friend, or just someone you can rely on. Also, consider if there are any mitigating circumstances you can think of that have contributed to this; they may well be relevant. Above all else: behave!!

Oh believe me after this ill be a Saint

They didn't tell me i could have anyone in with me. I was given no warning just pulled into a meeting room.

Faith177

cockaleekee wrote: »

There are few formalities about an investigatory meeting.

I would ask yourself why they would ask a question like that - perhaps your unsuitable behaviour indicated that you are?

What formalities are there?

We just talk I ask about his family he asks about my wedding ect. We talk about things in the news. Cases that are going around at the moment ect

cockaleekee

Faith177 wrote: »

Oh believe me after this ill be a Saint

They didn't tell me i could have anyone in with me. I was given no warning just pulled into a meeting room.

There is no legal right to be accompanied at an investigatory meeting. You do have the right to be accompanied once/ if it becomes a disciplinary.

cockaleekee

Faith177 wrote: »

What formalities are there?

We just talk I ask about his family he asks about my wedding ect. We talk about things in the news. Cases that are going around at the moment ect

For an investigatory meeting, there are not really any.

Have you read the disciplinary policy?

Jinx

Investigatory meetings don't have to allow Union Reps or friends to be with the OP.

Faith177

I have and it just mentions the stages ect but I'm just really stressed cause I know have to wait 4 days till they decide what to do