Tax Creds have stopped - Help!!

asdf1982

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Where does it say she is getting full HB and CTB?

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his previous posts. i was trying to make the op feel better

FBaby

What I don't understand is that you seem more concerned by trying to help by sorting out getting advice and the rest which are clearly HER responsibilities, yet not seem so bothered trying to assess what more evidence you can gather to 'prove' that you were not living with her. I asked about gathering evidence that you paid lodge when you stayed at your friend but you haven't commented anything about it.

Leave your ex to find out about her rights, appeal and all this and help her in the way you are expected to help her by giving evidence. If you were truly separated and paying over bills than that of her household, then surely you have more to show than what already shared with them.

MamaMoo_2

Gentile wrote: »

In the meantime the real issues that MP's need to resolve will not get looked at because they are busy sorting out tax credit issues.

Oh sod off you miserable git.

MamaMoo_2

FBaby wrote: »

What I don't understand is that you seem more concerned by trying to help by sorting out getting advice and the rest which are clearly HER responsibilities, yet not seem so bothered trying to assess what more evidence you can gather to 'prove' that you were not living with her. I asked about gathering evidence that you paid lodge when you stayed at your friend but you haven't commented anything about it.

Leave your ex to find out about her rights, appeal and all this and help her in the way you are expected to help her by giving evidence. If you were truly separated and paying over bills than that of her household, then surely you have more to show than what already shared with them.

I agree with you to an extent. OP should definitely be building up more evidence, but I see no problem with him helping his ex. She is currently working, then looking after two kids, whereas OP has some spare time. Plenty of people try and help their friends, I know I've certainly done some digging for friends, and have even recently helped my friend's partner with an unfair dismissal claim, which she claims would have been lost if it hadn't been for me gathering evidence for her from the Internet.
I'd be infinitely more inclined to do this for someone who was the main carer for my children, especially if the issues were having a major effect on that person and my children.
Not all couples split then become strangers or enemies. Many people simply realise that they're better off as friends than partners.

FBaby

But the best help he can provide which she can't do herself is to gather the evidence. Why waste time taking kids to CAB?

MamaMoo_2

FBaby wrote: »

But the best help he can provide which she can't do herself is to gather the evidence. Why waste time taking kids to CAB?

Agreed, but that doesn't mean he can't also help in other ways as well!

Poppie68

It's the wife who should be going to CAB not the OP, they are investigating her not him. CAB will be able to offer her help and advice but only general advice to the OP. As already said by other posters he should be concentrating on gathering the evidence, though i would of thought the evidence already provided would of been sufficent.

cockaleekee

MamaMoo wrote: »

Agreed, but that doesn't mean he can't also help in other ways as well!

CAB are massively overstretched, and in the given situation will only be able to advise as FBaby suggests - to give all the evidence requested and allow the LA to make a decision. They do not have time for hand holding, particularly when there is nothing out of the ordinary going on.

princessdon

Do you stay overnight at your wife's home?

When did you change your address with bank and work, same with driving licence.

Are your children in childcare? If so then ask them to write stating when your contact details changed.

More importantly as you are married (and so have different rules) have you formally separated, is their legal paperwork.

Gain as much evidence as you can, Facebook timelines showing separation, new partners, proof you spend Xmas and holidays apart, your council tax bill, passport etc.

You have a lot of evidence, so I guess a lot may depend on the time you were sofa surfing and no billing address, but there is plenty more evidence you will have if you think outside the box. Did you change drs, dentists at the point of leaving, your car insurance renewals, mobile phone address, sky tv subscriptions, removing your name from her utilities, orders from amazon or anywhere showing new address.

In short calm down (stop the drama of driving into a wall, you previously posted of throwing yourself under a bus too). None positive thoughts are not helpful. If you want to help your to be ex, put your heads together, get more evidence.

I would think your DD to her account for maintenance etc can be shown, your bank accounts showing your bills and duplication of utilities, shopping, holidays alone etc can all help.

So head down, no silly thoughts and get thinking!