Did you tell the groom..

trinity_enigma

Is this a serious question? Are you planning a surprise party for him? Or a wedding to allows you BOTH to shine through.

To be honest my OH isn't really concerned about the nitty gritty details but we both chose the colour scheme, both chose the venue, both are involve in how we would dress the place. We both helped each other choose our attendants. Apart from anything else we aren't good at keeping secrets from each other (was very hard when I bought my dress- kept wanting to text him about it like I would when anything exciting happened) and we talk to each other about everythig.

74jax

trinity_enigma wrote: »

Is this a serious question? Are you planning a surprise party for him?

As the OP hasn't been back I actually think it was a wind up and we all fell for it............

mouthscradle

I'm relieved to see that I'm not the only one who found the whole "Groom doesn't know/has had no input into the colour scheme" idea completely bizarre...

It's one thing if you're not really having a colour scheme as such and are just mixing and matching, but to refer to "my theme/colours" but not have made that decision jointly is a bit strange, in my mind.

Pinzy

Letting him know the colour scheme is fine. If you're worried that it'll give away a special coloured dress you have, he's not to know that just because the colour scheme is x your dress will be too, he'll likely think you'll be in white/cream dress anyway.
If you've told him the colour scheme matches the dress, then he's still not to know how much of the dress is that colour. You could always drop it into conversation that the colour scheme matches "accents" of your dress. That could mean anything!

englishrose19

I'm so consumed? Who would plan a wedding without telling their fiance what the colour scheme was?

A) I'd have decided it with him and
I'd want to make choice decisions on flowers/ bridesmaid dresses etc.

ellay864

When my hubby was looking at waistcoats, one of the first things he was asked by the man we hired from was 'what's your colour scheme?' Can't honestly believe you wouldn't tell him - I wouldn't let a man loose without him knowing what colour boundaries he had to stay in lol

split_second

We chose together but my tie needed to match in with it anyway. We will spend some of the day before apart, got a feeling I will be catching up with relatives that are traveling in from abroad (would not be surprised if me and either my dad or the best man pick them up from the airport)

PinkPrincess83

I find this thread a bit strange!!

Does this mean that your OH is having no input in flowers, cake, invites, decorations, bridesmaid dresses and waistcoat and ties?? All these things could match you colour scheme so surely he would know the colour.

My husband knew as soon as the date was set that our colour would be pink!! (btw if he had really not wanted pink we would have compromised on another colour, I wouldnt have insisted on it but he knows how much I love pink!! lol)

And I told him my dress was ivory because I wanted him to match! I remember my friend wasnt happy with me when she was getting married because I mentioned in front of her now hubby her dress was white , and she didnt look happy, anyway he obviously wasnt listening because he then went and ordered his waistcoat in ivory and so I think she had to then get it changed!! :rotfl: