Did you tell the groom..

Lisa0008

Did you tell your groom the colour scheme? I am worried it will bring me bad luck and it should be a secret?

lisajane8482

I did as he needed to know what colour cravat to hire, although we're not hiring suits now but still needed his input on which ties to order.

I think traditionaly it's bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the wedding so as long as he doesn't see your dress etc you should be fine.

OllysMum_2

Not superstitious at all and a bit miffed the intended has now suggested we spend the eve of the wedding apart! He's telling me it's bad luck.... (must check to see if there's a football game on..)

Yes, I had to tell him the colours as his chosen kilt would have clashed!

McKneff

Yes, my daughter had to tell the groom so his cravat and hankie could be the same colour.

Colour was the same but without the crystals lol

cats2012

I didn't just tell the groom - we chose it together. Why would you not...?

He's helped not just with cravats etc but with choosing flowers, decorations etc so not sure how we could have done that without him knowing!

Faith177

I don't think it's unlucky for them to know the colour just to see the dress.

Well I fluffed that one was so excited when I saw mine in a magazine OH saw it anyway

We are spending the night apart and I'm really looking forward to having the last night with my mum & best friends. We have some nice wine in and a few treats board games, stupid DVD's, plenty of music and board games.

lovecake

Same as Cats2012 - we chose it together. Why would you not want your OH to choose the colour scheme with you. Apart from seeing the dress or seeing you before the wedding I think the groom should be involved in everything else as much as he wants to be. We chose all the details of our wedding together - it was 'our' wedding not just mine. I have never heard of this being bad luck. HTH

Lisa0008

This is my problem he wants a suit that doesnt really go with my theme/colour, maybe i am just worrying about it all too much!

kacie

We chose the colour scheme together

lovecake

Yeah, I wouldn't worry. My OH half decided he wanted to stand out from the other groomsmen so they had a slightly different tartan to him for their kilts and they wore ties that matched the bridesmaids while he did his own thing. It actually looked really great as he sort of blended in, but at the same time was set apart from the other boys and you could tell he was the groom. I let my OH pick his and the boys outfits. I thought it was only fair that he got to do that seen as I got to pick mine and the girls' with no input from him. Maybe something like that would work for your OH - he could do his own thing and you could ask if he wouldn't mind his groomsmen matching your theme? I really wouldn't worry though - I don't think people even notice on the day what matches and what doesn't. Us brides dominate over so much, I think it's only fair that the grooms at least get to wear what they want. Just my opinion though...:)

74jax

I think it all depends if you are superstitious or not.

We're aren't. At all. So I don't believe because we are sleeping in the same bed the night before the wedding, travelling to the venue together, probably having a drink in the hotel bar beforehand etc our relationship doomed.

However those who are superstitious will think all the things we are doing 'may' mean we never reach our 5th wedding anniversary.

I think only you and your partner can work out if he knows a colour scheme that it would mean bad luck on your wedding....