Did you tell the groom..

caz2003uk

My OH has chosen the colour scheme! And we couldn't possibly have planned the wedding and decorations etc without knowing the colour scheme!

PasturesNew

Lisa0008 wrote: »

This is my problem he wants a suit that doesnt really go with my theme/colour, maybe i am just worrying about it all too much!

"my theme"
Not very team spirited.... is he completely under the thumb?

I'd have expected any OH to be part of all the discussions/decisions and to just keep the dress a secret.

daisiegg

I have never heard this superstition!

We chose the colour scheme together and it never crossed my mind to think it ought to be another way...

Skintski

We agreed on ours. We did end up going with his preference but to be honest I was willing to work with most colours and I knew I would get my way with other things.

Mojisola

Lisa0008 wrote: »

This is my problem he wants a suit that doesnt really go with my theme/colour, maybe i am just worrying about it all too much!

Isn't it his wedding as well as yours?

LE3

I cannot believe any couple would plan a wedding without both parties being involved in the decisions - unless one half of the couple particularly wanted that ... I wonder how you would feel if this was reversed (don't tell the bride style)?

What *exactly* is the problem?
Does he want a red based kilt that will clash with your dream fuchsia bridesmaids? Change them into red dresses! Or do you have a dream of a pride & prejudice style wedding and he fancies a white tux style suit?

Surely you can understand this is about COMPROMISE - if you can't agree on something simple for your wedding (which, in case you need reminding, is about you BOTH not just you!) then I don't hold out much hope for your marriage!

lazer

My now husband didn't want to know the colour of the bridesmaid dresses - so I ordered the cravats and hankies for them as well (even though my groom originally decided he wanted to pick thecoulour for them and was going to go silver or gold or something that would blend in)

So for the things that were co-ordinated with the bridesmaids dresses, such as the ribbon on the cake and the flowers, I did most of the organising of these, although my OH did actually help my mum and me make the cake!

I was happy for him to help pick the colour scheme but he didn't want to - I wasn't involved in the picking of his suit or the mens outfits (other than the page boy as he was my cousin - so my OH jsut told me roughly what colour to go for).

I do think it is up to the bride to select the colour scheme, but it should be discussed with the groom and has to be a selection you are both happy with - the bride has more say though (IMO) as the bridesmaid wear the dress in the choosed colour so it has to suit them, whereas the men only generally wear a cravat in the choosen colour.

heartbreak_star

Surely you're going to have more of an issue if you don't tell him the colour scheme?

Careful you're not going Bridezilla OP, it's his day too

HBS x

floss2

Dh asked that the colour scheme included a particular red, which it did, he chose his ivory & pewter grey waistcoat & cravat, the flowers were red, the BM dress was pewter grey.

If he had been kept out of the choosing / uninformed, we wouldn't have had a colour scheme.

badamsgirl

We also chose it together. It's his wedding as much as mine.