Trying for a Baby Part 9

teaandcakeordeath

Hope CD1 doesn't show for either of you for good reasons (not to do your head in like mine did...:) )

I feel the same as you Claire I think the only part of my cycle that I actively don't loathe is the week before Ov and the week after. I'm awful when AF is here. I hate waiting weeks to OV and can only handle that wait when I'm in my 'fertile' 7 days. I can manage the week after ov as I'm all optimistic that I might have caught the egg. Then I hate waiting for AF as my natural pessimism returns and I realise I won;t be pregnant... Pffff.

an9i77

McRach wrote: »

Hi There! even the title describes me well, impatient is an understatement, thank you for the recommendation, i'll have a look for it

I've read it - may even be me who mentioned it before - anyway it is really good she quotes a lot of research which gives really good odds and basically makes it seem easier than you'd have thought to conceive!
She says it is all about the timing, making sure you BD a few days before OV so the spermies are all ready and waiting for the egg to be released.
Although to be on the safe side we just BDd as much as we had the energy for in BD week thinking if you throw enough mud at a wall some will stick!

ruth26

Thanks for the book recommendation cwtw, will be checking it out. Welcome to the thread by the way! You too McRach! Thanks for the laughs last night, they were much needed.

Hope cd1 stays away for you claire and becca.

Can I be updated to CD2 on the list please? Thanks again becca for doing the lists, much appreciated. Going to have a quiet Sunday (apart from husband swearing continuously at the xbox. Apparently it's relaxing and he enjoys it? :think:).

cwtw

I never thought I'd be so obssessed with my cycles - you spend years trying not to get pregnant and they fly by and then each day feels like a month in itself when you're TTC! I'm thinking about trying accupuncture in the 2ww to encourage me to relax. Why is this so difficult????

loulou123

Hi everyone
Got home from work last night (at 8.30pm after a 13 hour shift) to find a completely drunk husband, it appears the failure to conceive has hit him harder then I thought, triggered by the birth of his brothers new baby.

He admitted the reason he's been so reluctant to get a SA done, is that he's convinced the problem is his and doesn't know how he'll cope if its "his fault" we can't have children, especially as he'll always be wondering if its down to some bad choices he's made in past (he uses to take steroids for body building purposes - known to cause infertilty.) He's convinced we won't get past it as a couple - I'm convinced we would, as been through so much together.

He then fell asleep and I had to put him to bed - not to easy with a 6' 2" pretty much unconscious man! Now this morning is reluctant to speak about it.

I knew he was upset by it all, but had no idea he felt this bad until last night.

Lara44

Aww huge hugs to you and your OH Loulou. I'm sure is feeling a bit sensitive on all counts today.

It sounds like getting it all out in the open might be a big step towards getting SA. At least you can reassure him about your relationship now you know how he's feeling. Would it be too much to explore how you would both feel about other possible options, such as ICSI, or sperm donation? If he thinks that there are other options it might take the pressure off, and he would know you were both approaching it together as a couple?

teaandcakeordeath

It's hard when they bottle it all up isn't it loulou. Would he consider doing a home SA just to try and put his mind at rest? It would at least give him (and you) and indication of what's going on and if any further investigation is needed- they only target count rather than morphology etc. but I assume count is what would be affected by steroids? My OH is exactly the same and he 100% believes it's him. I think the only thing that got him to the point of doing the SA was seeing the tests I had/have to do- it's not exactly hard work him producing a sample compared to the intrusive tests we go through! It's hard getting them to talk though- my OH just bottles it up until something starts him off (usually me watching OBEM or him flicking through TV and seeing some lowlifes on Jeremy Kyle...) and then it'll all come out...

codemonkey

So very annoyed today. Got someone out to service our tv and broadband connection. Not going to say the name but it rhymes with pie. Anyway was supposed to be working today as I'm right up against it at work and need a couple of hours of a straight run at it without someone popping up every 2 seconds asking when I think I'll be finished and cant I go any faster (errm yeah, it'd be done if they gave me the right information to begin with). So the guy came and did the job and left without checking it. I assumed DH did, but no. Shortly afterwards I noticed the broadband had gone down. I need this to connect to the server so I can't work. Anyway I had to go in and return it to the state it was in before the repair. I wanted to be done by now so I could watch the rugby. But guess what? The box isn't communicating with the satellite! So I asked DH to look at it but nooo, the football is on and that takes priority over anything else.

So upset. I'm hormonal anyway. My team are losing (as usual) and I still have 4 hours of work ahead.

I know none of this is ttc related but arrrggh. I hate it when stuff doesn't work.

teaandcakeordeath

I'd like to offer some advice code but I'm useless with technology.... maybe turn it off on on again? (that's all our IT department in work ever says to us...) Failing that flip the fuse box switch so OH has to investigate...

McRach_2

cwtw wrote: »

I never thought I'd be so obssessed with my cycles - you spend years trying not to get pregnant and they fly by and then each day feels like a month in itself when you're TTC! I'm thinking about trying accupuncture in the 2ww to encourage me to relax. Why is this so difficult????

I know exactly what you mean!! I always thought how easy it would be to get 'caught' when taking no precautions and now.... well :mad:
In a way i'm quite looking forward to my next AF, at least that way i can start tracking everything properly again.

Apologies if this has been addressed before but do you all recommend temperature tracking?? It's not something i've ever done but a fertility tracker on my phone has a chart to record on. Is it reliable?