Left home, but back together now.

podperson

What exactly is your ex expecting to happen with the mortgage - if he can't get a single mortgage then by definition you won't be allowed to take your name off it. Plus if you've contributed to it for 10 years then you're entitled to something from it (assuming there is any equity in the property at the moment of course). What is he expecting - for you to quite happily leave your name on it until it's paid off (probably affecting your chances of getting a mortgage in your own name if you want one in the meantime) and then not bother about any equity in it?? Personally, I would be getting legal advice and since there is no longer a child living in the property then there is a good chance he could be forced to sell by a court in order to give you your share.

However, with you looking at getting back together then I'm guessing you may not want to be so direct with it. I would be thinking though about how well the relationship is going to work if there seems to be no room for compromise even at this early stage.

trina2010

is it only me thats picking up on the bit where when OP and partner split in the first place that it was impossible/dangerous for OP and DD to keep living there......
OP why do you want to be back living with someone you were quite clearly scared to be around only a few years ago??

forget the mortgage....safety is the more important concern surely??

peachyprice

trina2010 wrote: »

is it only me thats picking up on the bit where when OP and partner split in the first place that it was impossible/dangerous for OP and DD to keep living there......
OP why do you want to be back living with someone you were quite clearly scared to be around only a few years ago??

forget the mortgage....safety is the more important concern surely??

I read it that it was the step daughter that was a danger to OP/OP a danger to the step daughter, but now the SD has gone it's safe for OP to get back together with her ex.

Treevo

trina2010 wrote: »

is it only me thats picking up on the bit where when OP and partner split in the first place that it was impossible/dangerous for OP and DD to keep living there......
OP why do you want to be back living with someone you were quite clearly scared to be around only a few years ago??

forget the mortgage....safety is the more important concern surely??

I think you're missing who was the danger - the step daughter.