The Giving Up/ Cutting Down alcohol support thread - number 12

warbonnet

Quote jak: Only, now, I keep thinking, how much of that was the booze? Was he really like that or not? I suppose i'll never know now.

Jak there is no doubt that you had a lucky escape. Tell your friend that you're not interested next time she mentions him. If you are lonely at the moment you are probably going done the road "anything is better than nothing", but you are worth more than that. Keep strong.

warbonnet

Thanks for doing this again shaggy, I know I would not be AF this January if it wasn't for this thread.

Thanks to everyone.

For February I would like to aim for 26/28

The 2 days off are for my OH's birthday and my sister in laws birthday.
The nights out are planned for 1st Feb and 23rd Feb. :eek::eek:

Haha just learned how to do the icons and red letters!

jak

Thaks guys. I do feel a bit beter this morning. I've got a lot of 'thinking and working through things to do and there isn't any easy way or quick way to do it!
41 well done on paying your debts. That's great! I'm in the process of saving to pay my Dad and Mum back. When I've done that I will really start to see the difference the money saving is making on my life, not to mention my figure!
Shaggy, awww thanks for your lovely hug! And Julie, you do talk sense!!!
X

Barny1979

Date was good on Thursday night, then went out with work last night and drove. So 25/31 so far

jak

My target for Feb will be 28 day af! X

41_and_i_know_it

jak wrote: »

25 af for me and 27 in total. I've managed to eat lots and stay away from the shop. I've got my AA ladies lunch tomorrow so that should be good fun. Also I am taking my son and i'm looking forward to going out for lunch with him. He will love it, a little treat.
I've managed to not drink but it is so hard when things go wrong. I had a dreadful nights sleep last night because I had nightmares about an ex-boyfriend. I feel like im going through the break-up again to some extent as I blocked it out before and it's making me feel crap. I suppose I just have to feel it and move on, but it doesn't help that I'm friends with his sister and she keeps going on about how happy he is with his new girlfriend and how lovely she is... I suppose she thinks im over it now as it was 2 years ago and really, I should be, but for god sake... no-one wants to hear that do they? Especially as he smashed up my house and scared me half to bloody death in the process...alcohol. He's not drunk since, so at least he got something out of it. God, next thing you know they'll be getting married. Then I really will lose it!
I don't know. An appology would have been nice at some point. As it was, they last time I saw him was as he was being shoved into the back of a police car, so I guess i've had a lucky escape. Only, now, I keep thinking, how much of that was the booze? Was he really like that or not? I suppose i'll never know now.
Sorry to waffle on, I just feel so alone today and I haven't really got anyone to talk to who I can realate to about this. Thanks for listening...if you're still awake! X

Jak did you write this post or was it me, I can so so relate to this, I saw pics of my two exs on facebook and the one who was an alcoholic who I went above and beyond to help looked so loved up and settled, I felt so resentful. Not because I have feelings for him but I did everything I could and he chose drink and he didn't really want me I was just enabling him and we were co-dependent. Really got to let this go, I only thought about him time to time as in I hope he's still off the booze and ok, well obviously he is and now I know I have to accept that it was ME that didn't fit the relationship, we should never have got together in the first place, but because I hadn't seen him since school and I had a crush on him in school and cos he was a bit of a lad and a bad boy cos he drunk a lot etc. Jak it hurts, I'm hurting too because we need closure and this has opened up old wounds. The other ex looks good too, but I don't know if hes with anyone, what hurts was one of his daughters is in a photo of him on her 18th bday and I havent seen any of his kids since they were little. And his ex is still with the bloke she cheated on him and left him for. Where is the justice in this world, seems that if you cheat, steal, lie, have no heart life just pans out for you. I have to see reason however, I am having a bad run at present but soon things will get better, just because I haven't experienced a decent person who loves me doesn't mean he isn't out there. I need to keep sober, keep taking the anti-depressants and learn to love myself. If I imagine my 2 exes the way they were before they met me and during it helps, because it shows that they too were lonely and desparate and now they are not so there's hope for us too. Hope this helps, believe me I know how much it hurts.

41_and_i_know_it

shaggydoo wrote: »

I suppose it depends. What is it you are trying to achieve? Are you trying to drink within recommended healthy unit limits or are you trying to quit?

I don't know what I'm trying to achieve?:rotfl:
I want to try to drink within recommended limits, and I want to give up, but if I cant't do either I want to become more aware of my pattern of drinking, the amount that I drink and what I actually put in my mouth, and to stop and think before I do that.
Everytime I make a promise to myself or set a target I get all rebellious and childish and so self-sabotage, so I'm just going to roll with it.
I'm so scared about messing it up. Want to improve my life and my health and know that alcohol is not needed in my life, end of. Can someone tell my body and my mind and my soul though.:D

PriceySOS

17 please, Shaggy, ta

Nearly joined DH in a glass of red wine last night (I normally drink white, so could have managed just one glass, I think) however, it was late, and the fact that there was a cork to be removed managed to remind me to be AF :j

Barny1979

shaggydoo wrote: »

February 2013

SET YOUR

Everyone Welcome!!!

My target will be 27 days, as I have a Stag Do during February and not sure if I will not drink as yet.

*Mari*

Barny1979 wrote: »

Date was good on Thursday night, then went out with work last night and drove. So 25/31 so far

Glad the date went well :j Are you going to see them again?