why are men so strange?

martinthebandit

Yep, the old adage of 'if you want a happy relationship have a relationship with someone who's happy' works both ways.

sweetme

It's all very simple where men are concerned. If a man is interested you will know. You will be his priority, he will call when says, meet you when he says. Men don't play games. They are logical creatures. Otherwise, he's just not that interested

Goldiegirl

Ladyhawk wrote: »

The second paragraph is the most frustrating, patronising and irritating thing that you could say to a singleton.

Sorry. didn't mean to upset anyone, but that's how it's happened for me in the past. I wasn't looking, but the right person at the time came along

glamrochick

yeah sometimes i met them and didnt fancy them either that is true.. had a lot going on so im very pessimistic but when with people/ friends im a happy person and takes my mind of it cos i always was happy until i had a few tragedies that occurred so therefore that made me more bleak on things .. i enjoy writing so will start writing for my uni mag.people do tell me gotta kiss a few frogs, had a few relationships annoying it comes to people so quick though and others not lol

System

I think with online dating, you have to not take it too seriously, as in don't invest too much into a person all at once. I remember having a date with a guy and thinking it went pretty well, then he never spoke to me again, but i just brushed it off and moved on. Ive not always been able to do that, i used to take rejection pretty personally but to be honest if you don't click, you don't click. Doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, just that they weren't the right person for you.

With current bf we did click, we talked none stop, met up and started going out all in the space of 2 weeks (and 8 months later are still together). If they are interested they will make the effort and you'll know.

pimento

glamrochick wrote: »

.. he had a good heart but dont think he knew how to treat women, cos you cant keep letting someone down, they will get fed up and i did.. gave him a few chances .. isnt his fault hes depressed but shouldnt let me down last minute

He was married.

mrcow

If you're early 20s and at university, why are you dating online? Just go out with friends at uni and you'll meet plenty of men (more than plenty!). Just try it the normal way, you're more likely to get someone on your own level.

Sooki

glamrochick wrote: »

yeah sometimes i met them and didnt fancy them either that is true.. had a lot going on so im very pessimistic but when with people/ friends im a happy person and takes my mind of it cos i always was happy until i had a few tragedies that occurred so therefore that made me more bleak on things .. i enjoy writing so will start writing for my uni mag.people do tell me gotta kiss a few frogs, had a few relationships annoying it comes to people so quick though and others not lol

I know i did the frog anology but I'm a fussy git, When people used to say to me things like there are plenty of fish in the sea, I used say 'yes but I want the salmon!'

Don't be so hard on yourself, you sound like your still young. You've got loads of time to have fun, I bet most of your friends that are in relationships now won't last just from simple changing life expectations and going in different directions especially uni relationships.

When I split from the ex I met him when I was 18 & one of my few regrets in life was sticking with him it effected the options and decisions I needed to make when I left uni, totally my fault but I totally f'd up my future by staying with him (and was it worth it? No) when I left the pillock at about 25 I thought I was over the hill and would never meet anyone, I really cringe at that now!

You can hold yourself back so much trying to make a situation your not ready for. Your at uni for a stepping stone into the next stage of your life, being in a serious relationship ( unless you meet the ONE) will hold you back.

I'm happy now & had a fab time being single and i was super fussy and extra cautious before i commited again, knowing that being in a serious relationship can really limit your life decisions. Whoever you meet it has to be someone who you really spark with and who can be you best friend .

I'd really hate to date again but in your position I think I'd join something like a boat club and learn to sail, most boat clubs have quite a social life. I know Internet dating is very popular but the very thought of it makes my toes curl, bit like I don't buy shoes online as I need to try them on first - I couldn't judge anyone until I'd met them in the flesh and the thought of advertising myself on the web makes me shudder, but there again I'm a different generation.

glamrochick

nobody to meet at uni really , thought i might have met someone.. so i will stick with online dating. and well done to you messed up for doing well with online dating, ive had a few relationships from it, guess gotta be lucky..

Dunroamin

glamrochick wrote: »

nobody to meet at uni really , thought i might have met someone.. so i will stick with online dating. and well done to you messed up for doing well with online dating, ive had a few relationships from it, guess gotta be lucky..

It must have changed a lot since my day!