why are men so strange?

Ladyhawk

OP - I feel your pain.

As I said earlier... I want to scream every time someone says "oh just stop looking" or "don't look on line, there only freaks on there... go out and actually meet people".

Im not a freak and I do online dating. I am sure that there will be similar men out there in the same position. As for getting out there... I've doing that and guess what I meet loads of fabulous women and no eligible men.

My only advise is that all people are strange in their own way. If they dont meet your needs (ie letting you down, not contacting you) then hold your head up high and move on, Sometimes, they are just not that into you.

Irony

Perhaps they didn't think your texting/emails were very thoughtful ie sloppy.

PasturesNew

Irony wrote: »

Perhaps they didn't think your texting/emails were very thoughtful ie sloppy.

A sh4g's a sh4g... must have come across as a buuny boiler to get the total cold shoulder over multiple calls/texts.

Sooki

Don't mean to sound harsh but can't think of how else to say it, You sound a bit full on and wanting a relationship just to fit in with your friends, this will scare the living day lights out of any normal person!

Just treat the dating as a bit of fun if you bond a relationship might naturally follow but it's a mutual process not a right.

The first bloke sounded a bit of a non committal type of guy and would of ended up in tears any way.

The second you both were playing the field, flirting online for all you know he's not even single and just likes seeing if can pull at a safe arms length so to speak.

Not all relationships are healthy and for a guess I bet some of your friends are envious of your freedom.

BitterAndTwisted

glamrochick wrote: »

annoying they say when you arent looking you will find him have to look somehow though..

It might be annoying but it is true. Some men can see "looking" as if it was branded on your forehead.

online is best for me, dont wanna meet someone in a bar and they are drunk..

Go to bars early in the evening and you should get chatting to sober ones.
annoying cos all i want is to like someone and they like me, not a lot to ask lol that is true you can tell but he did like me buy what he said which was weird

If you're looking then you need to go where the suitable men are most likely to hang out. If you've got any particular interests then that should guide you to where you should be going.

Music forums, especially ones for specific genres are great places to talk to and meet like-minded people in real life. I've met loads of interesting people this way. Some of them could be women but they all know men and could introduce you to them if you're not patently unhinged.

glamrochick

my friends are very happy.. i want a relationship to be happy with someone cos i deserve some happiness.. the 2nd guy was single, i didnt wanna come across as annoying or bunny boiler lol just really wanna talk to him .. yeah guy in birmingham things would have stayed the same , never progressed..

i will keep on with the online dating and see if i meet someone else.. gets annoying when i meet guys once and not again, makes me think theres no point, hard to work out where you hit it off these days

Dunroamin

glamrochick wrote: »

i will keep on with the online dating and see if i meet someone else.. gets annoying when i meet guys once and not again, makes me think theres no point, hard to work out where you hit it off these days

Surely there must be men you "meet" online and then when you see them in the flesh you don't fancy them so break contact? It's just the same for the men, you know.

Jox

I'm sure you'll meet someone nice, don't worry about these 2 men, they weren't right for you, their loss!

Sooki

Try bitter & twisted advice, it's the best yet.

Go try some new hobbies even if you don't meet anyone this way you'll certainly grow as a person expand your social group and meet some really interesting people.

Things are not always what they seem, just for an example years ago I split up from a long term really unhealthy relationship - everyone was really shocked as we were seen as 'the perfect couple' from the outside looking in it must have looked happy but from the inside looking out it wasn't.

You will grow as a person and so will your taste in men, give yourself some me time. The old adage you have to kiss a few frogs before you meet your prince is very true, and be warned there are plenty of toads on route. I think there is too much pressure in society to form into couples too quick and you can easily get stuck in a relationship to quick that your not ready for.

trolleyrun

Here's something important to remember: YOU are responsible for your happiness, and unless you're happy with yourself you'll find it difficult to find a new (suitable) partner. I don't mean to sound harsh, sorry, but it had to be said. Take some time to enjoy your own company and work on your self-esteem and confidence. People who appear to be happy and confident attract more people.

Are you a positive person? Be very conscious of coming across as positive, as negativity and pessimism is very off-putting. Try to not come on too strong to potential partners. Keep conversation light and whatever you do - don't tell the bloke that you want to settle down (during first few months). It'll send him screaming for the hills.

I wish you good luck and success