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thegirlintheattic

I'm in a bit of a quandary. I'm quite a saver, and am always looking to the future and planning long term. The opportunity has presented itself to go on holiday with a relative who may not be able to travel for much longer. The holiday has been something mentioned in passing for many years but is really now only become feasible. It would be very special for my relative, something they have been looking forward to for many years. The problem is that the OH and myself have been saving for a deposit on our first house and we were hoping to have the deposit together by the end of the year. If I were to go on this holiday it would set these plans back quite a while and things would be doable but tight for a few months.

I keep going from - go or you'll regret it to that's a lot of money.

MSE, what would you do?

Annisele

Depending on the relationship I had with the relative, I might put out feelers as to whether the relative would pay for it.

You say *they've* been looking forward to it, not that you have - and you imply it would be more special for them than for you. It may well be that your relative wants your time and not your money, and would happily pay for both of you - especially if the alternatives are that you don't go, and that you do go but you're worried about the cost the whole time.

claire16c

If pick whichever option I would regret not doing in years to come, if I didn't take it.

I don't know how close you are & what the holiday would mean to the pair of you, but if its something important I know that for myself, in say 10 years time, an extra few months in a house won't mean anything but you'll always have the memories & experience of the trip.

Sambucus_Nigra

I haven't got a clue as I don't know your relative, where you are going, whether I think I would enjoy it there or whether it would be worth the sacrifice.

thegirlintheattic

I would love to go, it would be very special to me too. I have a very close relationship with this relative. I'm not sure they would be able to pay for my fare as well; we are lucky that we would be visiting close friends who would put us up.

The relative doesn't know I'm considering the trip yet. It had been mentioned about going a while ago when it was looking as if my OH would be away for a period of time. That didn't happen and my relative seemed very disappointed (they automatically thought that meant I would go on holiday with OH), which has got me thinking that if it keeps getting put off it may never happen, and that would be something I'd regret.

lilymay1

Life is far too short and you never know what's going to happen.

Go on the holiday.

motherofstudents

Go. You say you will regret it if you don't. You will get back on track and buy your house. Take lots of photographs too so you can look back and remember.

Mojisola

What does your OH feel about it?

meritaten

What does your OH say? I presume you are both saving for the house deposit? is he agreeable to you going and putting the deposit on hold for another year or so? you dont actually say whether OH is going on this holiday too?

meritaten

snap! cross posted with mojisola! lol

WolfSong2000

lilymay1 wrote: »

Life is far too short and you never know what's going to happen.

Go on the holiday.

This. I meant to go to the States last year to catch up with some friends - one of whom had been diagnosed with cancer (she had been in remission). She was told it was terminal, but not imminently...anyhow, as it turned out I couldn't make it out, but we kept saying "it'll be okay, I'll come out next year" and I assumed there was still time. Well, to cut a long story short, there wasn't. My friend got a call from her Dr saying good news, cancer is in remission again, you're no longer terminal then a few hours later she was braindead from an aneirusm caused by the chemo. The timing was cruel, and I still really regret not finding a way to scrape together the money to go out and see her last year, instead of assuming there would always be time.

I guess what I am saying is, some memories are invaluable. I am also saving for a house deposit, but I am still making sure I also save enough to go to the States this year to see my other friends, instead of just assuming that there will always be time, because there isn't.

My priorities have changed....yes, I want to be able to get together enough money for a house, but a house in of itself doesn't buy you memories, and I have some amazing memories from the time I did get to spend with my friend before she passed - if someone offered to trade me a multi-million pound house for those memories there is no way I would do it, lets put it that way!