My lodger...

seven-day-weekend

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

A touch mean? I think it's really rude and unfriendly, to put it mildly.

I'm not mean and unfriendly. I've been told, in fact, that I am really hospitable and am still friends with several of my ex- lodgers. They had the use of the rest of the house, just not our sitting room. Nothing wrong with having your own space. Our son didn't sit in with us either once he was grown up, he preferred his room and HIS own space.

BitterAndTwisted

Of course they had the use of the rest of the house. Everyone needs to bathe and prepare food. But banishing a lodger to their own room if there's no other reception-room for them to use is rude and unfriendly. In my opinion. Thus spaketh a person who has had many lodgers over the past three decades

seven-day-weekend

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Of course they had the use of the rest of the house. Everyone needs to bathe and prepare food. But banishing a lodger to their own room if there's no other reception-room for them to use is rude and unfriendly. In my opinion. Thus spaketh a person who has had many lodgers over the past three decades

Yes, I speak in that capacity too. They could use the other reception room if they wished, but on the whole they were happy to stay in their room surrounded by their own things.

BitterAndTwisted

Oh well, if you had more than one reception-room so your lodger could use the other, that's fair enough. Did they banish you from the one they used unless you were given a personal invitation from them?

seven-day-weekend

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Oh well, if you had more than one reception-room so your lodger could use the other, that's fair enough. Did they banish you from the one they used unless you were given a personal invitation from them?

No, because you have to go through it to get to everywhere else.

They knew the rules before they agreed to stay, if they had not have agreed with it they'd have gone somewhere else.

It is my house, I am entitled to make whatever rules I wish.

As I say, I am still friendly with some of them, if we'd have been that unwelcoming, they would not have bothered. I go to stay with the two who married each other, and their family, every so often. So they obviously felt welcome enough.

mustang121

I agree with everyone else. Why does it bother YOU so much?

So long as the lodger respects the house rules, then you should respect the lodger. It's up to them how they want to live thier life.

.....unless you somehow thought by having a lodge meant they had to loose thier freewill as well?

Deep_In_Debt

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

I'm not mean and unfriendly. I've been told, in fact, that I am really hospitable and am still friends with several of my ex- lodgers. They had the use of the rest of the house, just not our sitting room. Nothing wrong with having your own space. Our son didn't sit in with us either once he was grown up, he preferred his room and HIS own space.

But that was his choice surely?

Deep_In_Debt

katejo wrote: »

That has always seemed a touch mean to me, particularly if their room is small. Remember that a lodger with a tv in their room has to buy a separate licence to watch live tv (unless related to you). My lodger takes a pretty balanced approach. He is welcome in my living room but does spend quite a bit of time in his room.

That's interesting as i always thought it was one TV licence per household regardless of how many TV's there are streaming live TV or whether people are related or not unless you have a property with individually locking rooms and separate tenancies.

anselld

Rent "Pacific Heights" on DVD. Then count yourself lucky!

ultrarunner

Well my lodger had dinner on the table when I got back from work last night and cleaned the kitchen today while I was in London.

Result!!