Living with the ex!

amyloofoo

findingmyownway wrote: »

Unnecessary scaremongering!

OP, if you have had chicken pox then you are highly highly unlikely to contract any issues from your ex.

Shingles cannot be passed between people. Someone with shingles can give someone else chicken pox, but that is largely through close contact (which i assume you're not having with your ex and regardless in 99% of cases this only happens only when the recipient has not had chicken pox before).

Phone your doctor for official advice. I know this from being 31 weeks pregnant with a husband who has had shingles twice in last 6 months. I've had chicken pox as a child and so noone was remotely worried about me or the baby.


As an aside... I agree with the posters who think shingles is an odd thing to self-diagnose. Is it possible he knows/suspects about the pregnancy and is just trying to scare you?

Either way, leaving the house is clearly the best course of action, but please don't get over-worried about the shingles until you have more information from a doctor. Unnecessary stress won't do the baby any good.

I'd agree, except that the OP has said she hasn't had chicken pox - unless I'm misreading it? She says "having never had chickenpox before im panicking now over the baby", which reads to me that she may be at risk. Unfortunately I have seen a child who was affected by the mother contracting chicken pox during pregnancy... if you can avoid it, you certainly should. I agree that it's very unlikely, her ex may be making it up or mistaken and that once it's showing it's unlikely to be infectious; but I think I'd still rather not take that risk with a baby, just my opinion.

ktb

findingmyownway wrote: »

Unnecessary scaremongering!
OP, if you have had chicken pox then you are highly highly unlikely to contract any issues from your ex.

Re-read the OP's post - she hasn't had chicken pox, hence her concern.

No scaremongering therefore, as if the ex does have it this DOES put the OP at risk. Not that I believe him, but either way, she should mitigate any risk & move out.

podperson

I would echo getting medical advice on the risks but I think it may be better to be safe then sorry and find anywhere you possibly can to stay for the next 3 weeks. Could you ask your new partner's parents if you could stay with them? I fail to see how there's 'no room' as he obviously has a room there so can't you just share with him (me and OH had a single bed for 18months when we moved in together!) or sleep on the couch. It's only for a few weeks, have you told them about the baby yet - as unless they are completely heartless then surely they could put up with a little overcrowding for the sake of their new grandchild's health?? Failing that look for a b&b or even a youth hostel.

Does you ex know you're moving out in a few weeks - if he doesn't know about the new partner where does he think you're moving to? Just thinking that he may know more then he's letting on and may well be lying just to 'get to you'. But then do you want to risk it?

findingmyownway

amyloofoo wrote: »

I'd agree, except that the OP has said she hasn't had chicken pox - unless I'm misreading it? She says "having never had chickenpox before im panicking now over the baby", which reads to me that she may be at risk. Unfortunately I have seen a child who was affected by the mother contracting chicken pox during pregnancy... if you can avoid it, you certainly should. I agree that it's very unlikely, her ex may be making it up or mistaken and that once it's showing it's unlikely to be infectious; but I think I'd still rather not take that risk with a baby, just my opinion.

You're right if she hasnt had CP it's more of a worry, but advice to see a doctor rather than get panicked over Internet advice still stands. Shingles contagiousness is different to CP - it's mainly through close contact with the rash, sharing towels etc rather than through the air like with CP.

Either way OP, I hope you see a doctor today and make some plans to move out ASAP