Law for non married couples for property when they split up

Phirefly

definitely agree, and if you don't feel ready to buy together then you're more along the lines of my friends that I mentioned and as such there's nothing wrong with the arrangement as long as you both know where you stand. Good luck

Melissa177

sciencegeek wrote: »

Would you suggest that a single person living on their own is essentially working two full time jobs then? (job 1 = daywork, job 2 = housework). Call me cynical but I can cook clean shop and do all the housy things as well as work full time and the housy stuff only takes about an hour a day.
If a househusband/housewife was spending 8 hours a day on housework it would be like living inside a sterile box it would be so clean!!!

I sometimes feel like I work two full time jobs! I only have myself to look after, thankfully, but if I had someone else to look after, I'm not sure I could cope. Today I'm at home (ill, alas), but housework can be a full time job. Cleaning, cooking, ironing, decorating (a lot of that recently!) all take a lot of time, especially when you leave home at 7:20 and don't get in until 7pm at night. Then there are bills to look after and all that household admin; sorting out issues with boilers and anything else that needs maintaining; gardening etc.

My mother does have quite a relaxed life, as she would admit, but she's also incredibly practical. She paints. She retarmacs the driveway. She reroofs/refelts the sheds. She mends gutters, fixes chimneys, and runs the house. All this is a lot to fit in! And dad loves it because he works hard all day and can then come home to relax with his wife, rather than worry about cleaning/cooking/washing.

olly300

sciencegeek wrote: »

Would you suggest that a single person living on their own is essentially working two full time jobs then? (job 1 = daywork, job 2 = housework). Call me cynical but I can cook clean shop and do all the housy things as well as work full time and the housy stuff only takes about an hour a day.
If a househusband/housewife was spending 8 hours a day on housework it would be like living inside a sterile box it would be so clean!!!

If you work away from home then you create less mess in the home cos your not there most of the time.

If you work at home then you have more cleaning and washing up to do as you use your bathroom and kitchen more!!

A househusband/housewife would be doing normal housework stuff plus all the stuff required to look after children especially before and after school. Only when kids are teenagers do some of the responsibilities decrease especially if you teach the kids to do stuff for themselves and the house, like ironing their own school uniform or making them go to school with it creased if they refuse to do it.

thesaint

Did I click the wrong button and end up on Trisha's (Goddard) forum?

otherparty

Hi everyone and thanks for all your input to (my g/f) zweety's dilemma!

i just wanted to explain the situation from my side.

i have been intending to buy a property for a while now, although it was meant first and foremost to be as an investment. It was not even certain that i would live in the property myself (as i already have a property which i jointly own). Either way, my intention was to buy a 2/3 bedroom flat and rent out the other bedrooms (if i lived there too) or all the bedrooms (if i didn't live there myself). It was not meant to be a home for my future, rather a means to make money!

The situation has of course changed now in that i have met the lovely zweety and would be very happy to live with her.

When we initially discussed living together, my thoughts were that i would still buy a two/three bed flat/house and rent out the others rooms. Had she accepted this, there would have been NO question of me charging her rent at all! However, Zweety has (understandably) made it quite clear she won't accept any lodgers. So, as such, my opinion on the subject is that she needs to contribute in some way. Otherwise, it's simply too much of a financial burden for me right now. The form that the 'rent' takes is unimportant to me. It can mean paying more than 50% for the bills or paying for furniture etc., or it can simply be a normal 'rent'. My preferred option would be the latter. As she says, it would not be more than a couple of hundred quid. That way, we could just simply split everything else 50/50.

It should also be noted that, financially, she is currently not in a position to obtain a mortgage and, if we bought together, her (unfairly) poor credit score - due to the fact that although European, she has only been in the UK for just over a year - would no doubt be a problem. Anyhow, i think that it is just too soon in our relationship to buy together.

In a year or two, if the relationship works out (and we can both afford it), i would definitely consider making her a part owner (and/or stopping the rent payments altogether).

Thanks again for all your opinions - they are much appreciated! :beer:

ds1980

Interesting conversation. Our lass is is a similar position. This goes back quite a way. Bought a house with previous partner. She paid the deposit on the house but he paid the mortgage and she paid the bills etc.

They split up some 4 years or so ago and just found out he has sold the house. I know that its a long time to wait but wondered if she was entitled to anything. I believe that by law (which ) has recently changed if you are providing towards a house you are entitled to the monies?

Should she get a solicitor involved? They havent' spoken for 3 years probably is it too late?

thanks

Meatballs

Paying to the joint living costs, call it groceries & bills, or rent it doesn't make much difference in practice?

The person buying the house is taking all the financial risks. The person living with partner would be paying rent regardless, so why shouldn't they contribute?

I would expect the partner who bought the house to be subsidising the other partner as they are gaining a house out of it, then both are benefitting financially.

If it's 50/50 then it really should be a joint mortgage..?