Problem with upstairs neighbour any ideas?

Skippycat

loopy94 wrote: »

We do own our place and both work. We both try to let it go but we now have a baby and if we go outside they stick to your shoes and end up on our floor. I don't really want my little boy chewing on cigarette ends.
Thanks for all the ideas so far collecting them together might show her how bad it is.

I'd be tempted to do what has already been suggested and next time you bag them up knock on her door and hand the bag to her. Alternatively don't collect them and knock on her door and politely ask what time she is intending to collect HER rubbish from YOUR garden.

To be honest I think she has an absolute nerve. She no doubt wouldn't want to risk her offspring chewing on cigarette ends but she is happy enough to put your child's health in danger.

KiKi

As others have said, you just can't put a price on being okay with your neighbours.

I don't think pushing cigarette butts through her door's a good idea even if she didn't have kids - especially if she doesn't really realise how many she's dropping.

I'd collect them up and go and see her with your baby. Explain that this is how many you've collected in a week. You really appreciate that she has said before that she won't drop them. But for whatever reason, they're still landing your garden and now you have a baby you just can't have that risk around him. So you've bought her an ashtray to help, but you just can't have cigarette butts falling where your little boy may crawl out, or where you're standing on them and bringing them back into the house. And, of course, having children she'll understand that, won't she? Etc.

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loopy94 wrote: »

Hi I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to deal with a problem with the tenants in the flat upstairs. We live in two storey block of flats with us downstairs. Backing the flats is our garden with our neighbours behind. The lady living upstairs (single mum with 3 kids under 5 and a small dog) smokes as do her many visitors and they throw all their cigarette ends into our back garden about 10-15 a day.
I have asked her to stop 3-4 times over the last 2 years as has my husband to which she is always nice and says of course but never does. We were tempted to sweep them up and put them through her door but we wouldn't because of the kids. Is there anything we could do?

I too had the exact same problem with a previous tennant who lived above me. I also own a ground floor flat. She and her visitors used to throw the fag butts out of her kitchen and lounge window. We have a leasing company as none of us own the land and a previous owner who does odd jobs still belongs to the association. When he was around i mentioned what the above tennant was doing and he collected the fag butts up and made a call to the leasing company. Who wrote a letter to her and other residents about throwing cigarettes out of the window. The letter stated how it could be a fire hazard as they were landing on storage boxes below our windows. I therefore wasnt involved and the cigarette butts never appeared again. Could you do something along these lines?

jaqui59

She may have been polite and said that she would stop, but underneath I think there is a possibility she didn't like being asked/told, hence why she is still doing it.

If it were me, I would try and bite my lip on this one, and take a minute or two picking them up and disposing of them for the baby's sake.

Savvy_Sue

There are some risks with this, but is it worth escalating to the landlord? Or asking THEM to provide an ashtray.

Of course you may find that their tenancy agreement says 'no smoking', in which case ...

yvonne13_2

OP have you got an update? Does the person upstairs also own her property?

loopy94

The lady upstairs rents her flat. I'm going out this afternoon and I will have a look for a bin/ashtray see if that helps!

LannieDuck

I would try again now that you have a baby and explain how really important it is. Now that you have a solid reason, she may make an effort to stop being lazy.

If that fails too, try the landlord.

Kirri

loopy94 wrote: »

The lady upstairs rents her flat. I'm going out this afternoon and I will have a look for a bin/ashtray see if that helps!

Get onto the landlord and managing agents and put in a complaint.

I personally wouldn't fancy talking to the person concerned - if they are doing that they are hardly likely to be the sort that would respond well or they wouldn't be so selfish in the first place!

It happened here but the directors got onto the tenants straight away, it is somewhat easier if they are tenants and there is more hope they will be sorted out, some people have no idea how to live in a communal area..

olibrofiz

from your OP, your garden is directly attached to your flat then there is a garden behind that belongs to your upstairs neighbours? Could be that they are throwing their fag ends short

help the butts on their way and into their garden?