Compensation for horrific treatment during a miscarriage NHS?

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brunettegirl wrote: »

Because they owe us for making a distressing situation a million times worse than it needed to be.

Hospitals don't like having to give money away, been made to do that would make them take more notice and look at their treatment.

Good luck, it is a very long and drawn out process. My friend lost her teenage daughter through medical negligence and it took 6 very long and stressfull years before the case was finally all settled and she wasn't left with a great chunk after she had settled the legal bills. she had a very good case and lots of evidence against the hospital.

jetplane

I am very sorry for your loss, I can not imagine how you must be feeling. To lose your child in this way must be devastating, to have it made a whole lot worse my the medical profession is unforgivable. Our daughter gave birth in traumatic circumstances last year which were due to staff negligence and believe me it got worse after the birth. Now although this was not me giving birth, and they are both doing well, I am only just starting to breathe again.

I did make an official complaint and the hospital have changed some procedures, the midwives admitted that they got it wrong and made bad decisions. This was little consolation to our daughter who already knew they had got it badly wrong. We have since heard of someone else who has also made an official complaint the same week.

Medical negligence is difficult and as others have said it is a long process and has many aspects to it but you need to speak to a good solicitor, not an ambulance chaser, but a solicitor who specialises in this area and they will be able to put the case into perspective.

Right now it may be financial recompense that you want, you may feel differently later. I totally understand your need for answers, in the first few weeks nothing short of their heads on a plate would have satisfied me. I cannot tell you the various scenes of personal revenge that have gone through my head.

Meanwhile you will need to grieve and regain your strength, have you been to your GP? Our daughter was diagnosed with post traumatic stress, she was given medication and she has improved with a lot of care and support.

Get in touch with bereavement services and do whatever you have to :A

And I think you should tell fluffnutter to fluff off and use your ignore button.

fluffnutter

jetplane wrote: »

I am very sorry for your loss, I can not imagine how you must be feeling. To lose your child in this way must be devastating, to have it made a whole lot worse my the medical profession is unforgivable. Our daughter gave birth in traumatic circumstances last year which were due to staff negligence and believe me it got worse after the birth. Now although this was not me giving birth, and they are both doing well, I am only just starting to breathe again.

I did make an official complaint and the hospital have changed some procedures, the midwives admitted that they got it wrong and made bad decisions. This was little consolation to our daughter who already knew they had got it badly wrong. We have since heard of someone else who has also made an official complaint the same week.

Medical negligence is difficult and as others have said it is a long process and has many aspects to it but you need to speak to a good solicitor, not an ambulance chaser, but a solicitor who specialises in this area and they will be able to put the case into perspective.

Right now it may be financial recompense that you want, you may feel differently later. I totally understand your need for answers, in the first few weeks nothing short of their heads on a plate would have satisfied me. I cannot tell you the various scenes of personal revenge that have gone through my head.

Meanwhile you will need to grieve and regain your strength, have you been to your GP? Our daughter was diagnosed with post traumatic stress, she was given medication and she has improved with a lot of care and support.

Get in touch with bereavement services and do whatever you have to :A

And I think you should tell fluffnutter to fluff off and use your ignore button.

I expect £50 would have made you feel a lot better. At least it would have paid for the parking tickets!

No amount of money brings back a lost child. If you think it does, your priorities are appalling.

FBaby

There is a big difference between medical malpractice resulting in the death or severe disability (or not that severe for that matter) of a patient, and a very bad experience that could have been handled much better.

OP, you've experienced a huge trauma, but how much of this trauma is due to your loss rather than your experience at the hospital. If you'd had a baby at the end of that same treatment, would you have felt as hard done by? If you had received fantastic treatment, would that had taken away the pain and suffering you've experienced? How can you categorize the intensity of your pain between the experience of the actual loss and the experience of the poor treatment.

I totally agree that you need to complain, and be reassured that things will change as well as receive an apology, but as it's been said, most of your pain will remain due to the loss and no financial compensation will take that away.

jetplane

fluffnutter wrote: »

I expect £50 would have made you feel a lot better. At least it would have paid for the parking tickets!

No amount of money brings back a lost child. If you think it does, your priorities are appalling.

Can you not read you fool? We did not lose a child, we did not claim compensation? We did not pay parking tickets either as the hospital give free passes when children are ill in hospital.

You must be one of these incompetent midwives are you? Oh no your just a troll with an appalling lack of empathy for the OP.

jetplane

FBaby wrote: »

There is a big difference between medical malpractice resulting in the death or severe disability (or not that severe for that matter) of a patient, and a very bad experience that could have been handled much better.

OP, you've experienced a huge trauma, but how much of this trauma is due to your loss rather than your experience at the hospital. If you'd had a baby at the end of that same treatment, would you have felt as hard done by? If you had received fantastic treatment, would that had taken away the pain and suffering you've experienced? How can you categorize the intensity of your pain between the experience of the actual loss and the experience of the poor treatment.

I totally agree that you need to complain, and be reassured that things will change as well as receive an apology, but as it's been said, most of your pain will remain due to the loss and no financial compensation will take that away.

FBaby a very perceptive post

FBaby

jetplane wrote: »

FBaby a very perceptive post

Thank you I hope it can help OP a bit.

fluffnutter

jetplane wrote: »

Can you not read you fool? We did not lose a child, we did not claim compensation? We did not pay parking tickets either as the hospital give free passes when children are ill in hospital.

I think if you'd read the whole thread, you'd have understood the point I was making.

But to be clearer, what happened to brunettegirl was awful, what happened to you and your family was awful. To then come on a money saving internet site asking how best to make money out of such an appallingly sad event just utterly cheapens it. It turns a tragic situation into a tawdry cash-generating opportunity.

I appreciate that you didn't do this. But you were attacking my stance, hence my response to you. In doing so I was trying to expose the futility of expecting a bit of cash to compensate for a terrible experience. Unfortunately it seemed to go right over your head

skintchick

I think that actually the Op doesn;t especially want money, she wants to try and hit the hospital in a place that hurts, and she thinks that a financial loss to the hospital will make them realise how serious this situation was for her.

I don't agree but I do understand why she wants it.

As others have said, it is probably more a need for acknowledgement and validation, for the hospital to recognise what they did and to somehow suffer for it. Sadly, I don't think that is achieveable.

Op, I think you should take the incredible energy you have for this and direct it at making a full complaint, getting MP and press involved, and aiming for an improvement in the service offered.

From my own personal experiences with miscarriages I agree that hospital deal with them appallingly, both from an emotional point but also just from a level of competence.

There is an appalling lack of understanding or even a desire to understand how awful it is to lose your child, and a feeling that as it is a dead baby you are having, you can wait, and they can put others before you, because your child is dead and therefore beyond help.

It's a disgusting attitude and I totally get why the OP wants some recompense. It's not about the money. It's about the hospital truly understanding.

marywooyeah

Fluffnutter im shocked at you, you're usually a nice compassionate poster, I've reported your posts. The op deserved yo be treated with dignity, respect and sensitivity and she was treated appallingly by the hospital. Shes rightly angry, hurt and on top of dealing with an unbearable loss she has the trauma of being treated with no consideration by "professionals" who should be taking care of her every step of the way.

Op im so sorry you lost your little one, the pain does subside but its always going to hurt. I found writing on a paper lantern then sending it to heaven helped me feel closer to my lost one, maybe this would help you? Or balloons or something along those lines?


Its natural to want those who treated you badly to pay for what they did. The sad part is they probably dontv care, people like that wont learn lessons. I think you should follow the complaints procedure, but as others have warned its long, coldand painful and the most yyou'll likely get is a letter saying they'll "review their policies". Its so difficult to prove medical negligence: you'd have to prove that they breached theirduty of care and that the breach caused the harm youve suffered. In medical negligence, the standard of care will be judged against a doctor of the same standard, so if another dr would have done the same then its difficult to succeed in a claim.

It will take time, but make your complaint and feelings known. Its not ok for them to treat you that way, and I'm genuinely sorry that youve suffered this horrible tragedy xxxx