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borgman · 1 January 2013 at 11:19PM

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Mojisola · 1 January 2013 at 11:23PM

You probably don't want to hear this now but you're well rid of her!

Give yourself time. It will get better and, as it does, you'll be able to see her true nature.

Welshwoofs · 1 January 2013 at 11:29PM

Borgman - the sad fact of life is that we're as capable of falling in love with total a-holes as we are with people who are actually good for us. We all do it at one time or another - it's horrendous when it happens; they rip your heart and your guts out and then they trot off into the distance without a backward glance, leaving you a snivveling wreck.

So that's the position - you're a snivveling wreck and you've wasted over 5 years on a cow who doesn't give a crap about you. Accept that position, get a piece of paper and mark it as the low point because....here's the good news.....from here it's uphill!

You've given her a lot....don't give her anymore. No more of your time, thoughts and tears. She doesn't deserve them. It doesn't matter what she says and it doesn't matter how much what she says hurts - hold your head up, stick your chin out and every morning when you get up and look in the mirror say "Phuck her - I'm better than that!" Pretty soon you'll believe it.

roxy13 · 1 January 2013 at 11:31PM

How horrible for you. So sorry to hear this but you are well rid.

Unfortunately time is the only healer. Ive been through this myself and i was so devastated. I dropped 3 dress sizes, couldnt sleep and had terrible anxiety from it.

I now realise that he wasnt worth the pain or heartbreak.
Really Mojisola sums it up. Sorry i cant be of more help but someone that can treat you like that after 5.5yrs together is a horrible person and not worth worrying about. Of course this is easy for me to say. You will realise this in time.

Dave101t · 1 January 2013 at 11:33PM

you will look back on this time in the future and use it as a life lesson...and be wiser for it.

londonsurrey · 1 January 2013 at 11:45PM

You still have feelings for her because you were sincere.

The fact that she's turned out to be a total bovine and bicycle doesn't change you, it just means that you now know that that person you fell in love with wasn't the real her. It's a huge shock, your world is upside down, and you just have to let yourself have time to wrap your mind round it and heal.

You are now free of her. She's a conwoman selling herself to the highest bidder, the currency might be thrills and/or money. Ignore her, and you can spend your time on a person worth spending your future with.

Mojisola · 1 January 2013 at 11:45PM

Dave101t wrote: »

you will look back on this time in the future and use it as a life lesson...and be wiser for it.

And be so grateful that you didn't marry her and/or have a child with her.

As things stand, you can cut her out of your life completely.

BitterAndTwisted · 2 January 2013 at 12:22AM

The only good part of all of this is that she's shown herself for the truly heartless, callous biatch that she really is.

The regaling on Facebook stuff is a poor attempt at justifying what she knows is low-life behaviour. You should feel sorry for her rather than yourself. You'll recover from this eventually but she'll still be a low-life.

elsien · 2 January 2013 at 12:26AM

And block her number from your phone so she can't send any more nasty texts.

phill99 · 2 January 2013 at 2:06AM

Mojisola is right. If she has cheated on you before, she will do it again. You are best off without her. She sounds totally self centred and evidently you aren't. Go find yourself a decent GF that cares about ou and will value you.

DevilsAdvocate1 · 2 January 2013 at 2:13AM

I suggest you block her from your phone and delete her from her facebook. That way you won't know what she is saying so she won't be able to get to you. Although its harder initially, it will be easier in the long run if you can cut her out of your life altogether.