Hoarding - A New Start

lostinrates

Grey queen.....

Would you re read a journal?

I don't think we have to let go of old memories, they are part of us, but keeping them in balance with new ones, yes. Personally I no longer keep a journal. I do write other stuff though, in notebooks, and they stay. I relaised some years ago I was collecting when I bought a book from a man I became friends with everytime I went to Venice. I relaised this was becoming dangerously expensive besides anything else and decided to limit this purchasing then, but I use the notebooks, I love them, they look beautiful ontop of my desk.

VJsmum

GreyQueen wrote: »

Errmm, I've kind of been using this post to work things out. I'm just about ready to let this project go. Do you think I should?

Honestly??? No I don't. I know it goes against the grain of the thread but I think you might regret it. THere will be stuff in that journal that you've forgotten and that would make you smile to remember. I have a diary from my first ever trip abroad over 25 years ago. I thought I had chucked it but was so happy when i found it lurking in the bottom of the filing cabinet and there was tons I had forgotten. Can't you let the rough guide go and the tickets and stuff but keep the journal itself? How much room does it take up?

hobbitfancier

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Is there any way you could move out?

Get a house share?


I'm so sorry to say that she won't change. There's a good chance shell be accusing you of having stolen everything she can't find now, and demanding to inspect you before you leave the house.

Sorry. I know what that 'it's mine! It's mine!' screech sounds like.

I've calmed down a bit after talking to some friends and staying in my room. I'm going to be short with her for the next few days. She makes myself and my 16 year old brother feel like naughty children. I plan to move out this year, I am saving and hope to look at visas for Canada. Thank you for responding

GreyQueen

VJsmum wrote: »

Honestly??? No I don't. I know it goes against the grain of the thread but I think you might regret it. THere will be stuff in that journal that you've forgotten and that would make you smile to remember. I have a diary from my first ever trip abroad over 25 years ago. I thought I had chucked it but was so happy when i found it lurking in the bottom of the filing cabinet and there was tons I had forgotten. Can't you let the rough guide go and the tickets and stuff but keep the journal itself? How much room does it take up?

46 pages on Word, nicely-spaced and typed with little icons of a kiwi alongside each date entry. I'd forgotten how nice they looked.

Now that I look at it, I can see that I like it and don't need to throw the baby out with the bathwater. I'm going to print it out (not all tonight I think) and then decide if I want to make up 1-2 collage pages (perhaps as covers, I'm a bit arty) and then I'll have a slim document and the rest can disappear.

I can get a bit stuck in yes/no thought patterns. I need to entertain options like maybe, partially etc.

tibawo

Read with interest about the weight. True for me anyway!

I am one of those people who once they sit down that's it for the eve.we eat later because of this but also the girls activities mean things build up till thurs then I lose my temper because all the work I've done has gone to pot.

Feel I'm on a downer today, this cough I have seems to zapped all my energy.

Trying to focus of panto tomoz but in my head the little voice is saying well there's no point doing anything. I am shattered though as dd1's heart check up today and i get stressed just in case it does not go well and so driven for hours in the rain and then been swimming lessons. I am going to bed and gonna get up slightly early... I find this boosts my mood and I seem to work faster.

lostinrates

Well, that's everything I currently want to keep out of the cupboard. So why does it still look full?

Brighton_belle

This_Year wrote: »

Yesterday's mission resulted in a bag for the CS, but it was rummaged through last night and something's gone from it

I was annoying myself with my habit of always rescuing something from the c.s. bag just before it left the house. Until I realised, that if that was what I needed to do to feel emotionally safe about getting rid the rest, then so be it - I had still got 10+ things out of the house and only one rescued.

GreyQueen

OK, I decided to print out the whole travel journal and am now ripping up the scrappy note version and will start shredding it. The project is underway.

When it's done I shall have one slender folder instead of several inches' worth of stuff taking space and it will be easy to revist when I'm in the mood.:)

blossomhill_2

GQ It's funny you should mention the journal...

I was thinking yesterday how the photobooks that people create now will become the guilt-ridden emotional hoard of the future, what used to be the handful of photos of the past is now a "publication" - imagine a granma who has several branches of grandchildren, one book per Christmas ...

I know you will be the only one reading it, but I still think it's relevant to you nowadays ... although there is always a danger with photos that they are the only bits one remembers (a bit like Byatt's memory of a feeling)

BTW I think you should keep it but not perhaps things like sugar wrappers LOL and the Rough Guide spellings will be online anyway

Hobbitfancier, glad you've got people to talk to, you shouldn't have to go through this but believe me, many people do. Is your Dad supportive of you?

GreyQueen

I don't have kids so it'll either end up decluttered by me before I check off the planet or will be decluttered by Kid Bruv (if he survives me). Or perhaps it will end up as a garage sale oddity for the next century.

Wot I did on me 'olidays, by GQ.

:rotfl:

PS, I had a bit of a woo-woo when I read the bit about the sugar. I used to bring back sugar sachets from holiday as a "souvenir" until I came to my senses a couple of years ago and ripped them all open for the sugar jar and binned the sachets. Bit worried that you knew about that. I like to think I'm a unique and uniquely-odd indeevidyouall and it's frankly disturbing to find I'm Norma Normal in the hoarding stakes at least.