Will I get my money?

anonx_2

why isnt it relevant if she works or not ? i think that is the big issue - so you say it doesn't matter if she works or not? thats ok yeah? thats ok that the tax payer picks up her bill? is that what yr saying? someones gota pay for her, i think your wrong here

shoe*diva79

anonx wrote: »

why isnt it relevant if she works or not ? i think that is the big issue - so you say it doesn't matter if she works or not? thats ok yeah? thats ok that the tax payer picks up her bill? is that what yr saying? someones gota pay for her, i think your wrong here

Your other thread stated you didnt bother with the CSA because you were not allowed to keep the money. So they tax payer paid for your chldren to then because the only way you wouldnt have been able to keep it is if you were claiming benefits...

kevin137

anonx wrote: »

why isnt it relevant if she works or not ? i think that is the big issue - so you say it doesn't matter if she works or not? thats ok yeah? thats ok that the tax payer picks up her bill? is that what yr saying? someones gota pay for her, i think your wrong here

To be fair, it makes no difference, if you have a gripe about the rights and wrongs of claiming benefit when you have or don't have children that is for you to take up with your MP

We all know there are people who will jump to conclusions and we have many many arguments on here about what is right and wrong and what is good and bad advice, but if nothing is mentioned about income, then it SHOULD be assumed as the OP is employed... After all. The majority os the population IS employed, so you would in fact be stereotyping because it is as single mother posting... OR IS IT...? She may in fact be in another stable relationship, both working and on good above average incomes. But the fact that the money has stopped from an NRP is what the post is about, and that is ALL it should be about. The original question...

UsetheFORCE

shoe*diva79 wrote: »

She does not mention if she works or not as its not relevent. The father of her children is legally and morally obligated to contribute towards the cost of their children.

For all you know she could be disabled and unable to work.

Assume makes a !!! out of u (and me!) so maybe ask the OP for facts before slating her?

...as is the mother but hey, my ex can live on benefits while I have to pay for the privilege. Tell you what, I will have my son and she can go and pay for him!

This daft country makes me sick, get the PWC's out working and paying for THEIR children!!!

Of course, no idea whether the OP is claiming benefits....

Sensemaya

anonx wrote: »

kevin i think you forgot about the tax payer, she doesnt mention she has a job (i dont know why shes not working) its not her money that pays her bills or for her child, its the tax payers money, so she her self isnt paying never mind the dad

Perscat wrote: »

It's my money in the sense that I am the one who has to pay rent and council tax so my son has a home, shopping so he has food and clothes, gas so he has heat etc etc or do you think a child of 15 should have to be legally responsible for these things Wayne? It was also me who had to find a nice chunk of that elsewhere this month with no warning or explanation , so yes, it's my money.

anonx

Why should she mention she has a job, indeed why should she justify herself full stop, when she is asking a question?

Can you READ the sentence I've highlighted? What makes you think she's not working?

What business is it of yours?

UsetheFORCE wrote: »

This daft country makes me sick, get the PWC's out working and paying for THEIR children!!!

Of course, no idea whether the OP is claiming benefits....

Yeah get all PWCs working so the NRPs don't have to bother paying for THEIR children.

I for one have worked all my life since leaving full time education.

wayne,anonx and force- you are all idiots once again jumping to conclusions which don't concern you. But just so long as you can come and have a bash at PWCs on here that's OK and no doubt it makes you feel better for a while.

I say this: Pay up and shut up!

withabix

Back to the OP's question, as we appear to have gone off topic 'a bit' (although it does make me angry when the PWC in my case smokes 20 a day and goes out to the pub all weekend despite my kids going without meals and desperately needing new clothes and school shoes....priorities and all that....) :

If the OP's ex is on a DEO, there could be a number of reasons:

Sick pay taking pay down below protected level
Lost job
Left job

As the CSA say there is a Change of Circumstances request pending, it sounds like he has either lost his job or left his current job.

If it was anything else (assuming he is on a DEO), the CSA would already know what was going on.

mazza111

Withabix - I'm a PWC. And I'm a smoker. I've worked damned hard to make sure my kids had a roof over their head, we're not all like your x. And some on here (not you) should remember that before assuming that we p1$$ any CM up the wall. Hell the CM I get wouldn't buy me two beers in the pub, never mind keep the wee one going in bread for a week

Would be so nice on this forum if people would stick to the questions asked instead of jumping on that high horse and being so judgmental.

Please remember this forum is for getting advice people

withabix

Very true mazza!

I pay £7000 per year CM for two daughters PLUS EXTRAS, plus another £800 per year direct to my eldest daughter as pocket money, so I shouldn't expect to see my children going without!

....and yet the PWC still goes to the CSA for re-assessments whenever I don't 'fall into line' with her demands. That backfired on her in 2012 as the assessment was reduced by 15%!

mazza111

Sorry was a wee bitty hungover when I wrote that this morning I get £5/week for the wee man. Just annoys me when we all get tarred with the same brush. I've retired now on medical grounds, and it's been a struggle through the years, but I know who the kids respect more, and it's not through me bad mouthing him, cos I never have

There are good things and bad things to come out of separation/divorce. I just think some people need to step back and take a look at the bigger picture

Just like not all NRP are like my ex (thankfully), not all PWC are like some of the exes we see on here (thankfully):)

anonx - It's none of our business whether she is working or not. She's came here to ask about her CM. Not about what benefits she can get....

wayne0

TBF,

the law on CS2 doesnt take account of the income of PWC... so that is "irrelevant"

just like the law on CS2 doesnt take account of the living costs of family of second home of NRP.

im sure EVERYBODY feels that first and foremost everybody involved should be able to have the minium to live on before CSA is calculated (except of course the "i deserve everything i can get" PWC's)

but this isnt the case...

obviously, with the new benefits system coming into force... PWC's will be forced to do reasonable work...

BUT i agree with Withabix that tax payers end up paying twice when on csa too and a PWC works...

my issue is that PWC's dont cosnider that NRP's have to live too! and via the CSA NRP's cant live!