Bit worried!

justlooking2012

sliverman wrote: »

The vast number of young, new, single mums are exactly that. Most young potential dad's are claiming some form of welfare payment which will only provide for £5 a week towards the upkeep of the child.

There are not that many dad's that actually pay a substantial monthly sum for the maintenance of a child.

So someone has to provide for the child and the new mum, the state will!!

pnerick wrote: »

And I take it you have facts to back up that ridiculous statement!!! . You can't spout !!!!! like that without backing it up fella. You really must spend most of your day up your own backside . I have no facts but I would hazard a reasonable guess that most young fathers (more than 50%) actually do provide for there child . I for instance travel 100 miles to have my daughter , for a weekend every 2 weeks . I pay for her school meals, uniforms for school and anything she needs when she is at my house . I don't work due to breaking my back . Your statement just proves your ignorance . Find out facts before spouting the guff that you have just wrote

This has the be one of the funniest posts I have read on a forum ever, you totally abuse someone for making a statement while yourself kind of proving that the statement may be true :rotfl:
I never normally use smilies but I had to just for you :rotfl:

gerkin

Single 35 year old mother with 4 kids under 16 working 16 hours a week for gross £120 entitled to WEEKLY!!!:

Working Tax Credit £213.96
Child Tax Credit £216.86
Council Tax Benefit £23.33
Housing Benefit. £400.00
Child Benefit. £60.50

Total benefits per week: £914.65

Source: http://www.entitledto.co.uk

The way forward in this country is to live as a single mum, have plenty of kids, work 2 days a week and earn as much as 40K a year tax free.

irishjohn

Big_is_beautiful wrote: »

I think your interpretation is wrong, women don't make decisions that easily, or quite so soon. Saying she will keep it, means exactly that. Anyway, she wasn't asking advice on whether to keep or not, she was asking from a financial point of view.
With respect, a mans opinion on this matter is as the same as asking "What colour socks shall I wear today." Carrying a baby for nine months means she has a long time to think about her options on whether she want the father involved or not.

Maybe you do think my interpretation wrong - I know my suggestions are based on the financial implications - and she is totally free to ignore my suggestions.

Your patronising remarks about men and their socks say much more about you and your attitude to men that they do about me

Big_is_beautiful

irishjohn wrote: »

Maybe you do think my interpretation wrong - I know my suggestions are based on the financial implications - and she is totally free to ignore my suggestions.

Your patronising remarks about men and their socks say much more about you and your attitude to men that they do about me

Whatever!!!!!!!

pnerick

justlooking2012 wrote: »

This has the be one of the funniest posts I have read on a forum ever, you totally abuse someone for making a statement while yourself kind of proving that the statement may be true :rotfl:
I never normally use smilies but I had to just for you :rotfl:

Why do u automatically think I'm on benefits ?. Just because I can't work doesn't mean I don't have an income . Jumping to conclusions. And that is ny whole argument . Making facts up and using them as gospel. If you put some facts there., Then I would hold my hands up . But making a statement like that is just ludicrous .

irishjohn

whatever indeed

Big_is_beautiful

irishjohn wrote: »

whatever indeed

Happy New Year! :beer:

debrag

flight747 wrote: »

She probably abusing the system trying to quit work jump into IS and getting more paid under child tax credit. I know many woman do this way! There is no way a woman can have a baby and doesnt know who the father is! You DO know WHO ARE THE FATHER!!!! U just play the system! They both probably live apart and claimed more money together! It just cheat the system.

You've never seen Jeremy Kyle or Maury then

purple.sarah

Why do these threads always have to devolve into such a mess? This isn't the place for a debate about benefits, start your own thread or join one of the many already existing! The OP is in a difficult situation and asking for some advice!

tanyasharma: Before panicking, check if you are pregnant. Your local sexual health clinic should offer free pregnancy tests and also tests for any STIs you might have been exposed to through unprotected sex. Find out for your peace of mind.

To qualify for Statutory Maternity Pay (SMP) you must:
have worked for your employer for at least 26 weeks up to the 15th week before the expected week of childbirth - known as the ‘qualifying week’
earn on average at least £107 a week
give the correct notice
give proof you’re pregnant

Use the maternity pay calculator to work out the qualifying week and how much you could get.
https://www.gov.uk/statutory-maternity-pay/eligibility

As gerkin helpfully pointed out, http://www.entitledto.co.uk is a good place to find out what you are entitled to.

Don't rule out the father contributing, he should take responsibility too, after all it takes two! I hope things work out for you.