Bit worried!

Big_is_beautiful

bloolagoon wrote: »

For a midwife you don't know much about child related benefits, what the cab help with. What is your definition if a good pregnancy test?

I deliver babies, I don't pay welfare for them, why should I be expected to know that.
My definition of a good pregnancy test is one that can tell if you are pregnant even before your period is missed, they vary in prices depending on accuracy. Sadly, I can't tell whether OP is having a baby just by reading her post!
In relation to maintenance, I was referring to CSA, which only takes the pressure off the welfare system, as if money is paid through them then the mother is paid less benefit equivalent to the maintenance, so in effect she is no better off.

Big_is_beautiful

irishjohn wrote: »

She didn't say she wants to keep the baby - she said she will keep it I interpreted such impersonal language to mean that she is not keen to abort and therefore adoption is a valid suggestion. She sees to have jumped too quickly to the "last resort" of the welfare state and pushed the idea of parental financial responsibilities for the mother and father away too easily. On this basis I felt it appropriate to ensure she had taken other solutions to her problem into account and therefore I see no harm in suggesting adoption.

I think your interpretation is wrong, women don't make decisions that easily, or quite so soon. Saying she will keep it, means exactly that. Anyway, she wasn't asking advice on whether to keep or not, she was asking from a financial point of view.
With respect, a mans opinion on this matter is as the same as asking "What colour socks shall I wear today." Carrying a baby for nine months means she has a long time to think about her options on whether she want the father involved or not.

notanewuser

Big_is_beautiful wrote: »

I deliver babies, I don't pay welfare for them, why should I be expected to know that.
My definition of a good pregnancy test is one that can tell if you are pregnant even before your period is missed, they vary in prices depending on accuracy. Sadly, I can't tell whether OP is having a baby just by reading her post!
In relation to maintenance, I was referring to CSA, which only takes the pressure off the welfare system, as if money is paid through them then the mother is paid less benefit equivalent to the maintenance, so in effect she is no better off.

Not true, hasn't been for a while.

Big_is_beautiful

notanewuser wrote: »

Not true, hasn't been for a while.

I didn't realise, that, I stand corrected. As I said I don't specalise in the welfare system. But maybe they should return to that system then and stop single mums abusing the system and getting double money.

Jox

Have you done a test yet tanyasharma? You might be worried for nothing!

gingergee

Its actually recommended that the "early" tests are not used as they detect chemical pregnancy (google it). Best to wait a few days after AF was due. Whatever OP is going through, she came for help and advice, best thing we can do is give it her in an unbiased fashion. Last thing she needs is the old "why didn't you use something" morality crud.

missmucksmum

http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/maternity-paternity-leave-benefits.aspx#close
HTH xxxx

pnerick

sliverman wrote: »

The vast number of young, new, single mums are exactly that. Most young potential dad's are claiming some form of welfare payment which will only provide for £5 a week towards the upkeep of the child.

There are not that many dad's that actually pay a substantial monthly sum for the maintenance of a child.

So someone has to provide for the child and the new mum, the state will!!

And I take it you have facts to back up that ridiculous statement!!! . You can't spout !!!!! like that without backing it up fella. You really must spend most of your day up your own backside . I have no facts but I would hazard a reasonable guess that most young fathers (more than 50%) actually do provide for there child . I for instance travel 100 miles to have my daughter , for a weekend every 2 weeks . I pay for her school meals, uniforms for school and anything she needs when she is at my house . I don't work due to breaking my back . Your statement just proves your ignorance . Find out facts before spouting the guff that you have just wrote

flight747

She probably abusing the system trying to quit work jump into IS and getting more paid under child tax credit. I know many woman do this way! There is no way a woman can have a baby and doesnt know who the father is! You DO know WHO ARE THE FATHER!!!! U just play the system! They both probably live apart and claimed more money together! It just cheat the system.

gerkin

pnerick wrote: »

And I take it you have facts to back up that ridiculous statement!!! . You can't spout !!!!! like that without backing it up fella. You really must spend most of your day up your own backside . I have no facts but I would hazard a reasonable guess that most young fathers (more than 50%) actually do provide for there child . I for instance travel 100 miles to have my daughter , for a weekend every 2 weeks . I pay for her school meals, uniforms for school and anything she needs when she is at my house . I don't work due to breaking my back . Your statement just proves your ignorance . Find out facts before spouting the guff that you have just wrote

If you dont work, how are you able to pay for all that ?

Oh wait........