DS stabbing teddy

SavingPennies_2

I had my favourite teddy like all children, absolutely adored him took him everywhere and still have him to this day...and yet... everynow and then I would get into a sudden rage with him, fling him off walls, stamp on him, that sort of thing to the extent that he lost his nose (to be replaced by a button). We look back and laugh now at how cruel I was to a teddy that i loved so much and how I would suddenly turn from an angel to a demon!!. Honestly I am a fairly normal adult now who has never physically hurt anyone or anything so I wouldnt worry.

If he was to behave like that to an animal or another person though then I think that is totally different as he is old enough to realise that people and animals actually feel physical and emotional pain.

Goldiegirl

When I was about 3 I would batter a favourite doll.

I don't know where I got the idea from, and in adulthood I've never battered anything (apart for a fish fillet or two).

I was just doing what kids do

pleasedelete

There is a brilliant book- we dont play with guns here. Every mother of a boy should read it. Brief synopsis is

War, weapon and superhero play has been banned in many early childhood settings for over 30 years. This book explores the development and application of a zero tolerance approach through the eyes of children and practitioners.

The author challenges the key rationale for linking aggressive play themes to violent behaviour. She examines play where children are allowed to construct weapons and enact goodies/baddies and superhero scenarios with sensitive adult guidance, and explores the generally positive experiences of children and practitioners. Rather than reading this form of play as the beginning of the slippery slope towards anti-social behaviour, readers are invited to view it as an entry point to imaginative play and social development.

We don't play with guns here is a fascinating and insightful contribution to this area of much debate in the early childhood community. The book is key reading for early childhood practitioners, teachers, students, parents and policy makers.

j.e.j.

fluffnutter wrote: »

My nephew recently got all his sister's dolls and hanged them from the banisters in a ritualised mass execution.

:rotfl::rotfl:

garybarlowsbeard wrote: »

Back to the point, chgrist, seems there's a lot of nutters on here! Did anyone NOT torture a toy when they were a kid on here?

*thinks back to the time when Tiny Tears got hit repeatedly with a table tennis bat* ..:o

OP I don't think you need to worry or book him in for therapy just yet :rotfl: He's just being a boy. They love guns, daggers, swords.. anything remotely violent, unfortunately

Just wait till he's a teen and playing those bl00dy awful computer games. Grand Theft Auto comes to mind.. :eek:

cutestkids

Boys will just do these things whether you want them to or not, I remember a friend telling me that her sons school had banned toy guns, etc from being brought in when all the boys were going through a cowboy stage and playing this every playtime.

Suddenly all the little boys wanted bananas as snacks they werent eating them they were using them as guns to play cowboys with an older boy had pointed out to the little ones that the school can't ban fruit

EmmaHerts

antrobus wrote: »

On the other hand, I've always understood that having an overprotective mother was one of defining characteristics of sociopaths.

Just saying.

This was my first thought after reading the OP.

Spendless

I really wouldn't worry about it. As said boys tend to like their play-fighting roles. I have no brothers, my male cousins were all years younger than me and grew up in a different town and sometimes I'd wonder 'what the .????..' with my own son. Then I'd go to a mates who has 3 lads and grew up with a brother and one of her kids would be doing similar and she'd not bat an eyelid.:D


I don't find taking things from them stops particular play either. A few weeks ago I heard my son (who is nearly 13) say to his sister 'keep still, I'm just trying to work out if this lego catapult gun I've just made works' (rolls eyes)

ska_lover

wapow wrote: »

Way to go on the parenting skills.

You see him holding he dagger and immediately jump to a conclusion and start giving him crap about how the teddy would feel blah blah.

You should have shown a genuine interest in him and the activity he has undertook, indicating innocence to it all, to try and find out what it is he is actually doing. BEFORE making him feel guilty.

So therefore lull them into a false sense of security before pouncing (should there be need).

Yeah that will go a long way to making your child distrust you, and keep secrets..

Mojisola

Counting_Pennies wrote: »

I walked into the living room a while later to find him with a toy dagger standing over the teddy with it pointed at the teddy's throat.

I think you've made quite a jump from "dagger pointed at teddy's throat" to "DS stabbing teddy". I expected a description of teddy's innards being ripped out!

It's worth reading Steve Biddulph's book "Raising Boys" - why boys are different and how to help them become happy and well-balanced men.