Just want to curl up in a ball and die

Barny1979

Another pre-Christmas rant, but just feel my life is slipping away. I'm 33, single and just see life passing me by. I own a house, but I live and work over 90 miles away from it, do not have any friends to call upon, I'm pretty broke and my parents are pretty much housebound, so when I do visit them, it saps the life out of me.

Really selfish post, but just weary of life.:(

nearlyrich

You need a plan...

Things to think about....

What do you want out of life and how are you going to get it?

What can you do in the next month/6 months /year?

Can you sell or rent out your house and move closer to work?

Or change your job to work closer to home?

Why are you broke?

Do you have any siblings to share the load with your parents?

How are you going to make friends? Hobbies? Maybe a course in adult education? People from work?

You can turn this around but you will have to make the effort we can make suggestions and offer encouragement

Yorkie1

Sorry to hear you're so down. Nearlyrich has posted some good questions - I just wanted to sympathise and hope you feel more positive soon.

pink_princess

You need to get out more :-)

You are my age' I wish:rotfl:

Can you try to join some local clubs or take your parents out some way?

Life really is what you make it x

happyhaddock_2

I think this time of year really amplifies any feelings of discontent and can make even the strongest person feel down. You are expected to be happy and everything has to be perfect, when life just isnt like that.

I hope you manage to pick yourself up and that 2013 will be a better year for you. I, like many people I know, will very glad to see the back of 2012 and am looking forward to a bright, shiny new year x

Barny1979

I was positive at the start of the year, back to how I felt a year ago, feel like I'm going through the motions in life. Mum is agorophobic and Dad struggles with his sight.

gjb1503

Hi,

Just looking at your signature shows that you have been a pretty motivated and determined person before now - and you will be able to call on that attitude again.

With regards to being single - get yourself on a free dating site! Worked for me - been with my other half for 5 years now and very happy

aliasojo

Life feels like a complete and utter biatch sometimes doesn't it?!

Once you get into the 'woe is me' way of thinking, it's really hard to see how you could change things.

What would you like from life? When you're sat wishing things were different, do you have any pictures in your head as to what you would like things to be like?

marisco_2

The house that you own 90 miles from where you live and work, is it being rented out? Does it bring you in a decent income? Or would you be better off selling it and buying property where you are based? Are you happy where you are or could a move to somewhere new bring about a fresh start and the chance to make new friends and improve your social life?

It seems like the only people who are dependant on you are your parents. Are there any siblings who can share the load with looking out for them? At 33 you have years ahead of you to settle down and meet someone. The world is your oyster. Get out into it and carve out a life for yourself that makes you happy and enables you to feel fulfilled and content.

Unfortunately you are the only person who can make your life happy. Something it took me way to long to learn. Until you are happy in yourself and with your lot, it makes being happy with anyone else very difficult.

motherofstudents

Being a carer is very hard and when it is your parents there is a kind of role reversal. There is help but you need to ask for it. Have you spoken to your GP? I would do that in the first instance, it will be the first step to you feeling better. Life is hard sometimes but things can get better and you are still young, don't give up.

jd87

A quick look at your posting history shows you are making a lot of positive steps - you are making plans to rent out the house and you are trying out dating sites. Seems to me like you won't be broke or single much longer!

Seeing as you have already got plans in place to turn things around, that probably means it feels like you don't have anything else to work on right now, so maybe you're a bit bored? I get most depressed whenever I don't feel like I have a task to work on. Get an interest. An easy interest that anyone can do is going to a gym. Do you already go to a gym? It's not necessarily as expensive as it used to be, and it could help on the dating front too. Chin up mate.